Guest guest Posted August 5, 2004 Report Share Posted August 5, 2004 I am wondering how you deal with anxiety re: school. We don't start back for another 3.5 weeks but 's life has been taken over by anxiety. She is 14 and is going into her last year at Middle School. She was teased a bit last year and received an e-mail over the summer from a girl who was really nasty ... Mel is now convinced that they will hurt her and is determined not to go. She wants to change schools but I truly do not think that will help (maybe w/ this particular child but not her anxiety re: school in general). What to do??? Any ideas?? Peek-A-Boo Playhouse Where childhood is a journey not a race Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 5, 2004 Report Share Posted August 5, 2004 Hi , Wow, I remember those days and the bullying, and I'm 46! ((hugs)) to your daughter!! If isn't totally against this idea - I would meet with the school principal and guidance counselor and set the problem before them. They could check the schedules, make sure that Mel isn't in any classes with the girl(s), etc., and change them if she is. Does she have any close friends that will be at school with her? We had a similar problem one year with a boy in my older son's class. Luckily it was a temporary thing, the kid got over being mad at my son (they had been friends). But my son was really stressed by the threats being made to him and didn't want to go to school. I talked to his teachers, told them I wanted " no one " to know I'd talked to them (even my son) and they were really great at doing little things to keep the two apart. They would make sure that bathroom breaks weren't at the same time, send my son out of class early on some " errand " to do on the way to his next class (so they wouldn't be in the hall together), things like that. But, as I said, this blew over luckily. Are they familiar with your daughter and her having OCD? If so, perhaps you can also tell the school how all the anxiety/stress can possibly make her OCD a lot worse, etc. I wish I had " the " answer for you! single mom, 3 sons , 15, with OCD, dysgraphia and Aspergers > I am wondering how you deal with anxiety re: school. We don't start back for another 3.5 weeks but 's life has been taken over by anxiety. She is 14 and is going into her last year at Middle School. She was teased a bit last year and received an e-mail over the summer from a girl who was really nasty ... Mel is now convinced that they will hurt her and is determined not to go. She wants to change schools but I truly do not think that will help (maybe w/ this particular child but not her anxiety re: school in general). What to do??? Any ideas?? > > > > > > > Peek-A-Boo Playhouse > > Where childhood is a journey not a race > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 6, 2004 Report Share Posted August 6, 2004 I told Mel, yesterday that we were going to have a " little chat " w/ her counselor before school starts! Thanks for the reminder. does have one close friend but I am afraid that she is putting all of her eggs in one basket (as is the other girl) and that is not healthy either. wrote: Hi , Wow, I remember those days and the bullying, and I'm 46! ((hugs)) to your daughter!! If isn't totally against this idea - I would meet with the school principal and guidance counselor and set the problem before them. They could check the schedules, make sure that Mel isn't in any classes with the girl(s), etc., and change them if she is. Does she have any close friends that will be at school with her? We had a similar problem one year with a boy in my older son's class. Luckily it was a temporary thing, the kid got over being mad at my son (they had been friends). But my son was really stressed by the threats being made to him and didn't want to go to school. I talked to his teachers, told them I wanted " no one " to know I'd talked to them (even my son) and they were really great at doing little things to keep the two apart. They would make sure that bathroom breaks weren't at the same time, send my son out of class early on some " errand " to do on the way to his next class (so they wouldn't be in the hall together), things like that. But, as I said, this blew over luckily. Are they familiar with your daughter and her having OCD? If so, perhaps you can also tell the school how all the anxiety/stress can possibly make her OCD a lot worse, etc. I wish I had " the " answer for you! single mom, 3 sons , 15, with OCD, dysgraphia and Aspergers > I am wondering how you deal with anxiety re: school. We don't start back for another 3.5 weeks but 's life has been taken over by anxiety. She is 14 and is going into her last year at Middle School. She was teased a bit last year and received an e-mail over the summer from a girl who was really nasty ... Mel is now convinced that they will hurt her and is determined not to go. She wants to change schools but I truly do not think that will help (maybe w/ this particular child but not her anxiety re: school in general). What to do??? Any ideas?? > > > > > > > Peek-A-Boo Playhouse > > Where childhood is a journey not a race > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 14, 2004 Report Share Posted August 14, 2004 > I am wondering how you deal with anxiety re: school. We don't start back for another 3.5 weeks but 's life has been taken over by anxiety. She is 14 and is going into her last year at Middle School. She was teased a bit last year and received an e-mail over the summer from a girl who was really nasty ... Mel is now convinced that they will hurt her and is determined not to go. She wants to change schools but I truly do not think that will help (maybe w/ this particular child but not her anxiety re: school in general). What to do??? Any ideas?? > > > > > > > Peek-A-Boo Playhouse > > Where childhood is a journey not a race > > > > Hi , I know how cruel kids can be. My son is 14. You hopefully have a strong school support system. Go and arrange a meeting with her counciler and teachers. Explain the situation. They can draw up a 504 plan or IEP if needed. I have been using a 504 plan since my son entered middle school and this year he will be in high school. Remember you are your child's biggest advacate! Good Luck. Any questions feel free to email me. Marilyn in PA > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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