Re: Epiphany -Warning Long

[Guest guest]

Hi Kristi glad to here you are taking good care of yourself , because you

deserve it .

before I had this surgery I went through therapy. for 3 years I started out

going to a psychologist he then told me he did not use drugs in his therapy

but he felt I needed them so he sent me to see a psychiatrist. who did a

number of test then put me on Prozac. this changed my life. I then spent the

next two years going to both DR.s by weekly .

during this time I learned to like my self and to stop using my weight as a

crutch . so why did I want to have this surgery my health was slowly going

down hill . I don't know if I could have had a revision if I had not come to

terms with my weight I spent over 10 years blaming my self for failing at

the first surgery . and believing I deserved to be fat and unhappy. I feel

that most over weight people have beat themselves up so much that therapy is

a great idea even if it is just to have someone listen to you without

judgement . sorry so long

Amber In Hawaii

gastric stapling 1989 lost 40#

D.S. July 8th 2002

starting wt 287 size 26

wt at 8 months 180 size 14

Epiphany -Warning Long

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> Back to the epiphany: I have just realised why, despite losing weight, I

am

> still unhappy. This is because I always thought I was unhappy and didnt

> like my life BECAUSE I was fat. And now I am not fat, I have to realise

> that I am still unhappy..and that it is about me (inside) and was never

> about the fat. Dont get me wrong..I never want to be 280 again but I now

> know fat wasnt my main issue.

>

> What am I going to do: I have just made an appointment to see a shrink

once

> a week. > So, now I am finally thinking I may see the light at the end of

the tunnel.

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[Guest guest]

Hi Kristy!

Wow! I am so happy that reading " The Confessions..... " helped you to gain

perspective and insight into your life and your relationship with food. I am

glad that you are perceptive enough to do the right things to get you on

track and keep you there!

I also congratulate you on your exercise! Way to go, Girl!

Hugs and blessings, Ann

[Guest guest]

Kristy...your epiphany brings up an excellent topic. Losing weight

does not solve all our problems. We can be Happy about losing weight

but is does not MAKE us happy. It does not fix broken

relationships. Make us good cooks or housekeepers...better

drivers..lol.

We have to WORK on our inner selves...I am so very proud of you for

taking steps to do just that. Exercising is one the the best things

you can do to help with depression type feelings...running is

excellent as it releases all those wonderful endorphins...talk about

a natural high!

Hugs...I'm proud of you today!

Jo

[Guest guest]

Hi Amber!

Thanks for the insightful post. I think you have hit the nail on the head in

that the obese beat up on themselves so much. I admire your honesty!

Hugs and blessings, Ann