Guest guest Posted October 15, 2008 Report Share Posted October 15, 2008 Thank you. Wish I could have helped. I think that a lot of times those involved in the meetings have so many students that they are trying to work with that they may forget the individule, the picture seems to remind them of exactly who it is thet they are there for. > > > > > > > > > > > > Hi everyone,my son is 16 in 11th grade. The school has been > > > > sending > > > > > > him home to eliminate chances of meltdowns or as a > precaution > > > > > should > > > > > > he meltdown. Once for having a cell phone. I always have > him > > > > carry > > > > > > one. There is a new law prohibiting electronic devices on > > > school > > > > > > grounds. My son would not hand over the cell phone. I spoke > > by > > > > > phone > > > > > > to the new principle and told him the school could not keep > > the > > > > > cell > > > > > > phone. The principle informed me they would indeed keep it > > for > > > > > > violation of this new law. I asked him to hand my son a > copy > > of > > > > the > > > > > > new law and I would go over it with him at home. In truth > we > > > > had'nt > > > > > > seen or read the new law in print or heard of it. All the > > years > > > > > prior > > > > > > my son could have his cell phone on his person on school > > > grounds > > > > so > > > > > > he could contact me at anytime,anyplace, he could contact me > > had > > > a > > > > > > good relationship with the old principle,old staff also. I > > > > > explained > > > > > > to the new principle my son is on the spectrum,hfa- to t > > and > > > > the > > > > > > purpose of the cell phone. He was not aware but would make > no > > > > > > allowances in regards to the phone. The principle also told > > me > > > > that > > > > > > he called police once he confiscated the cell phone and had > > > > > officers > > > > > > tap,read text, info and phone numbers and pictures and > > download > > > > > them > > > > > > off the phone before he contacted me. The phone was > returned > > to > > > > me > > > > > > after a much heated conversation under threat of permanent > > > > > > confiscation should my son bring it on school grounds agin. > > The > > > > > next > > > > > > day my son went to the hs sports game,he watches them > > all{did}. > > > > He > > > > > > was to pay the asb cost to get in. The secretary made the > > > > > arrangement > > > > > > with him according to our income. He paid and was escorted > > off > > > > the > > > > > > property for not paying full price. He got mad at the > > attending > > > > > > escort teacher while trying to explain or request his money > > > back. > > > > > His > > > > > > money was not refunded,he was mad. His attitude with the > > > teacher > > > > > got > > > > > > him a write up for a day of suspension. Then he went and > used > > > the > > > > > > bathroom before leaving the grounds and got in trouble for > > > being > > > > on > > > > > > school grounds without permission. He got suspended from > > > > attending > > > > > > games,functions. The next day he was sent home after having > > > words > > > > > > with a bully,a few bullies. One was a bully girl he had > words > > > > with > > > > > > and some guys came to her rescue. It ended up a fight > threat. > > > My > > > > > son > > > > > > was sent home. Now this keeps happening. The school sends > him > > > > home > > > > > > for his angry words with bullies. Some kid said he will > kick > > my > > > > > > sons....my son is now spending more time home then in > school. > > > My > > > > > son > > > > > > does not want the 2hr ged class. He wants full time with > > > > > graduation. > > > > > > He says some of the teachers,principle are being rude to > him > > > now. > > > > > The > > > > > > school says he needs to think about his reactions,peers > ect. > > > and > > > > so > > > > > > the outcome rests with my son. He had a neuro break down in > > > > > > elementary in the past from school stress. It was a long > road > > > to > > > > > his > > > > > > recovery and we homeschooled for years until he was ready > to > > > > > attempt > > > > > > mainstream agin. He went back a year ahead after testing in > > the > > > > 8th > > > > > > grade. The school has said year after year my son is very > > > > quite,non- > > > > > > reactive and shows no emotion. They are always worried > about > > > this > > > > > > aspect of his behavior but have got to know him enough to > > know > > > he > > > > > > rarely speaks and shows no emotional reaction. He got > sexual > > > > > > harrassment filed in school last year for flipping a girl > off > > > > after > > > > > > she pranked him with a joke date invitation. He feels > > rejected > > > > for > > > > > > being sent home now. He sounds very upset when he calls > from > > > the > > > > > > office and is being sent home,almost panic voice. The > changes > > > > > > followed my discussion with the new principle. My son has > > never > > > > > been > > > > > > sent home prior in any situation at school that may or may > > not > > > > > cause > > > > > > a meltdown. He has not had a meltdown in school. He has a > > > glitch > > > > > > about going on mondays, for years. The school excuses those > > > > > absences > > > > > > as needed. How should I approach this? Now I am worried > that > > I > > > > > > alarmed the principle by telling him my son has > hfa,asperger. > > I > > > > > cant > > > > > > really say my son will never,ever meltdown in school. My > son > > is > > > > 6ft > > > > > > and 165. He did not qualify for an iep. His grades were all > > As > > > > and > > > > > > one D. He thinks he will get bad grades now and is even > more > > > > > stressed > > > > > > out. I think his size and silence adds to their worry. He > has > > > > gone > > > > > 4 > > > > > > full days in almost 2 weeks. > > > > > > What do you think I could say or try? > > > > > > Tishanne > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > **************New MapQuest Local shows what's happening at your destination. > Dining, Movies, Events, News & more. Try it out > (http://local.mapquest.com/?ncid=emlcntnew00000002) > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 15, 2008 Report Share Posted October 15, 2008 , Why do you think my son seems to be in a fog when he is at school that he has been at for four years and at home he is my normal happy in touch with reality child at home? He understands everything I say to him even though he cannot verbally communiate totally but follows thru with commands? Thanks for your input. Kathy > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Hi everyone,my son is 16 in 11th grade. The school has > been > > > > > sending > > > > > > > him home to eliminate chances of meltdowns or as a > > precaution > > > > > > should > > > > > > > he meltdown. Once for having a cell phone. I always have > > him > > > > > carry > > > > > > > one. There is a new law prohibiting electronic devices > on > > > > school > > > > > > > grounds. My son would not hand over the cell phone. I > spoke > > > by > > > > > > phone > > > > > > > to the new principle and told him the school could not > keep > > > the > > > > > > cell > > > > > > > phone. The principle informed me they would indeed keep > it > > > for > > > > > > > violation of this new law. I asked him to hand my son a > > copy > > > of > > > > > the > > > > > > > new law and I would go over it with him at home. In > truth > > we > > > > > had'nt > > > > > > > seen or read the new law in print or heard of it. All > the > > > years > > > > > > prior > > > > > > > my son could have his cell phone on his person on school > > > > grounds > > > > > so > > > > > > > he could contact me at anytime,anyplace, he could > contact me > > > had > > > > a > > > > > > > good relationship with the old principle,old staff also. > I > > > > > > explained > > > > > > > to the new principle my son is on the spectrum,hfa- to t > > > and > > > > > the > > > > > > > purpose of the cell phone. He was not aware but would > make > > no > > > > > > > allowances in regards to the phone. The principle also > told > > > me > > > > > that > > > > > > > he called police once he confiscated the cell phone and > had > > > > > > officers > > > > > > > tap,read text, info and phone numbers and pictures and > > > download > > > > > > them > > > > > > > off the phone before he contacted me. The phone was > > returned > > > to > > > > > me > > > > > > > after a much heated conversation under threat of > permanent > > > > > > > confiscation should my son bring it on school grounds > agin. > > > The > > > > > > next > > > > > > > day my son went to the hs sports game,he watches them > > > all{did}. > > > > > He > > > > > > > was to pay the asb cost to get in. The secretary made > the > > > > > > arrangement > > > > > > > with him according to our income. He paid and was > escorted > > > off > > > > > the > > > > > > > property for not paying full price. He got mad at the > > > attending > > > > > > > escort teacher while trying to explain or request his > money > > > > back. > > > > > > His > > > > > > > money was not refunded,he was mad. His attitude with > the > > > > teacher > > > > > > got > > > > > > > him a write up for a day of suspension. Then he went and > > used > > > > the > > > > > > > bathroom before leaving the grounds and got in trouble > for > > > > being > > > > > on > > > > > > > school grounds without permission. He got suspended > from > > > > > attending > > > > > > > games,functions. The next day he was sent home after > having > > > > words > > > > > > > with a bully,a few bullies. One was a bully girl he had > > words > > > > > with > > > > > > > and some guys came to her rescue. It ended up a fight > > threat. > > > > My > > > > > > son > > > > > > > was sent home. Now this keeps happening. The school > sends > > him > > > > > home > > > > > > > for his angry words with bullies. Some kid said he will > > kick > > > my > > > > > > > sons....my son is now spending more time home then in > > school. > > > > My > > > > > > son > > > > > > > does not want the 2hr ged class. He wants full time > with > > > > > > graduation. > > > > > > > He says some of the teachers,principle are being rude to > > him > > > > now. > > > > > > The > > > > > > > school says he needs to think about his reactions,peers > > ect. > > > > and > > > > > so > > > > > > > the outcome rests with my son. He had a neuro break down > in > > > > > > > elementary in the past from school stress. It was a long > > road > > > > to > > > > > > his > > > > > > > recovery and we homeschooled for years until he was > ready > > to > > > > > > attempt > > > > > > > mainstream agin. He went back a year ahead after testing > in > > > the > > > > > 8th > > > > > > > grade. The school has said year after year my son is > very > > > > > quite,non- > > > > > > > reactive and shows no emotion. They are always worried > > about > > > > this > > > > > > > aspect of his behavior but have got to know him enough > to > > > know > > > > he > > > > > > > rarely speaks and shows no emotional reaction. He got > > sexual > > > > > > > harrassment filed in school last year for flipping a > girl > > off > > > > > after > > > > > > > she pranked him with a joke date invitation. He feels > > > rejected > > > > > for > > > > > > > being sent home now. He sounds very upset when he calls > > from > > > > the > > > > > > > office and is being sent home,almost panic voice. The > > changes > > > > > > > followed my discussion with the new principle. My son > has > > > never > > > > > > been > > > > > > > sent home prior in any situation at school that may or > may > > > not > > > > > > cause > > > > > > > a meltdown. He has not had a meltdown in school. He has > a > > > > glitch > > > > > > > about going on mondays, for years. The school excuses > those > > > > > > absences > > > > > > > as needed. How should I approach this? Now I am worried > > that > > > I > > > > > > > alarmed the principle by telling him my son has > > hfa,asperger. > > > I > > > > > > cant > > > > > > > really say my son will never,ever meltdown in school. My > > son > > > is > > > > > 6ft > > > > > > > and 165. He did not qualify for an iep. His grades were > all > > > As > > > > > and > > > > > > > one D. He thinks he will get bad grades now and is even > > more > > > > > > stressed > > > > > > > out. I think his size and silence adds to their worry. > He > > has > > > > > gone > > > > > > 4 > > > > > > > full days in almost 2 weeks. > > > > > > > What do you think I could say or try? > > > > > > > Tishanne > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > **************New MapQuest Local shows what's happening at your > destination. > > Dining, Movies, Events, News & more. Try it out > > (http://local.mapquest.com/?ncid=emlcntnew00000002) > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 15, 2008 Report Share Posted October 15, 2008 Kathy, Thats a question that could have a lot of different answers. How old is your son? What grade or class is he in? Is he on any meds? What is he/they doing in class? The answer to these questions should be able to lead you to the answer to your question. Hope this helps you a little. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Hi everyone,my son is 16 in 11th grade. The school has > > been > > > > > > sending > > > > > > > > him home to eliminate chances of meltdowns or as a > > > precaution > > > > > > > should > > > > > > > > he meltdown. Once for having a cell phone. I always > have > > > him > > > > > > carry > > > > > > > > one. There is a new law prohibiting electronic devices > > on > > > > > school > > > > > > > > grounds. My son would not hand over the cell phone. I > > spoke > > > > by > > > > > > > phone > > > > > > > > to the new principle and told him the school could not > > keep > > > > the > > > > > > > cell > > > > > > > > phone. The principle informed me they would indeed > keep > > it > > > > for > > > > > > > > violation of this new law. I asked him to hand my son > a > > > copy > > > > of > > > > > > the > > > > > > > > new law and I would go over it with him at home. In > > truth > > > we > > > > > > had'nt > > > > > > > > seen or read the new law in print or heard of it. All > > the > > > > years > > > > > > > prior > > > > > > > > my son could have his cell phone on his person on > school > > > > > grounds > > > > > > so > > > > > > > > he could contact me at anytime,anyplace, he could > > contact me > > > > had > > > > > a > > > > > > > > good relationship with the old principle,old staff > also. > > I > > > > > > > explained > > > > > > > > to the new principle my son is on the spectrum,hfa- > to t > > > > and > > > > > > the > > > > > > > > purpose of the cell phone. He was not aware but would > > make > > > no > > > > > > > > allowances in regards to the phone. The principle also > > told > > > > me > > > > > > that > > > > > > > > he called police once he confiscated the cell phone > and > > had > > > > > > > officers > > > > > > > > tap,read text, info and phone numbers and pictures and > > > > download > > > > > > > them > > > > > > > > off the phone before he contacted me. The phone was > > > returned > > > > to > > > > > > me > > > > > > > > after a much heated conversation under threat of > > permanent > > > > > > > > confiscation should my son bring it on school grounds > > agin. > > > > The > > > > > > > next > > > > > > > > day my son went to the hs sports game,he watches them > > > > all{did}. > > > > > > He > > > > > > > > was to pay the asb cost to get in. The secretary made > > the > > > > > > > arrangement > > > > > > > > with him according to our income. He paid and was > > escorted > > > > off > > > > > > the > > > > > > > > property for not paying full price. He got mad at the > > > > attending > > > > > > > > escort teacher while trying to explain or request his > > money > > > > > back. > > > > > > > His > > > > > > > > money was not refunded,he was mad. His attitude with > > the > > > > > teacher > > > > > > > got > > > > > > > > him a write up for a day of suspension. Then he went > and > > > used > > > > > the > > > > > > > > bathroom before leaving the grounds and got in trouble > > for > > > > > being > > > > > > on > > > > > > > > school grounds without permission. He got suspended > > from > > > > > > attending > > > > > > > > games,functions. The next day he was sent home after > > having > > > > > words > > > > > > > > with a bully,a few bullies. One was a bully girl he > had > > > words > > > > > > with > > > > > > > > and some guys came to her rescue. It ended up a fight > > > threat. > > > > > My > > > > > > > son > > > > > > > > was sent home. Now this keeps happening. The school > > sends > > > him > > > > > > home > > > > > > > > for his angry words with bullies. Some kid said he > will > > > kick > > > > my > > > > > > > > sons....my son is now spending more time home then in > > > school. > > > > > My > > > > > > > son > > > > > > > > does not want the 2hr ged class. He wants full time > > with > > > > > > > graduation. > > > > > > > > He says some of the teachers,principle are being rude > to > > > him > > > > > now. > > > > > > > The > > > > > > > > school says he needs to think about his > reactions,peers > > > ect. > > > > > and > > > > > > so > > > > > > > > the outcome rests with my son. He had a neuro break > down > > in > > > > > > > > elementary in the past from school stress. It was a > long > > > road > > > > > to > > > > > > > his > > > > > > > > recovery and we homeschooled for years until he was > > ready > > > to > > > > > > > attempt > > > > > > > > mainstream agin. He went back a year ahead after > testing > > in > > > > the > > > > > > 8th > > > > > > > > grade. The school has said year after year my son is > > very > > > > > > quite,non- > > > > > > > > reactive and shows no emotion. They are always worried > > > about > > > > > this > > > > > > > > aspect of his behavior but have got to know him enough > > to > > > > know > > > > > he > > > > > > > > rarely speaks and shows no emotional reaction. He got > > > sexual > > > > > > > > harrassment filed in school last year for flipping a > > girl > > > off > > > > > > after > > > > > > > > she pranked him with a joke date invitation. He feels > > > > rejected > > > > > > for > > > > > > > > being sent home now. He sounds very upset when he > calls > > > from > > > > > the > > > > > > > > office and is being sent home,almost panic voice. The > > > changes > > > > > > > > followed my discussion with the new principle. My son > > has > > > > never > > > > > > > been > > > > > > > > sent home prior in any situation at school that may or > > may > > > > not > > > > > > > cause > > > > > > > > a meltdown. He has not had a meltdown in school. He > has > > a > > > > > glitch > > > > > > > > about going on mondays, for years. The school excuses > > those > > > > > > > absences > > > > > > > > as needed. How should I approach this? Now I am > worried > > > that > > > > I > > > > > > > > alarmed the principle by telling him my son has > > > hfa,asperger. > > > > I > > > > > > > cant > > > > > > > > really say my son will never,ever meltdown in school. > My > > > son > > > > is > > > > > > 6ft > > > > > > > > and 165. He did not qualify for an iep. His grades > were > > all > > > > As > > > > > > and > > > > > > > > one D. He thinks he will get bad grades now and is > even > > > more > > > > > > > stressed > > > > > > > > out. I think his size and silence adds to their worry. > > He > > > has > > > > > > gone > > > > > > > 4 > > > > > > > > full days in almost 2 weeks. > > > > > > > > What do you think I could say or try? > > > > > > > > Tishanne > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > **************New MapQuest Local shows what's happening at your > > destination. > > > Dining, Movies, Events, News & more. Try it out > > > (http://local.mapquest.com/?ncid=emlcntnew00000002) > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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