Guest guest Posted January 27, 2004 Report Share Posted January 27, 2004 Lori, Sorry she had such a bad return! How good is her guidance counselor? I'd be on the phone to ours and be very explicit with what was NOT followed in her IEP and that you will be following up with a letter. THEN write the letter and copy the principal and the school system Special Ed Director. Really, I think sometimes schools & /or teachers just will not follow through and that the supervisors (principal or school system directors) either don't " know " what is going on, perhaps don't care, but will sure follow up when it's in writing. Reason being, the next step would be to follow up with the state director and you have your previous letter that the school ignored. Makes a LOT of paperwork for the school personnel, they hate that. Once you start having a " paper trail " on things, both good and bad, you have your " case " for when things are not being followed. OK, that's MY vent but make sure you emphasize how your daughter's stress and anxiety were definitely NOT being reduced today. And if you can come up with a better scenario as to how the teachers SHOULD have handled things or what should have been said, throw that in. (sometimes I can, sometimes I can't!) Keep us updated on all! > Hi > I am at a loss as to what to do, my 17 yr old made it to Lab Chem today > a major accomplishment,after 4 mo of home instruction, the teacher didnt > speak to her except to inform her she got a 70 on her mid term (not her usual > work), the band teacher presured her for a tape > she has to record to make up a missed concert because she was having a > pychiatric crisis(have note etc) she came home so totally stressed it cant be good > for her > Her IEP says specifically to reduce stress and anxiety when returning from > prolonged absenses,what a joke, they are increasing anxiety. This is her > senior year > so she needs to try to be in school but I really want to yank her out, > however since > she just got accepted to college probably not a good idea. > Thanks for listening Lori > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 28, 2004 Report Share Posted January 28, 2004 Lori, I'm so sorry that the teachers weren't more understanding with your daugther. They obviously do not get how hard it must have been for her to return to school. is right, start a fuss and make a paper trail! Kelley in NV Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 28, 2004 Report Share Posted January 28, 2004 hi we had similar prob with chior last yr, these teachers have no clue as to the impact and potential damage they are doing Lori Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 28, 2004 Report Share Posted January 28, 2004 Hi Geri, My daughter, Billie is 12 1/2. Although she is a very bright kid we made a concious choice not to send her to the large (2,400 students grades 7-12) exam school that her older sister attends. We were fairly certain that she would do better in a smaller, more supportive environment. Her public elementary school was very small, about 140 kids K-8. We felt that she would get very lost and overwhelmed in a big school. She started 7th grade at a private school this fall. It's about 425 kids grades 6-12. The teachers have all been very supportive of her and she is doing quite well. Kids seem more accepting of differences there than at her elementary school too. There is at least one other girl in the middle school who also has OCD and she and Billie have both been comfortable sharing this information with classmates. I think it would probably really depend on the school. There are probably some larger schools that would be supportive and some smaller and/or private schools that might not be. What does your daughter want? Does she feel connected to a group of friends at her current school? Would switching be upsetting to her or would she welcome a change? Kathy on 1/28/04 10:07 AM, Geri Penn at sharkmom2000@... wrote: > Hi, > > Just needed to throw a couple of questions out there. Our daughter is 13 and > in middle school and has OCD. She goes to a fairly large middle school . My > husband and I had thought maybe if we put her in a smaller private or charter > school this may help her. > > Has anyone done this and what were the results? Also her therapist seems to > not make much of a deal about my daughters comments of suicidal thoughts. Is > that part of the process to keep her from obsessing about them. My husband > and I get concerned about this. > Just wanted to know your thoughts. > > Sharkmom > Geri Penn wrote: > -- Kathy Mac LICSW kathymac45@... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 31, 2004 Report Share Posted January 31, 2004 HI Lorie: Hugs to you and your daughter. I am so sorry to hear that the teachers were not reinforcing her achievements in school. Have you discussed this with the student support team/IEP team or whatever group the school has who reviews your daughter's educational progress? What we found was that there were so many teachers that not all could make it to a meeting where we would discuss suitable reinforcements in a situation such as you describe. So it was difficult to keep everyone on the same page. Getting our son's CBT therapist/psychologist to attend meetings with the school to outline tactics to be used with these transitions helped us. Good luck, please keep us posted about your daughter's progress. I hope she can look forward to college and recognize that her high school days will soon be behind her and more exciting and fun things lie ahead. Take care, aloha, kathy (h) kathy.hi@... -- In , swirl3080@a... wrote: > Hi > I am at a loss as to what to do, my 17 yr old made it to Lab Chem today > a major accomplishment,after 4 mo of home instruction, the teacher didnt > speak to her except to inform her she got a 70 on her mid term (not her usual > work), the band teacher presured her for a tape > she has to record to make up a missed concert because she was having a > pychiatric crisis(have note etc) she came home so totally stressed it cant be good > for her > Her IEP says specifically to reduce stress and anxiety when returning from > prolonged absenses,what a joke, they are increasing anxiety. This is her > senior year > so she needs to try to be in school but I really want to yank her out, > however since > she just got accepted to college probably not a good idea. > Thanks for listening Lori Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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