sibling impact

[Guest guest]

Hi,how do your children reconcile with their aggressive sibling? What

kind of relationship do they have? My daughter did not want to visit

her brother at his hospital program. She is 10 and stated " visiting

him is a hard question " . She opted not to. Since he has been

hospitalized she has gone from concern and defending him to

distancing. For 6 days before my son was hospitalized my children had

to use their safety plan. My son became very aggressive and

hit,kicked and bit. All of my family experienced some degree of

physical pain and witnessed some. My daughter has been given gifts

and had attention from the school and from friends for being a victim

of my sons aggression. She has been told alot of negative things as

well in regards to her brother. Her friend was allowed to play at our

house and picnic with her. It was the first time in a long time. Not

once have the people supporting her voiced any care or concern for my

son. Just insulting questions,half truths and rumors have been going

around. My other children have made dual comments also. They have

voiced concern and relief during this time. They are enjoying the

break from my son. I feel some relief also but as his mom this is

tearing me up inside. I dont believe my son is feeling relief. He did

not act out in aggression because he had control,gain issues or

results in mind. Everyone interacting with my children look past my

sons struggle with autism,medications ect. right to domestic

violence. They are giving sympathy and support to my children for

being victims of domestic violence. This is driving me insane. Am I

missing something here or having denial?

Tishanne