Guest guest Posted May 20, 2000 Report Share Posted May 20, 2000 In a message dated 5/20/00 7:11:43 PM Eastern Daylight Time, duffyjj@... writes: << Carla Duffy MO Maggie (3 3/4 mds) >> hugs to you both......... I to have the active independant strong willed dd.... and I know how those comments can hurt. but I look at it this way, Kaitee's personaility is part of her individuality and is what also gives her the courage to continue thru life and climb the obstacles that have been tossed in front of her...... ..... debbi mom to kaitee 3 mds, receives hearing aides next week. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 21, 2000 Report Share Posted May 21, 2000 Dear Carla, I know just what you are saying. Annie is almost 18 and has been in regular school her entire life and I still get questions like " have you ever considered special education? " and " you know, she could get a label of Other Health Impaired since she doesn't qualify for services any other way " . These statements cut me like a knife. For the life of me I can't figure out why people think I should try to take her out of the mainstream (where she is holding her own) and put her in classes that expect less of her. People say very hurtful things and I think that most of the time they don't mean to be hurtful. Even my close friends say things that hurt me about how Annie is different from their children. I know they care for her but it's so hard to hear. Wouldn't the world be a better place if only we would accentuate the positive and look upon differences as qualities that make us " unique " ? If only we could see everyone through God's eyes, the world would be a much better place. (ok, I'll get off my soapbox now) Bye for now, ( I live in NC too. Durham) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 21, 2000 Report Share Posted May 21, 2000 Eear Carla, Over the 9 years of my daughter's life, I have seen that her having down syndrome can bring out the very best in others as well as the very worst. The very best being an open minds, accepting hearts, incredible generosity and a willingness to do whatever it takes to see that my daughter has the very best of everything! On the other hand, we have seen and experienced extreme rejection, closed mindedness, turned backs, and rude and insensitive questions or comments. I believe alot of the greatness we have experienced came from people who either had suffered in some way in their life and were kind out of compassion or they saw my daughter as the wonderful little girl that she is and responded to her beatiful spirit and smile. The cruelty we have experienced, we believe, came from learned pejudice, ignorance, fear of the unknown or results from being unloved and unaccepted themselves. Knowing why people are like this really wasn't the " answer " for knowing how to deal with this. I'm not sure if you are really asking how other people deal with this or if you just needed to vent. But if you are asking, the only way my husband and I (and hopefully in the future our daughter) have been able to deal with this is too try as best as possible to respond kindly ( especially if it's a stranger) Nothing would possibly be gained by rudeness. If it's someone we know, we try to be kind but we do try to address any unkindness on their part. Like, " You probably didn't mean it this way, but this is how your comment came across and it hurt my feelings. " If it's just people I really don't know, and they are being unkind, then the only thing to do is to forgive them in your heart. I don't do to well carrying a load of unforgiveness around and I'm certain my daughter will have to do this many many more times than me. I hope I haven't rambled on. It's a shame that people get their kicks out of hurting people. I always have to remember that " Hurt people, hurt people. " I don't want to hold on to the hurt (by not forgiving) or I'll be the one hurting people. Please note that I have responded badly before and I'll probably do it again.That's when I have to forgive myself for blowing it! Well, enough said, This may or may not have been helpfull. Just know that those who act like jerks when it comes to our kids are really missing out of a blessing. They must be miserable. Sincerely, Ellen, mom of 11, Ben 10, Bekah 9 (mds) and 6 (unknown) > Hello all, > I hope know one will mind me for venting, but I'm feeling a bit > perturbed about the day's events. Maggie & I spent the afternoon with 3 > girls/2 moms from her preschool at a festival. As usual, Maggie was her own > independent self and didn't necessarily cooperate with the rest of the group > and occasionally got a little rough with the other girls. This, I'm used > too. But I started to get annoyed when an unknown mother asked if Maggie > (who will be 4 next month) was 2 yrs. old. I smiled and prompted Maggie to > tell her that she is 3. On the chaotic ride home with the 3 girls/2 moms, > one of the moms (whom I barely know) asks me if Maggie will go to " regular " > school like the other girls. Like an idiot, I said that we haven't made that > decision yet. What I meant to say was that we haven't decided which > " regular " school she'll go to -- the one she's assigned to or another one > with a better reputation for making adaptations for special needs kids. What > I should have said was " That's a rude and ignorant question. " To annoy me > even more, this question came behind another question about where did I move > here (the Northwester Mtns. of NC) from. When I responded that I was from > eastern NC, she said she thought so b/c I had an accent. Again, rather than > saying something like " you're the one with the accent " (she's from another > part of the country), I just smiled. Now, I'm feeling pretty heated about > the whole thing. I also realize that I'm probably being a bit over sensitive > and that she just has no tact. Anyone have any pointers for how to deal with > rude/insensitive/tactless/ignorant people who haven't a clue about our kids? > I'd really appreciate some input, b/c I never quite know how to respond to > people like this. I don't want to be rude in return, but neither do I want > to feel like I a " doormat " in these situations. Thanks for listening. > > Carla Duffy > MO Maggie (3 3/4 mds) > > > ________________________________________________________________________ > Get Your Private, Free E-mail from MSN Hotmail at http://www.hotmail.com > > > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > Up to 60% OFF food! > Buy Now and Shipping is Free. > http://click./1/4016/3/_/581564/_/958864236/ > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > > Won't you please consider adding your personal story on the MDS website today? http://www.mosaicdownsyndrome.com And please don't forget to check the message board frequently...it's a great way to meet others who are affected by MDS, who are not on our mailing list! http://www.insidetheweb.com/mbs.cgi/mb778401 > ************************************************* > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 21, 2000 Report Share Posted May 21, 2000 Well said Ellen Carol mom to Ben (16mos) and sibs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 26, 2004 Report Share Posted March 26, 2004 I am pre-transplant liver also. I agree that we need more representation. Anything that I can sign, or do to help, let me know. Jeanne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 14, 2004 Report Share Posted September 14, 2004 Muchas gracias por tu ayuda ! Un cariño. Angélica. (unknown) > Estimada Angélica: > > Yo no cobraría menos de 0.02 Euros por palabra; por lo menos, esos precios son > con los que nos estamos moviendo, como mínimo, en España. Para clientes > internacionales lo subiría incluso algo más; también, por supuesto, > dependiendo de la temática. Espero haberte sido de utilidad. Hasta pronto. > > Porlán Moreno > Tel/fax: +34958223356 > Mobile: +34607531788 > Tortosa, 21 > 18190 - Lancha del Genil > Granada > > > > URL: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/medical_translation > > In case of any problem with this list, you can reach the moderator at cgtradmed@..., or at cgtradmed@.... > The FAQs of our list are available at : http://groups.yahoo.com/group/medical_translation/files/M_T-FAQS.doc > The NEW FREE " Medical Translators Database " (MTDB, the most reliable assistant to find the ideal Medical Translator, is available at http://cgtradmed-com.ifrance.com/cgtradmed-com/MedicalTranslators.htm. > > To unsubscribe, please send an *empty* message to > medical_translation-UNSUBSCRIBE > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 20, 2007 Report Share Posted March 20, 2007 Oh,man that was funny. Sharon said to tell you lol. And hi, . Re: (unknown) Normantic :-) Sorry, couldn't resist. Besides Abijann already replied. MaC Bob Aragon <robwalkingeagle@ yahoo.com> wrote: Does anyone know what are the stages of splenomegaly are? I think I read that 11 cm is normal and 20 cm is gigantic. what would 16cm be? ( that's me) ____________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _ No need to miss a message. Get email on-the-go with Yahoo! Mail for Mobile. Get started. http://mobile. yahoo.com/ mail Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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