Re: What makes me sad

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Oh, Kathy...my heart aches for you. I do don't want to experience any of this in 's future...but I know that I might. He is 22 months...and the thing that scares me the most is that I won't be able to protect him because he can't help me know how....................Oh, that is gut wrenching.

I wish you had more trust in his school...or rather I wish it were possible for him to be in a school environment in which you trust...

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I don't mean to be picky, but could those of you who use such tiny fonts change to something bigger? I have a really hard time reading those and especially in different colors. I know it's a personal choice, but most of the time I just have to delete without reading.

Thanks

Subject: Re: What makes me sadTo: AutismBehaviorProblems Date: Thursday, September 18, 2008, 11:37 PM

Oh, Kathy...my heart aches for you. I do don't want to experience any of this in 's future...but I know that I might. He is 22 months...and the thing that scares me the most is that I won't be able to protect him because he can't help me know how......... ......... ..Oh, that is gut wrenching.

I wish you had more trust in his school...or rather I wish it were possible for him to be in a school environment in which you trust...

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Kathy... i am so sorry this happened... my son is almost three and non verbal and i worry about similar situations....... I would make a big deal of this at school and with the driver and the matron... do you think that would help?

I don't mean to be picky, but could those of you who use such tiny fonts change to something bigger? I have a really hard time reading those and especially in different colors. I know it's a personal choice, but most of the time I just have to delete without reading.

Thanks

Subject: Re: What makes me sadTo: AutismBehaviorProblems

Date: Thursday, September 18, 2008, 11:37 PM

Oh, Kathy...my heart aches for you. I do don't want to experience any of this in 's future...but I know that I might. He is 22 months...and the thing that scares me the most is that I won't be able to protect him because he can't help me know how......... ......... ..Oh, that is gut wrenching.

I wish you had more trust in his school...or rather I wish it were possible for him to be in a school environment in which you trust...

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[Guest guest]

I so understand...as I can't read anymore either YES, I will make my font bigger. But I can't say I'll stop the color, as it's sort of habit. I love color...it makes me happy!!! I'll make my font bigger; Promise!!

Have a blessed weekend Susie.

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Oops, talk about a dork...I almost sent it without making the font bigger...Yes I am "blond" Take care.....

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[Guest guest]

THANK YOU !! What you have said is SO true. Like I have been

trying and trying to get across to all the doctors and therapists,

" friends " , etc, etc.. when they tell me stuff like HOW TO BE A PARENT

AND DISCIPLINE MY CHILD, or I NEED TO PLACE HIM IN A BOY'S HOME

BECAUSE THEY HAVE BIG 300 POUND MEN HANGING AROUND TO MAKE HIM

COOPERATE???

All I want is someone to UNDERSTAND what I'm going through, and offer

some EDUCATED ideas on how to make things better. Not give up on my

child and send him away, or " discipline " him for being born

different.... It's too bad there aren't more understanding, caring,

and helpful people in this world that aren't just in their profession

for the money... :-( DIANE

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> It's nice to be part of a group that understands parents who have

children that are aggressive or self-injurious. My son is 17 and I

have decided that for the time being, I am going to keep him at home

with me. That means that I had to hire a large staff of caretakers to

help me as he is strong. So, I am selling my house to move to

something less expensive and that's ok by me. It's interesting when

outsiders think that putting your child in a group home would solve

the problem-as though there are group homes that can handle a person

like this better than the person's own family. That is a very silly

statement. Does a staff person care all that much if the person is

hitting themselves in the head or banging their head on the floor?

Yes-they care in terms of their own liability (like at school), but

they aren't going to put themselves in harm's way (and who would

expect them to?) for the person. No-I think someone has to go through

this experience to understand it.

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> Herskowitz

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[Guest guest]

Hi ,I think your optimism is wonderfull. Hiring persons to

come into the home is a great option. I used to be a caregiver. The

people that I worked with wanted to remain in their homes. It could

only be with caregivers or support people. It meant everything to

them. Home is where the heart is,so they say. I learned this first

hand.

Best wishes,

Tishanne

- In AutismBehaviorProblems , walkman975@... wrote:

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> It's nice to be part of a group that understands parents who have

children that are aggressive or self-injurious. My son is 17 and I

have decided that for the time being, I am going to keep him at home

with me. That means that I had to hire a large staff of caretakers to

help me as he is strong. So, I am selling my house to move to

something less expensive and that's ok by me. It's interesting when

outsiders think that putting your child in a group home would solve

the problem-as though there are group homes that can handle a person

like this better than the person's own family. That is a very silly

statement. Does a staff person care all that much if the person is

hitting themselves in the head or banging their head on the floor?

Yes-they care in terms of their own liability (like at school), but

they aren't going to put themselves in harm's way (and who would

expect them to?) for the person. No-I think someone has to go through

this experience to understand it.

>

> Herskowitz

>