Re: Absence makes the heart grow fonder!?

[Guest guest]

Maybe if we weren't exposed to our triggers for long periods of time, we would relax about them and learn to get used to them? Maybe with 4S we learnt our negative reactions as children because we didn't have brilliant coping mechanisms at that time, but if we had the chance to wipe the slate clean and then were exposed to the triggers years later, we'd be able to cope with them a little better?

This makes an odd kind of sense to me. Our perception of and anticipation of our triggers make a big difference in our reactions to them. The feeling that we can't escape from them makes them so much worse too.

A recent new trigger for me is the voice mail voice for CVS pharmacy (southern U.S.) He is very sibilant and I want to smash his face in. This one is more of an annoyance than one I have to avoid at all costs though, mostly because I know exactly how long he will talk.

[Guest guest]

I think you might have a point. One of the worst things for me is people's

eating sounds and breathing but often iif i eat with a person i've never met

before its not a big problem (unless they are particularly bad) but if i

continue to eat with them regularly i pick up on sounds and have to stop eating

with them. So if you don't hear the noises for ages or it is the first time you

hear them then they aren't triggers until you've heard them a lot.

I kind of rambled so i'm not sure if any of what i wrote makes sense and i'm

probably not write but that is a theory of mine...

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> Last night I slept at my cousins house. She fell asleep before me and started

to snore quite loudly; but it didn't bother me, and I fell asleep. But today

I've been remembering how when we were little, I used to sleep at her house and

her snoring would drive me to tears. It's funny that it doesn't bother me now

and I think the reason for this is that I haven't heard snoring like that for

probably twenty years, and over that time I have forgotten that I hated it - so

I don't hate it anymore?!

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> Don't get me wrong, I have problems with sniffers / nail biters / chewers etc

on a daily basis. But I haven't heard this particular trigger for years and it

appears not to be a trigger anymore. HURRAY!

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> Maybe if we weren't exposed to our triggers for long periods of time, we would

relax about them and learn to get used to them? Maybe with 4S we learnt our

negative reactions as children because we didn't have brilliant coping

mechanisms at that time, but if we had the chance to wipe the slate clean and

then were exposed to the triggers years later, we'd be able to cope with them a

little better?

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> Maybe?

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[Guest guest]

You're not rambling, i'm exactly the same!.

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Sun, January 17, 2010 5:50:25 PMSubject: Re: Absence makes the heart grow fonder!?

I think you might have a point. One of the worst things for me is people's eating sounds and breathing but often iif i eat with a person i've never met before its not a big problem (unless they are particularly bad) but if i continue to eat with them regularly i pick up on sounds and have to stop eating with them. So if you don't hear the noises for ages or it is the first time you hear them then they aren't triggers until you've heard them a lot.I kind of rambled so i'm not sure if any of what i wrote makes sense and i'm probably not write but that is a theory of mine...>> Last night I slept at my cousins house. She fell asleep before me and started to snore quite loudly; but it didn't bother me, and I

fell asleep. But today I've been remembering how when we were little, I used to sleep at her house and her snoring would drive me to tears. It's funny that it doesn't bother me now and I think the reason for this is that I haven't heard snoring like that for probably twenty years, and over that time I have forgotten that I hated it - so I don't hate it anymore?! > > Don't get me wrong, I have problems with sniffers / nail biters / chewers etc on a daily basis. But I haven't heard this particular trigger for years and it appears not to be a trigger anymore. HURRAY!> > Maybe if we weren't exposed to our triggers for long periods of time, we would relax about them and learn to get used to them? Maybe with 4S we learnt our negative reactions as children because we didn't have brilliant coping mechanisms at that time, but if we had the chance to wipe the slate clean and then were exposed to the triggers years later, we'd be able

to cope with them a little better?> > Maybe?>

[Guest guest]

Haha - I really hope you never bump into that guy.

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To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Sun, January 17, 2010 2:37:47 PMSubject: Re: Absence makes the heart grow fonder!?

Maybe if we weren't exposed to our triggers for long periods of time, we would relax about them and learn to get used to them? Maybe with 4S we learnt our negative reactions as children because we didn't have brilliant coping mechanisms at that time, but if we had the chance to wipe the slate clean and then were exposed to the triggers years later, we'd be able to cope with them a little better?

This makes an odd kind of sense to me. Our perception of and anticipation of our triggers make a big difference in our reactions to them. The feeling that we can't escape from them makes them so much worse too.

A recent new trigger for me is the voice mail voice for CVS pharmacy (southern U.S.) He is very sibilant and I want to smash his face in. This one is more of an annoyance than one I have to avoid at all costs though, mostly because I know exactly how long he will talk.

[Guest guest]

i wishto unsubscribe i have got all the details i need and this group is taking all my email space to many every day ty lyn

To: Soundsensitivity From: sarah.leahcrossley@...Date: Sun, 17 Jan 2010 10:02:33 -0800Subject: Re: Absence makes the heart grow fonder!?

Haha - I really hope you never bump into that guy.

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To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Sun, January 17, 2010 2:37:47 PMSubject: Re: Absence makes the heart grow fonder!?

Maybe if we weren't exposed to our triggers for long periods of time, we would relax about them and learn to get used to them? Maybe with 4S we learnt our negative reactions as children because we didn't have brilliant coping mechanisms at that time, but if we had the chance to wipe the slate clean and then were exposed to the triggers years later, we'd be able to cope with them a little better?

This makes an odd kind of sense to me. Our perception of and anticipation of our triggers make a big difference in our reactions to them. The feeling that we can't escape from them makes them so much worse too.

A recent new trigger for me is the voice mail voice for CVS pharmacy (southern U.S.) He is very sibilant and I want to smash his face in. This one is more of an annoyance than one I have to avoid at all costs though, mostly because I know exactly how long he will talk.

[Guest guest]

According to the home page, you need to send an email to the following address:

Soundsensitivity-unsubscribe

We can't change your subscription here, as far as I know.

PS: I know what you mean about all the daily emails. I just delete them all

every few days, whenever I check my email account for real messages. But then, I

don't use Yahoo's email for my regular personal email account.

You might even be able to set up a rule of some sort to delete all the daily

digest emails from this SoundSensitivity forum. I haven't looked into any of the

features of the Yahoo account.

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> i wishto unsubscribe i have got all the details i need and this group is

taking all my email space to many every day ty lyn

[Guest guest]

If you click up above on 'Edit Membership', you can elect to not receive e-mails

at all from this group but still be a part of it. That's what I do. Then just

bookmark this group page and visit when you like.

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> > i wishto unsubscribe i have got all the details i need and this group is

taking all my email space to many every day ty lyn

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[Guest guest]

Thanks. I have now switched off the daily digests. I check the forum every day,

so the digest is redundant.

I don't access Yahoo for anything else so I am not familiar with all their

settings (I realise now that there are at least the following places to manage

various settings: " My Account " , " Edit Membership " , and also " Options " in

" Mail " ).

When you use Yahoo for only one purpose (this forum), this seems like overkill!

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> If you click up above on 'Edit Membership', you can elect to not receive

e-mails at all from this group but still be a part of it. That's what I do.

Then just bookmark this group page and visit when you like.