Guest guest Posted March 25, 2004 Report Share Posted March 25, 2004 Yeah!! We have to have humor to keep sane, even when it is humor with ocd. My thought is that you are dealing with it, it is becoming just part of life to carry on a conversation like that. It may seem like a strange topic, but it is part of our life. Keep up the good work. in NJ seeing the humor > I guess that *I* am getting better at dealing with my son's OCD since > tonight's exchange struck me more as funny than sad. > > 7yo son enters the room to talk to me: > > Son: I'm mostly a pretty good person, don't you think? > > Mom: Yes. > > Son: So I probably won't grow up to be a murderer, right? > > Mom: I'd have to agree with that > > Son: It's probably OCD then, If I'm worrying about it, right? > > Mom: Right. > > Son: OK, that's what I thought. > > > And he skips back out of the room. But, it just struck me as so funny > that we could have this perfectly normal exchange - no different than > if we were talking about the weather - about such a strange topic. > > > Jeanne > jwestpha@... > NBCT - Exceptional Needs (2000) > > > > > Our list archives, bookmarks, files, and chat feature may be accessed at: http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group// . > Our list advisors are Gail B. , Ed.D., Tamar Chansky, Ph.D., Aureen Pinto Wagner, Ph.D., and Dan Geller, M.D. Our list moderators are Birkhan, Castle, Fowler, Kathy Hammes, Joye, Kathy Mac, Gail Pesses, Kathy , Vivian Stembridge, and Jackie Stout. Subscription issues or suggestions may be addressed to Louis Harkins, list owner, at louisharkins@... , louisharkins@... , louisharkins@... . > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 26, 2004 Report Share Posted March 26, 2004 Dear Jeanne, Not only did you see the humor in that, but you've both reached the point where OCD is just part of family life for you. That's a good place to be - I remember when we reached that point and we were suddenly all able to joke about it in the same way we joke about my son being the slowest human being ever to walk the face of the earth. It's so much healthier than living in crisis mode all the time. Your son sounds pretty delightful. I'd like to meet him! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 26, 2004 Report Share Posted March 26, 2004 Jeanne, I love that. Have had similar conversations with my son. The times when you recognize your child's insight is helping him cope with OCD is comforting, I think. I just can't help feel like we all belong to this " unique family " with our own " unique mode of communication " in dealing with our children with OCD. It just impacts me, though, the thought that we as mothers are so intensely connected to our kids, unlike possibly anyone else in their lives. It must come from the deep, instinctive, life-sacrificing love that we feel towards them and the desire to do whatever it takes to rid of them of their despair. It is both refreshing and sometimes burdensome to have the responsibility of the " leader of the Army " against OCD, as I believe my son thinks of me about this. As my son has said, " Mom, you help me with my OCD. " Those are the words I hang onto..... He says other things, like " Mom, will this ever go away? " or " Mom, please help me make it stop. " It is, to me, such a roller coaster ride, ranging from a grand sense of gratitude for a lull in the intrusions of his thoughts to, though briefly, a somewhat hopeless feeling. If nothing else positive, my child's OCD gives me gratitude for the moments it is all but forgotten and for the real important glimpses of " normality " we occasionally get to experience. I'm grateful for the humor, for the bond it has put between my son and me, for medication, for people who devote their lives to helping others through therapy, for friends on the internet, for sleep.... I have just learned to appreciate some of the things I normally might take for granted. Glad you were able to see the humor, Jeanne. Take care, in Southern Illinois seeing the humor I guess that *I* am getting better at dealing with my son's OCD since tonight's exchange struck me more as funny than sad. 7yo son enters the room to talk to me: Son: I'm mostly a pretty good person, don't you think? Mom: Yes. Son: So I probably won't grow up to be a murderer, right? Mom: I'd have to agree with that Son: It's probably OCD then, If I'm worrying about it, right? Mom: Right. Son: OK, that's what I thought. And he skips back out of the room. But, it just struck me as so funny that we could have this perfectly normal exchange - no different than if we were talking about the weather - about such a strange topic. Jeanne jwestpha@... NBCT - Exceptional Needs (2000) Our list archives, bookmarks, files, and chat feature may be accessed at: http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group// . Our list advisors are Gail B. , Ed.D., Tamar Chansky, Ph.D., Aureen Pinto Wagner, Ph.D., and Dan Geller, M.D. Our list moderators are Birkhan, Castle, Fowler, Kathy Hammes, Joye, Kathy Mac, Gail Pesses, Kathy , Vivian Stembridge, and Jackie Stout. Subscription issues or suggestions may be addressed to Louis Harkins, list owner, at louisharkins@... , louisharkins@... , louisharkins@... .. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 27, 2004 Report Share Posted March 27, 2004 ~ My son tells me things like that too. He'll thank me for letting him talk to me about anything and for helping him to unterstand his OCD. It just rocks me to my core when he crys and begs me to take the thoughts away. I wish I could! The other night at dinner he said the prayer and he thanked God for helping him to learn and understand about OCD. My hunsband and I just looked at each other and smiled. Lori in WA > Jeanne, > I love that. Have had similar conversations with my son. The times when you recognize your child's insight is helping him cope with OCD is comforting, I think. > > I just can't help feel like we all belong to this " unique family " with our own " unique mode of communication " in dealing with our children with OCD. It just impacts me, though, the thought that we as mothers are so intensely connected to our kids, unlike possibly anyone else in their lives. It must come from the deep, instinctive, life-sacrificing love that we feel towards them and the desire to do whatever it takes to rid of them of their despair. It is both refreshing and sometimes burdensome to have the responsibility of the " leader of the Army " against OCD, as I believe my son thinks of me about this. As my son has said, " Mom, you help me with my OCD. " Those are the words I hang onto..... He says other things, like " Mom, will this ever go away? " or " Mom, please help me make it stop. " It is, to me, such a roller coaster ride, ranging from a grand sense of gratitude for a lull in the intrusions of his thoughts to, though briefly, a somewhat hopeless feeling. If nothing else positive, my child's OCD gives me gratitude for the moments it is all but forgotten and for the real important glimpses of " normality " we occasionally get to experience. I'm grateful for the humor, for the bond it has put between my son and me, for medication, for people who devote their lives to helping others through therapy, for friends on the internet, for sleep.... > > I have just learned to appreciate some of the things I normally might take for granted. > > Glad you were able to see the humor, Jeanne. > > Take care, > > in Southern Illinois > > > seeing the humor > > > I guess that *I* am getting better at dealing with my son's OCD since > tonight's exchange struck me more as funny than sad. > > 7yo son enters the room to talk to me: > > Son: I'm mostly a pretty good person, don't you think? > > Mom: Yes. > > Son: So I probably won't grow up to be a murderer, right? > > Mom: I'd have to agree with that > > Son: It's probably OCD then, If I'm worrying about it, right? > > Mom: Right. > > Son: OK, that's what I thought. > > > And he skips back out of the room. But, it just struck me as so funny > that we could have this perfectly normal exchange - no different than > if we were talking about the weather - about such a strange topic. > > > Jeanne > jwestpha@a... > NBCT - Exceptional Needs (2000) > > > > Our list archives, bookmarks, files, and chat feature may be accessed at: http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group// . > Our list advisors are Gail B. , Ed.D., Tamar Chansky, Ph.D., Aureen Pinto Wagner, Ph.D., and Dan Geller, M.D. Our list moderators are Birkhan, Castle, Fowler, Kathy Hammes, Joye, Kathy Mac, Gail Pesses, Kathy , Vivian Stembridge, and Jackie Stout. Subscription issues or suggestions may be addressed to Louis Harkins, list owner, at louisharkins@y... , louisharkins@h... , louisharkins@b... . > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 27, 2004 Report Share Posted March 27, 2004 Lori in Wa, Yeah, Thank God for knowledge............ in So IL seeing the humor > > > I guess that *I* am getting better at dealing with my son's OCD since > tonight's exchange struck me more as funny than sad. > > 7yo son enters the room to talk to me: > > Son: I'm mostly a pretty good person, don't you think? > > Mom: Yes. > > Son: So I probably won't grow up to be a murderer, right? > > Mom: I'd have to agree with that > > Son: It's probably OCD then, If I'm worrying about it, right? > > Mom: Right. > > Son: OK, that's what I thought. > > > And he skips back out of the room. But, it just struck me as so funny > that we could have this perfectly normal exchange - no different than > if we were talking about the weather - about such a strange topic. > > > Jeanne > jwestpha@a... > NBCT - Exceptional Needs (2000) > > > > Our list archives, bookmarks, files, and chat feature may be accessed at: http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group// . > Our list advisors are Gail B. , Ed.D., Tamar Chansky, Ph.D., Aureen Pinto Wagner, Ph.D., and Dan Geller, M.D. Our list moderators are Birkhan, Castle, Fowler, Kathy Hammes, Joye, Kathy Mac, Gail Pesses, Kathy , Vivian Stembridge, and Jackie Stout. Subscription issues or suggestions may be addressed to Louis Harkins, list owner, at louisharkins@y... , louisharkins@h... , louisharkins@b... . > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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