Re: school related anxiety

[Guest guest]

Hi, Rain. Welcome to the group. I have two daughters, both with OCD. My

youngest one was seven when she was diagnosed and she was very afraid to go to

school. I basically worked in her classroom for months so that we wouldn't

have to deal with her being too afraid to go to school. Her doctor was thrilled

with the arrangement. We had some firm rules--she couldn't cling to me, tell

on the teacher, or stay in with me at recess, etc--and was very good

about it. How often does your son call? Is the school okay with it? Does

calling you make him better or worse? If calling you helps and you don't feel

that he is abusing it, I think it's great. These kids are different and the

normal standards don't apply. His fears are real and if he can make it through

the day by talking to you once in awhile, I don't know what harm there is in it

right now. If he calls you every fifteen minutes and cries afterwards, it

might not be such a good thing but it doesn't sound like the case to me. As

his

treatment progresses, you'll be able to cut back on the phone calls. He

probably won't want to call once his anxiety is down. Good luck and keep us

posted! Kelley in NV

[Guest guest]

Thank's to everyone who has replied to my message. It's nice to hear from people

who have been through similar situations. My son usually calls twice a day. The

teacher is fine with it and says he seems better afterwards. I don't mind giving

him the reassurance and I think it makes him more functionable in school right

now. He's a kid that cares a lot about what other kids think and I feel that if

he wasn't truly needing to call ,he wouldn't because he'd be too embarrassed to

do so in front of his friends. He has to use the phone in the classroom.

Thank's again,

Rain

Re: school related anxiety

Hi, Rain. Welcome to the group. I have two daughters, both with OCD. My

youngest one was seven when she was diagnosed and she was very afraid to go to

school. I basically worked in her classroom for months so that we wouldn't

have to deal with her being too afraid to go to school. Her doctor was

thrilled

with the arrangement. We had some firm rules--she couldn't cling to me, tell

on the teacher, or stay in with me at recess, etc--and was very good

about it. How often does your son call? Is the school okay with it? Does

calling you make him better or worse? If calling you helps and you don't feel

that he is abusing it, I think it's great. These kids are different and the

normal standards don't apply. His fears are real and if he can make it

through

the day by talking to you once in awhile, I don't know what harm there is in

it

right now. If he calls you every fifteen minutes and cries afterwards, it

might not be such a good thing but it doesn't sound like the case to me. As

his

treatment progresses, you'll be able to cut back on the phone calls. He

probably won't want to call once his anxiety is down. Good luck and keep us

posted! Kelley in NV

[Guest guest]

Hi Rain,

Why don't you call Stanford and ask for a recommendation for a therapist?

They have a research program in OCD there and would certainly know someone.

I'm assuming they wouldn't mind your asking. Also I know there is someone in

Berkeley who is quite good - if I remember the name I'll tell you. You could

ask for a recommendation at UCSF as well, I think.

Hope this helps a little!

in NV

p.s. my in-laws are in Sonoma County - we're there a lot. What a nice place.

[Guest guest]

He's a kid that cares a lot about what other

kids think and I feel that if he wasn't truly needing to call ,he

wouldn't because he'd be too embarrassed to do so in front of his

friends. He has to use the phone in the classroom.

RAIN, the above certainly says a lot about what he's going through.

And, for me, I don't think twice a day is bad at all! I hope - and

really do hope! - that this eventually eases up on him as it did for

my . Wanting to " get over it " is certainly a big help I think.

Keep us updated on how things go with him/you!

> Thank's to everyone who has replied to my message. It's nice to

hear from people who have been through similar situations. My son

usually calls twice a day. The teacher is fine with it and says he

seems better afterwards. I don't mind giving him the reassurance and

I think it makes him more functionable in school right now. He's a

kid that cares a lot about what other kids think and I feel that if

[Guest guest]

I think you are doing the right thing for your son. Calling twice a day is

not too often in my opinion and it is working. He's lucky to have an

understanding mom like you to get him through this! Kelley in NV