Re: Unsupportive families. -

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LOL I like your suggestions for comments. I wish I had a sharp wit to come

up with comments at the moment I need them.

Thanks for the feedback.

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>Reply-To: tetheredspinalcord

>To: tetheredspinalcord

>Subject: Re: Unsupportive families.

>Date: Mon, 11 Jun 2001 05:35:18 -0700 (PDT)

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>My husband knows I cath. My mother and sister know,

>too. I think my sister's husband is probably aware,

>but only because she tells him everything. No one

>else in my absolutely HUGE family knows because it is

>none of their business. They didn't know about my

>bathroom habits before I had to cath, why would I fill

>them in now??? My inlaws are unsupportive of any of

>my problems. They think I should tough them out.

>When I had surgery, my mother-in-law outright told me

>that I shouldn't do it because it wasn't necessary.

>But hey, this is the same woman who told me that me

>going to college was a waste of my money, and wouldn't

>it be better to spend it on something else. I

>certainly wouldn't tell her!!!

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>Unsupportive family members should mind their

>business. Don't tell them. And if they find out

>second hand, and actually have the audacity to say

>something to you about it, ask them about their

>bathroom habits. Like, " how long does it take you to

>get your urine stream going in the morning? " or " Does

>your penis ever hurt when you strain to have a bowel

>movement? " That should shut them up long enough for

>you to tell them that it is unbelievably rude to ask

>another person about what goes on with them in the

>bathroom.

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> > valerie gilfeather wrote:

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> > > Have you told many people about your need to cath?

> > I wonder if I

> > > should

> > > conceal it from my family. They are not very

> > supportive.

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> > > Guess I'll have to think about these different

> > situations.

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> > > thanks,

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