Re: Having a bad day, so I wrote us a poem!

[Guest guest]

Guys listen im not putting this place down im trying to help and what im telling

you guys is the truth...we lie in a universe in which there are laws...we live

in an attraction based universe...you get what you focus on...you get what u

think and feel about , period. There is not a shred of evidence anywhere in this

universe that is to the contrary. By giving your continued focus to something

you invite it in. This doesnt " just work for me " , it will work for all of you.

Even if it doesnt work, lets just say, your then telling me that getting upset

and mad or depressed because someone was smacking their gum an hour ago is okay?

Do you guys care about how you feel enough to make an effort to feel better? You

cant control conditions but you can control how you react to them, the less you

react the less you will experience people smacking gum/ food around you. When

someone is bothering you then do your best to distract yourself...dont just sit

there and watch and feel worse and worse...go somewhere else...put headphones

in..distract...the second ur

feelingmad/angry/depressed/powerless/vengeful...think about something

else...learn to become still and to remove your attention from the

unwanted....focus on what u DO want instead....talk yourself into feeling

better...example... " wouldnt it be nice if people chewed their food, i can

appreciate that, thats what i want to see, now thats what im talking about, i

know that when people smack theirfood that they are not doing it to me...infact

i bet if they knew my pain they would chew whn they are aroud me, but its not

their job to please me, its my job to please me, im better this.. " . ALSO..i

still stand by my statement that i have sufferd more than anyone else in this

group. We all have the same probem....have anyf u had someone day in and day out

smack their food and gum and hand ou gum to eryone around you JUST to piss you

off.....for 11 years straight?!?! Thats pure torture...thats what caused seek a

real cure ...and i found it and now im sharing it with u guys so EXCUUUSEEE MEE

lol. Look...getting all bent out of shapeisnt nesccary...i know we cant help but

have an immediate emtional reaction to someone popping their gum smacking what

not...im not suggesting to hear the sound and declare it okay or " just tune it

outl..i understand the impossible nature of that endeour,

however....nothing...NOTHING is stopping you from taking your attentoion OFF it

while its happeing...and guys listen its not worth it to stay mad and speak of

it later or to harborf hate toward that person ...i know it is 100% justifyable

to feel that way...but...but.....HOW DO YOU WANT TO FEEL? If you really cared

about the way you feel then you would make an effort to feel better. Bottom line

is: take your focus off the subject as most you can....and then it will mostly

not occur in ur experience....i didnt believe it either but i figured i tried

evverything else so why not this...and it worked and continues to work....i took

my attention off the subject as much i could and before long i had forgotten it

bothered me...cuz i detached myself from the subject so much...i live a much

happier life now and hardly anyone smacks...and when i hear it...its not a

biggie...i dont sit there and fixate onit.....

,

Does this support group help you? It sounds like you are putting it, and invariably all of us, down. It would be a dream come true to be able ignore these noises away. For those of us who are not able to do that, (I would say that's the majority of us), our issues are all valid . This group is a safe place for us to voice our issues and you are doing us all a disservice by saying we are just "complaining" and suggesting that we basically just get over it. I've been told that all my life by my family and others who do not understand the impact of 4S. Of all places, we should not have to defend our 4S here. As someone who has 4S, I would expect that you would be more considerate.

Kindly,

From: james_riley42 <james_riley42>Subject: Re: Having a bad day, so I wrote us a poem!To: Soundsensitivity Date: Tuesday, September 22, 2009, 4:23 PM

I understand what your saying! Allow me to clarify a few things...i do have 4sband it didnt help to have a brother who knew i had it and smacked his gum and food every chance he got just to spite me....for eleven long years...i can safley say that i have suffered more than anyone in this group. I get what you mean when you say you cant tune it out...i cannot either...while its happening... when i say dont focus on it what i mean is dont think about it after...dont go back to that moment in thought and think about how bad you felt ....dont complain about it later....now the other part of im saying is backed up by science...if you turn ur focus away from smackers...meaning dont give thought to it when its not happening and if itis happeing dont give too much thought to it...try to detach urself from the emotion ur feeling...dont join in and feel more intense...its hard but it works for me and its easy now that ive been doing it or so long....ok so

basically... .if u turn ur us away from smacking then "smacking" is included in your vibration... the more you focus on i the moit willhappen.. if ur thinking "i can never escaoe this" then guess what...you wont. but here is the good news....if u FORGET about it...meaning dont complain aboutit...dont come onto online chat groups and complain with others about it...everytime u say no smacking go away and feel strong negative emotion...you are inviting more smacking into your life...whatu focus on with emotion is what you get back...wether u want it or not...guys trust me for someone who has had this problem for so many years you have to beliee me when i say i have searched the seven seas for solutions ...ear plugs..white noise..begging people to stop...yelling at people to stop...telling people gum has posin in it...but all of those things cause you to focus on it and so they do not work. YES this is a support group and i understand coming here and

talking bout it makes you feel better....but i promise you if u try ur best to forget about it...let it go...dont take it so seriously... you will have nothing to feel bad about! It is so eer more relieving to free yourself from the control certain sounds have over you then to comehere and get things off ur chest...a.k. a.focusin it...a.k.a.. attracting more.

[Guest guest]

You're just digging a deeper hole. I have some nerve to assume you know what suffering anyone else has been through and then claim yours as superior. I'm not going to fan the flames of you inane comments after this, but you're incredibly arrogant and ignorant and need realize that what you're suggesting is of no help here.

P.S. - Spell check is a wonderful invention.

Subject: Re: Having a bad day, so I wrote us a poem!To: Soundsensitivity Date: Tuesday, September 22, 2009, 7:38 PM

Guys listen im not putting this place down im trying to help and what im telling you guys is the truth...we lie in a universe in which there are laws...we live in an attraction based universe...you get what you focus on...you get what u think and feel about , period. There is not a shred of evidence anywhere in this universe that is to the contrary. By giving your continued focus to something you invite it in. This doesnt "just work for me", it will work for all of you. Even if it doesnt work, lets just say, your then telling me that getting upset and mad or depressed because someone was smacking their gum an hour ago is okay? Do you guys care about how you feel enough to make an effort to feel better? You cant control conditions but you can control how you react to them, the less you react the less you will experience people smacking gum/ food around you. When someone is bothering you then do your best to distract yourself...dont just sit there and

watch and feel worse and worse...go somewhere else...put headphones in..distract. ..the second ur feelingmad/angry/ depressed/ powerless/ vengeful. ..think about something else...learn to become still and to remove your attention from the unwanted.... focus on what u DO want instead....talk yourself into feeling better...example. .."wouldnt it be nice if people chewed their food, i can appreciate that, thats what i want to see, now thats what im talking about, i know that when people smack theirfood that they are not doing it to me...infact i bet if they knew my pain they would chew whn they are aroud me, but its not their job to please me, its my job to please me, im better this..". ALSO..i still stand by my statement that i have sufferd more than anyone else in this group. We all have the same probem....have anyf u had someone day in and day out smack their food and gum and hand ou gum to eryone around you JUST to piss you off.....for 11 years

straight?!?! Thats pure torture...thats what caused seek a real cure ...and i found it and now im sharing it with u guys so EXCUUUSEEE MEE lol. Look...getting all bent out of shapeisnt nesccary...i know we cant help but have an immediate emtional reaction to someone popping their gum smacking what not...im not suggesting to hear the sound and declare it okay or "just tune it outl..i understand the impossible nature of that endeour, however....nothing. ..NOTHING is stopping you from taking your attentoion OFF it while its happeing...and guys listen its not worth it to stay mad and speak of it later or to harborf hate toward that person ...i know it is 100% justifyable to feel that way...but... but.....HOW DO YOU WANT TO FEEL? If you really cared about the way you feel then you would make an effort to feel better. Bottom line is: take your focus off the subject as most you can....and then it will mostly not occur in ur experience.. ..i didnt believe it

either but i figured i tried evverything else so why not this...and it worked and continues to work....i took my attention off the subject as much i could and before long i had forgotten it bothered me...cuz i detached myself from the subject so much...i live a much happier life now and hardly anyone smacks...and when i hear it...its not a biggie...i dont sit there and fixate onit.....

[Guest guest]

Again, , what makes you think you're suffering more than the rest of us? My

brother used to chew gum in the car for 45 minutes every day just to make me

angry, and my best friend who I hang out with all the time loves chewing gum. We

all have our own circumstances, and there is NO WAY that you can know that there

isn't somebody out there who has a worse situation than you. I cannot for the

life of me understand why YOU think you are the most victimized of us all. Get a

grip, dude!

And do you seriously think that none of us have done the things you've

suggested? We DO wear headphones, we DO wear ear plugs, and we DO try and go

away from the noise. But you are completely missing the point. What you're

suggesting is not a cure, it's just a distraction. You said yourself " the second

ur feelingmad/angry/depressed/powerless/vengeful... " See? You still have the

emotional & physical response to the sound. You are NOT cured because you are

still reacting, even if you do respond by " ignoring the sound " . And yes, some of

us CAN ignore sounds to an extent. If I'm in class and somebody around me is

chewing gum, I can focus on the teacher's lecture if I try really hard. But it

doesn't ever go away entirely. We don't have some magic ability to tune sounds

out completely.

" If you really cared about the way you feel then you would make an effort to

feel better. "

Uh, what? You think we don't care that sound pisses us off? You think we don't

care that it's painful to have a meal with our families, or that the people we

love cause us pain? You, my sadly misinformed friend, are being ridiculous. We

have a MEDICAL condition. Telling us not to react the way we do is like telling

a kid with ADD to pay attention to a 4 hour seminar, or an OCD person to hang

pictures on their wall crooked. We don't know what it is yet, but there is

obviously something wrong with the way our bodies are processing the sounds that

set us off. This is not a matter of will power and self control; it's a matter

of science and psychology.

By the way, would it kill you to use proper grammar and sentence structure? Your

messages are really difficult to read.

-Paige

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> Subject: Re: Having a bad day, so I wrote us a poem!

> To: Soundsensitivity

> Date: Tuesday, September 22, 2009, 4:23 PM

>

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>  

>

>

>

> I understand what your saying! Allow me to clarify a few things...i do have

4sband it didnt help to have a brother who knew i had it and smacked his gum and

food every chance he got just to spite me....for eleven long years...i can

safley say that i have suffered more than anyone in this group. I get what you

mean when you say you cant tune it out...i cannot either...while its

happening... when i say dont focus on it what i mean is dont think about it

after...dont go back to that moment in thought and think about how bad you felt

.....dont complain about it later....now the other part of im saying is backed up

by science...if you turn ur focus away from smackers...meaning dont give thought

to it when its not happening and if itis happeing dont give too much thought to

it...try to detach urself from the emotion ur feeling...dont join in and feel

more intense...its hard but it works for me and its easy now that ive been doing

it or so long....ok so

> basically... .if u turn ur us away from smacking then " smacking " is included

in your vibration... the more you focus on i the moit willhappen.. if ur

thinking " i can never escaoe this " then guess what...you wont. but here is the

good news....if u FORGET about it...meaning dont complain aboutit...dont come

onto online chat groups and complain with others about it...everytime u say no

smacking go away and feel strong negative emotion...you are inviting more

smacking into your life...whatu focus on with emotion is what you get

back...wether u want it or not...guys trust me for someone who has had this

problem for so many years you have to beliee me when i say i have searched the

seven seas for solutions ...ear plugs..white noise..begging people to

stop...yelling at people to stop...telling people gum has posin in it...but all

of those things cause you to focus on it and so they do not work. YES this is a

support group and i understand coming here and

> talking bout it makes you feel better....but i promise you if u try ur best

to forget about it...let it go...dont take it so seriously... you will have

nothing to feel bad about! It is so eer more relieving to free yourself from the

control certain sounds have over you then to comehere and get things off ur

chest...a.k. a.focusin it...a.k.a.. attracting more.

>

[Guest guest]

Awww ok your right your right i see how me taking that title doesnt justify your

experience...poor us right

Again, , what makes you think you're suffering more than the rest of us? My brother used to chew gum in the car for 45 minutes every day just to make me angry, and my best friend who I hang out with all the time loves chewing gum. We all have our own circumstances, and there is NO WAY that you can know that there isn't somebody out there who has a worse situation than you. I cannot for the life of me understand why YOU think you are the most victimized of us all. Get a grip, dude!

And do you seriously think that none of us have done the things you've suggested? We DO wear headphones, we DO wear ear plugs, and we DO try and go away from the noise. But you are completely missing the point. What you're suggesting is not a cure, it's just a distraction. You said yourself " the second ur feelingmad/angry/depressed/powerless/vengeful... " See? You still have the emotional & physical response to the sound. You are NOT cured because you are still reacting, even if you do respond by " ignoring the sound " . And yes, some of us CAN ignore sounds to an extent. If I'm in class and somebody around me is chewing gum, I can focus on the teacher's lecture if I try really hard. But it doesn't ever go away entirely. We don't have some magic ability to tune sounds out completely.

" If you really cared about the way you feel then you would make an effort to feel better. "

Uh, what? You think we don't care that sound pisses us off? You think we don't care that it's painful to have a meal with our families, or that the people we love cause us pain? You, my sadly misinformed friend, are being ridiculous. We have a MEDICAL condition. Telling us not to react the way we do is like telling a kid with ADD to pay attention to a 4 hour seminar, or an OCD person to hang pictures on their wall crooked. We don't know what it is yet, but there is obviously something wrong with the way our bodies are processing the sounds that set us off. This is not a matter of will power and self control; it's a matter of science and psychology.

By the way, would it kill you to use proper grammar and sentence structure? Your messages are really difficult to read.

-Paige

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> Subject: Re: Having a bad day, so I wrote us a poem!

> To: Soundsensitivity

> Date: Tuesday, September 22, 2009, 4:23 PM

>

>

>  

>

>

>

> I understand what your saying! Allow me to clarify a few things...i do have 4sband it didnt help to have a brother who knew i had it and smacked his gum and food every chance he got just to spite me....for eleven long years...i can safley say that i have suffered more than anyone in this group. I get what you mean when you say you cant tune it out...i cannot either...while its happening... when i say dont focus on it what i mean is dont think about it after...dont go back to that moment in thought and think about how bad you felt ....dont complain about it later....now the other part of im saying is backed up by science...if you turn ur focus away from smackers...meaning dont give thought to it when its not happening and if itis happeing dont give too much thought to it...try to detach urself from the emotion ur feeling...dont join in and feel more intense...its hard but it works for me and its easy now that ive been doing it or so long....ok so

> basically... .if u turn ur us away from smacking then " smacking " is included in your vibration... the more you focus on i the moit willhappen.. if ur thinking " i can never escaoe this " then guess what...you wont. but here is the good news....if u FORGET about it...meaning dont complain aboutit...dont come onto online chat groups and complain with others about it...everytime u say no smacking go away and feel strong negative emotion...you are inviting more smacking into your life...whatu focus on with emotion is what you get back...wether u want it or not...guys trust me for someone who has had this problem for so many years you have to beliee me when i say i have searched the seven seas for solutions ...ear plugs..white noise..begging people to stop...yelling at people to stop...telling people gum has posin in it...but all of those things cause you to focus on it and so they do not work. YES this is a support group and i understand coming here and

> talking bout it makes you feel better....but i promise you if u try ur best to forget about it...let it go...dont take it so seriously... you will have nothing to feel bad about! It is so eer more relieving to free yourself from the control certain sounds have over you then to comehere and get things off ur chest...a.k. a.focusin it...a.k.a.. attracting more.

>

[Guest guest]

Spell check lol im on my phone....look im right wether u guys realize it or not.

You get what u focus on. Stop focusing on it and it will stop. Simple as that.

Study the Law of Attraction and free yourself.

You're just digging a deeper hole. I have some nerve to assume you know what suffering anyone else has been through and then claim yours as superior. I'm not going to fan the flames of you inane comments after this, but you're incredibly arrogant and ignorant and need realize that what you're suggesting is of no help here.

P.S. - Spell check is a wonderful invention.

From: james_riley42 <james_riley42>Subject: Re: Having a bad day, so I wrote us a poem!To: Soundsensitivity Date: Tuesday, September 22, 2009, 7:38 PM

Guys listen im not putting this place down im trying to help and what im telling you guys is the truth...we lie in a universe in which there are laws...we live in an attraction based universe...you get what you focus on...you get what u think and feel about , period. There is not a shred of evidence anywhere in this universe that is to the contrary. By giving your continued focus to something you invite it in. This doesnt "just work for me", it will work for all of you. Even if it doesnt work, lets just say, your then telling me that getting upset and mad or depressed because someone was smacking their gum an hour ago is okay? Do you guys care about how you feel enough to make an effort to feel better? You cant control conditions but you can control how you react to them, the less you react the less you will experience people smacking gum/ food around you. When someone is bothering you then do your best to distract yourself...dont just sit there and

watch and feel worse and worse...go somewhere else...put headphones in..distract. ..the second ur feelingmad/angry/ depressed/ powerless/ vengeful. ..think about something else...learn to become still and to remove your attention from the unwanted.... focus on what u DO want instead....talk yourself into feeling better...example. .."wouldnt it be nice if people chewed their food, i can appreciate that, thats what i want to see, now thats what im talking about, i know that when people smack theirfood that they are not doing it to me...infact i bet if they knew my pain they would chew whn they are aroud me, but its not their job to please me, its my job to please me, im better this..". ALSO..i still stand by my statement that i have sufferd more than anyone else in this group. We all have the same probem....have anyf u had someone day in and day out smack their food and gum and hand ou gum to eryone around you JUST to piss you off.....for 11 years

straight?!?! Thats pure torture...thats what caused seek a real cure ...and i found it and now im sharing it with u guys so EXCUUUSEEE MEE lol. Look...getting all bent out of shapeisnt nesccary...i know we cant help but have an immediate emtional reaction to someone popping their gum smacking what not...im not suggesting to hear the sound and declare it okay or "just tune it outl..i understand the impossible nature of that endeour, however....nothing. ..NOTHING is stopping you from taking your attentoion OFF it while its happeing...and guys listen its not worth it to stay mad and speak of it later or to harborf hate toward that person ...i know it is 100% justifyable to feel that way...but... but.....HOW DO YOU WANT TO FEEL? If you really cared about the way you feel then you would make an effort to feel better. Bottom line is: take your focus off the subject as most you can....and then it will mostly not occur in ur experience.. ..i didnt believe it

either but i figured i tried evverything else so why not this...and it worked and continues to work....i took my attention off the subject as much i could and before long i had forgotten it bothered me...cuz i detached myself from the subject so much...i live a much happier life now and hardly anyone smacks...and when i hear it...its not a biggie...i dont sit there and fixate onit.....

[Guest guest]

Umm... alright, so if I stop focusing on you then does that mean you will stop

as well? You don't seem to be interested in sharing your opinion, you appear to

be only interested in telling everyone else why they are wrong about everything.

I think I'll stop following this topic now.

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> Subject: Re: Having a bad day, so I wrote us a poem!

> To: Soundsensitivity

> Date: Tuesday, September 22, 2009, 7:38 PM

>

>

>  

>

>

>

> Guys listen im not putting this place down im trying to help and what im

telling you guys is the truth...we lie in a universe in which there are

laws...we live in an attraction based universe...you get what you focus on...you

get what u think and feel about , period. There is not a shred of evidence

anywhere in this universe that is to the contrary. By giving your continued

focus to something you invite it in. This doesnt " just work for me " , it will

work for all of you. Even if it doesnt work, lets just say, your then telling me

that getting upset and mad or depressed because someone was smacking their gum

an hour ago is okay? Do you guys care about how you feel enough to make an

effort to feel better? You cant control conditions but you can control how you

react to them, the less you react the less you will experience people smacking

gum/ food around you. When someone is bothering you then do your best to

distract yourself...dont just sit there and

> watch and feel worse and worse...go somewhere else...put headphones

in..distract. ..the second ur feelingmad/angry/ depressed/ powerless/ vengeful.

...think about something else...learn to become still and to remove your

attention from the unwanted.... focus on what u DO want instead....talk yourself

into feeling better...example. .. " wouldnt it be nice if people chewed their

food, i can appreciate that, thats what i want to see, now thats what im talking

about, i know that when people smack theirfood that they are not doing it to

me...infact i bet if they knew my pain they would chew whn they are aroud me,

but its not their job to please me, its my job to please me, im better this.. " .

ALSO..i still stand by my statement that i have sufferd more than anyone else in

this group. We all have the same probem....have anyf u had someone day in and

day out smack their food and gum and hand ou gum to eryone around you JUST to

piss you off.....for 11 years

> straight?!?! Thats pure torture...thats what caused seek a real cure ...and i

found it and now im sharing it with u guys so EXCUUUSEEE MEE lol. Look...getting

all bent out of shapeisnt nesccary...i know we cant help but have an immediate

emtional reaction to someone popping their gum smacking what not...im not

suggesting to hear the sound and declare it okay or " just tune it outl..i

understand the impossible nature of that endeour, however....nothing. ..NOTHING

is stopping you from taking your attentoion OFF it while its happeing...and guys

listen its not worth it to stay mad and speak of it later or to harborf hate

toward that person ...i know it is 100% justifyable to feel that way...but...

but.....HOW DO YOU WANT TO FEEL? If you really cared about the way you feel then

you would make an effort to feel better. Bottom line is: take your focus off the

subject as most you can....and then it will mostly not occur in ur experience..

...i didnt believe it

> either but i figured i tried evverything else so why not this...and it worked

and continues to work....i took my attention off the subject as much i could and

before long i had forgotten it bothered me...cuz i detached myself from the

subject so much...i live a much happier life now and hardly anyone smacks...and

when i hear it...its not a biggie...i dont sit there and fixate onit.....

>

[Guest guest]

All im saying is it worked for me and it will work for you...test it and try.

Umm... alright, so if I stop focusing on you then does that mean you will stop as well? You don't seem to be interested in sharing your opinion, you appear to be only interested in telling everyone else why they are wrong about everything. I think I'll stop following this topic now.

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> Subject: Re: Having a bad day, so I wrote us a poem!

> To: Soundsensitivity

> Date: Tuesday, September 22, 2009, 7:38 PM

>

>

>  

>

>

>

> Guys listen im not putting this place down im trying to help and what im telling you guys is the truth...we lie in a universe in which there are laws...we live in an attraction based universe...you get what you focus on...you get what u think and feel about , period. There is not a shred of evidence anywhere in this universe that is to the contrary. By giving your continued focus to something you invite it in. This doesnt " just work for me " , it will work for all of you. Even if it doesnt work, lets just say, your then telling me that getting upset and mad or depressed because someone was smacking their gum an hour ago is okay? Do you guys care about how you feel enough to make an effort to feel better? You cant control conditions but you can control how you react to them, the less you react the less you will experience people smacking gum/ food around you. When someone is bothering you then do your best to distract yourself...dont just sit there and

> watch and feel worse and worse...go somewhere else...put headphones in..distract. ..the second ur feelingmad/angry/ depressed/ powerless/ vengeful. ..think about something else...learn to become still and to remove your attention from the unwanted.... focus on what u DO want instead....talk yourself into feeling better...example. .. " wouldnt it be nice if people chewed their food, i can appreciate that, thats what i want to see, now thats what im talking about, i know that when people smack theirfood that they are not doing it to me...infact i bet if they knew my pain they would chew whn they are aroud me, but its not their job to please me, its my job to please me, im better this.. " . ALSO..i still stand by my statement that i have sufferd more than anyone else in this group. We all have the same probem....have anyf u had someone day in and day out smack their food and gum and hand ou gum to eryone around you JUST to piss you off.....for 11 years

> straight?!?! Thats pure torture...thats what caused seek a real cure ...and i found it and now im sharing it with u guys so EXCUUUSEEE MEE lol. Look...getting all bent out of shapeisnt nesccary...i know we cant help but have an immediate emtional reaction to someone popping their gum smacking what not...im not suggesting to hear the sound and declare it okay or " just tune it outl..i understand the impossible nature of that endeour, however....nothing. ..NOTHING is stopping you from taking your attentoion OFF it while its happeing...and guys listen its not worth it to stay mad and speak of it later or to harborf hate toward that person ...i know it is 100% justifyable to feel that way...but... but.....HOW DO YOU WANT TO FEEL? If you really cared about the way you feel then you would make an effort to feel better. Bottom line is: take your focus off the subject as most you can....and then it will mostly not occur in ur experience.. ..i didnt believe it

> either but i figured i tried evverything else so why not this...and it worked and continues to work....i took my attention off the subject as much i could and before long i had forgotten it bothered me...cuz i detached myself from the subject so much...i live a much happier life now and hardly anyone smacks...and when i hear it...its not a biggie...i dont sit there and fixate onit.....

>

[Guest guest]

, would you please use paragraphs and capitalization? I'd like to read your arguments, but the massive blocks of text and run-on sentences gives me eyestrain. I'm sorry to bring this up, but it really would help me, and I'm sure it would help others.Thank you for your time.= M-F. Hotmail® has ever-growing storage! Don’t worry about storage limits. Check it out.

[Guest guest]

I know...my phone sucks. If i was on my computer then it would be another story.

Either way...wehter the truth is on a napkin or glossy paper...it still says the

same thing :-)

, would you please use paragraphs and capitalization? I'd like to read your arguments, but the massive blocks of text and run-on sentences gives me eyestrain. I'm sorry to bring this up, but it really would help me, and I'm sure it would help others.Thank you for your time.= M-F. Hotmail® has ever-growing storage! Don’t worry about storage limits. Check it out.

[Guest guest]

"You're just not trying hard enough!" right?What's good for the goose is NOT good for the gander. It's the same with diets, religion, exercise plans, planning trips, and so on. It works for you: Fine, I'm glad you feel you're cured. Us? It's not so simple. We HAVE tried. If it was that easy, this group would collapse from the massive exodus leaving it.Please try to be more mindful, as I will try to be, and possibly step back for a bit. What you're focusing on is expanding.= M-F.>To: Soundsensitivity From: james_riley42@...Date: Wed, 23 Sep 2009 00:44:42 +0000Subject: Re: Re: Having a bad day, so I wrote us a poem!>All im saying is it worked for me and it will work for you...test it and try. Hotmail® has ever-growing storage! Don’t worry about storage limits. Check it out.

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It's obvious that you're not listening to anything we're saying, so I suppose we

should do the same to you.

You haven't helped us at all, just reminded us how ignorant most people are

about our condition, and made a fool of yourself. How can we take you seriously

when you end all of your sentences in " ... " , never capitalize, use way too much

internet shorthand, and ignore grammar AND ignore what we're saying to you?

>

> I know...my phone sucks. If i was on my computer then it would be another

story. Either way...wehter the truth is on a napkin or glossy paper...it still

says the same thing :-)

>

> , would you please use paragraphs and capitalization? I'd like to read

your arguments, but the massive blocks of text and run-on sentences gives me

eyestrain.

>

> I'm sorry to bring this up, but it really would help me, and I'm sure it would

help others.

>

> Thank you for your time.

>

>

>

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Why are you seperating me from you guys...I HAVE THE SAME CONDITION! If you guys

want perfect grammer and caps too bad...i write the way i write if you dont like

it then im sorry its a problem for you...but im not gonna change it. All im

saying is study the Law of Attraction and how it relates to this...

It's obvious that you're not listening to anything we're saying, so I suppose we should do the same to you.

You haven't helped us at all, just reminded us how ignorant most people are about our condition, and made a fool of yourself. How can we take you seriously when you end all of your sentences in " ... " , never capitalize, use way too much internet shorthand, and ignore grammar AND ignore what we're saying to you?

>

> I know...my phone sucks. If i was on my computer then it would be another story. Either way...wehter the truth is on a napkin or glossy paper...it still says the same thing :-)

>

> , would you please use paragraphs and capitalization? I'd like to read your arguments, but the massive blocks of text and run-on sentences gives me eyestrain.

>

> I'm sorry to bring this up, but it really would help me, and I'm sure it would help others.

>

> Thank you for your time.

>

>

>

> = M-F.

>

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[Guest guest]

First of all, ... your poem was wonderful! Thank you!

,

I think you mean well by what you are saying, but by insisting that because it

worked for you it WILL work for everyone (because you know you are right) isn't

really the best way to go about supporting people into trying the same thing.

What you are describing is a lot like CBT which is what I have been working on

for 9 months now. Yes, it's true that what you focus on expands. The problem

with people who have 4S is that they focus on it even when they don't want to.

Their brains are zapped so to speak.

You said this... " You cant control conditions but you can control how you react

to them. " I disagree. True you can't control conditions, but in our case the

way we react to them is the PROBLEM. We react to them spontaneously without

thought in ways we don't want to. If we could control the way we reacted to

them, then none of us would be here. I have tried for 9 months to 'interfere'

with my thought process to somehow stop that reaction before it happens. It's

impossible for me to catch it before it starts. The only thing I can do is use

the power of my mind to calm myself down faster. I then let it go. I don't get

mad about something that happened 5 hours ago, but letting it go doesn't prevent

me from getting mad all over again an hour later.

You also said, " How do i exit this group? " that you had no need for it anymore.

That's great, I'm glad this works for you but don't judge others because it may

not work for them.

Simply click on " Edit Membership " up above and then click " Leave Group " in the

bottom right hand corner. Best to you.

Darlene

>

> What you focus on expands. Stop giving your attention to smacking of gum and

it will stop occuring in your reality, people will smack their gum still..but

you wont be around them and they wont be around you. Focus on things you

appreciate. This is the cure to 5s...works for me. I hat even thought about/felt

about people smacking gum and i havnt seen or heard anything in 6 months! How do

i exit this group? I hae no need for it. We all come together to complai and

focuz on it...which does nothing but bring more of it to us...

[Guest guest]

Ok what im saying is this: distraction is the key. Its not as hard as you think,

if someone is smacking per say and you have that little ipod nano cliped to your

belt..BAM..your favorite song is playing from headphones right in your

ears..trust me it wont be very long before you forget the person was smacking

because your so into your song..cant even hear them anyway. See what im saying

now? If someone is smacking move away from them instantly...i know what your

thinking..well that sucks because now i have to do this all my life and thats

just not right not fair and plainly wrong...the good news is that you only have

to do this consistently for 30 days...after that the Law of Attraction will kick

in and since there is not much smacking going on therefore you are not giving it

your attention, LOA says that what you give your attention to with thought

charged by emotion, wether be good or bad, will manifest. So, since your

attention hasnt been on smacking as much, much less of it will be your

experience and the less you will have to use creative techniques to distract

yourself. Now by distraction i mean you are in a new place mentally where your

not even thinking about anyone who was just smacking therefore not having strong

emotion so then it wont happen more of the time. Do you kind of see what im

saying?

First of all, ... your poem was wonderful! Thank you!

,

I think you mean well by what you are saying, but by insisting that because it worked for you it WILL work for everyone (because you know you are right) isn't really the best way to go about supporting people into trying the same thing. What you are describing is a lot like CBT which is what I have been working on for 9 months now. Yes, it's true that what you focus on expands. The problem with people who have 4S is that they focus on it even when they don't want to. Their brains are zapped so to speak.

You said this... " You cant control conditions but you can control how you react to them. " I disagree. True you can't control conditions, but in our case the way we react to them is the PROBLEM. We react to them spontaneously without thought in ways we don't want to. If we could control the way we reacted to them, then none of us would be here. I have tried for 9 months to 'interfere' with my thought process to somehow stop that reaction before it happens. It's impossible for me to catch it before it starts. The only thing I can do is use the power of my mind to calm myself down faster. I then let it go. I don't get mad about something that happened 5 hours ago, but letting it go doesn't prevent me from getting mad all over again an hour later.

You also said, " How do i exit this group? " that you had no need for it anymore. That's great, I'm glad this works for you but don't judge others because it may not work for them.

Simply click on " Edit Membership " up above and then click " Leave Group " in the bottom right hand corner. Best to you.

Darlene

>

> What you focus on expands. Stop giving your attention to smacking of gum and it will stop occuring in your reality, people will smack their gum still..but you wont be around them and they wont be around you. Focus on things you appreciate. This is the cure to 5s...works for me. I hat even thought about/felt about people smacking gum and i havnt seen or heard anything in 6 months! How do i exit this group? I hae no need for it. We all come together to complai and focuz on it...which does nothing but bring more of it to us...

[Guest guest]

Yes I do understand what you are saying. However, there are many of us

who work at places we are NOT allowed to use iPods nor are we able to just leave

that situation immediately. Therefore consistency is not going to work. I

completely agree that distraction is huge, as long as you can have something to

distract yourself with. For me, working within 3 feet of a constant LOUD gum

popper is a situation that is very difficult to distract myself from when I

can't use earplugs, iPods etc... They play the radio at work but it's not very

loud and there are fork lifts, etc... moving around (which is why we can't use

earplugs, etc...). I try to focus on the radio since it's not loud and try to

figure out what song it is. It gives my brain something to concentrate on and

helps to calm me but doesn't work as far as completely distracting me away from

the gum.

I'm willing to try anything which is why I tried CBT. I'm open to new ideas and

experiments so I thank you for trying to help us. All I'm saying is that

everyone's situation is different and things that you do may not be something

others can do.

> >

> > What you focus on expands. Stop giving your attention to smacking of gum and

it will stop occuring in your reality, people will smack their gum still..but

you wont be around them and they wont be around you. Focus on things you

appreciate. This is the cure to 5s...works for me. I hat even thought about/felt

about people smacking gum and i havnt seen or heard anything in 6 months! How do

i exit this group? I hae no need for it. We all come together to complai and

focuz on it...which does nothing but bring more of it to us...

>

[Guest guest]

I see what your saying. Focusing on the problem will make it worse lets look for

solutions. There is a powerful proccess you can apply that absolutly can change

your experience. The Law of Attraction works wether you believe in it or not and

it responds to your thought-feelings about every subject. Ok the proccess is

called Scripting, write down a script of what you want to happen when you go to

work and really get into detial until you are FEELING as if it was already true,

use the power of your imagination. If you do this everyday for 30 minutes i

promise you that THINGS WILL CHANGE. That person will either get switched to a

different office or you willl get promoted and have your own office or he will

stop smacking. But during the proccess everday you should feel exhilerated and

capture the feeling of HAVING IT and hold it. Imagine as if its yours already

and feel what that would feel like. After your done, release that and trust that

its going to happen and start getting excited and start EXPECTING it. Try this

and watch everything change guarenteed.

Yes I do understand what you are saying. However, there are many of us who work at places we are NOT allowed to use iPods nor are we able to just leave that situation immediately. Therefore consistency is not going to work. I completely agree that distraction is huge, as long as you can have something to distract yourself with. For me, working within 3 feet of a constant LOUD gum popper is a situation that is very difficult to distract myself from when I can't use earplugs, iPods etc... They play the radio at work but it's not very loud and there are fork lifts, etc... moving around (which is why we can't use earplugs, etc...). I try to focus on the radio since it's not loud and try to figure out what song it is. It gives my brain something to concentrate on and helps to calm me but doesn't work as far as completely distracting me away from the gum.

I'm willing to try anything which is why I tried CBT. I'm open to new ideas and experiments so I thank you for trying to help us. All I'm saying is that everyone's situation is different and things that you do may not be something others can do.

> >

> > What you focus on expands. Stop giving your attention to smacking of gum and it will stop occuring in your reality, people will smack their gum still..but you wont be around them and they wont be around you. Focus on things you appreciate. This is the cure to 5s...works for me. I hat even thought about/felt about people smacking gum and i havnt seen or heard anything in 6 months! How do i exit this group? I hae no need for it. We all come together to complai and focuz on it...which does nothing but bring more of it to us...

>

[Guest guest]

, I get what you're saying and I'm sorry people were being nitpicky about

your spelling/grammar stuff. You have to realize though, that a lot of us are

in situations where pulling out an ipod nano (if we can even afford one!) or

leaving isn't appropriate or possible. a lot of us are stuck at work or in

classes, etc. that being said, i will continue to try CBT and give this " law of

attraction " thing a shot, but i believe i have been trying it all along and it's

not really working out. we all try not to focus on the triggers. it's not

always possible.

and dude, if your typing this stuff on your phone causes you to write so

horribly you upset people, i discourage you from talking on your phone. wait

until you can get on a computer.

> >

> > What you focus on expands. Stop giving your attention to smacking of gum and

it will stop occuring in your reality, people will smack their gum still..but

you wont be around them and they wont be around you. Focus on things you

appreciate. This is the cure to 5s...works for me. I hat even thought about/felt

about people smacking gum and i havnt seen or heard anything in 6 months! How do

i exit this group? I hae no need for it. We all come together to complai and

focuz on it...which does nothing but bring more of it to us...

>

[Guest guest]

Sam, I love your poem. LOVE IT! There are a few things I'd change tho, are you

open to suggestions?

>

>

>

> 4S, by Sam Mignano

>

> WHATS THAT NOISE??? I scream again,

> It feels like it will never end,

> that clicking, licking, flicking, ticking,

> I cant help it - I'm not nit-picking!

>

> It drives me insane - really - its that bad,

> you wont understand unless you've had,

> an anger so wild you could hurt someone,

> over nothing more than a sound they've done!

>

> A machine that's causing a whirr or a hum,

> will quickly drain my sense of fun,

> Its distracting, annoying, and very tiresome,

> I cant concentrate - its not a tantrum.

>

> I long for a the day when I can be

> relaxed, unwound and truly carefree,

> but that's not going to happen you see,

> because you continue to torture me!

>

> The way you eat, the way you sneeze,

> your P's, your B's, your capital C's!

> Don't act surprised, I know you meant it

> or maybe you didnt but I still need to vent it

>

> Cinemas & restaurants are no fun for us,

> nor trains, or planes - or even the bus!

> Everyday things are a trigger you see,

> for a rage so wild it really scares me.

>

> You sound like a pig when you eat your food,

> Do you even realise it's incredibly rude?

> Those noises you're making out of your snout

> I'm not interested in why - just cut it out!

>

> Zero to psycho in under a second,

> There isn't a reason that can be reckoned,

> Why sniffing, breathing and popping gum,

> Could drive me so wild - its so random!

>

> It's called 4S - yes it does have a name!

> A hearing condition of nominal fame.

> Or is it a mental or an emotional irk

> thats makes us feel like a total jerk?

>

> Nobody knows, though many profess

> to understand this condition - our cause of distress,

> Meanwhile we sit here avoiding sound,

> hoping for a cure, whilst almost housebound.

>

> So medical professionals - just hear our plea

> to research this condition - you hold the key,

> to a cure or a treatment that could ease our pain,

> and help us to start living life fully again.

>

> Sam Mignano

>

>

>

>

>

>

> Mignano

>

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[Guest guest]

That is brilliant, Sam. What a gift you have! You summed it up and

made it pretty with a bow. I'm going to frame it! Thanks.

Re: Having a bad day, so I wrote us a poem!

Thank you for that!

.....It brought tears to my eyes.

Vicki

 

 

Having a bad day, so I wrote us a poem!

 

4S, by Sam Mignano

WHATS THAT NOISE??? I scream again,

It feels like it will never end,

that clicking, licking, flicking, ticking,

I cant help it - I'm not nit-picking!

It drives me insane - really - its that bad,

you wont understand unless you've had,

an anger so wild you could hurt someone,

over nothing more than a sound they've done!

A machine that's causing a whirr or a hum,

will quickly drain my sense of fun,

Its distracting, annoying, and very tiresome,

I cant concentrate - its not a tantrum.

I long for a the day when I can be

relaxed, unwound and truly carefree,

but that's not going to happen you see,

because you continue to torture me!

The way you eat, the way you=2

0sneeze,

your P's, your B's, your capital C's!

Don't act surprised, I know you meant it

or maybe you didnt but I still need to vent it

Cinemas & restaurants are no fun for us,

nor trains, or planes - or even the bus!

Everyday things are a trigger you see,

for a rage so wild it really scares me.

You sound like a pig when you eat your food,

Do you even realise it's incredibly rude?

Those noises you're making out of your snout

I'm not interested in why - just cut it out!

Zero to psycho in under a second,

There isn't a reason that can be reckoned,

Why sniffing, breathing and popping gum,

Could drive me so wild - its so random!

It's called 4S - yes it does have a name!

A hearing condition of nominal fame.

Or is it a mental or an emotional irk

thats makes us feel like a total jerk?

Nobody knows, though many profess

to understand this condition - our cause of distress,

Meanwhile we sit here avoiding sound,

hoping for a cure, whilst almost housebound.

So medical professionals - just hear our plea

to research this condition - you hold the key,

to a cure or a treatment that could ease our pain,

and help us to start living life fully again.

Sam Mignano

Mignano

Beyond Metrix Ltd ~ evolving business online ~

http://www.beyondmetrix.com

Independent website audits, web strategy, web design & development,

usability, accessibility, SEO & online marketing.

Need=2

0help with your website? Call us now for a free website audit

consultation. 08456 44 88 54

A UK registered limited company. Company Registration Number: 5734561.

VAT registration number 891 2460 17

[Guest guest]

You do make a really good point, ; however, until everybody gets

to that place, sometimes it helps to moan a groan a bit. Plus that's

how everybody finds this place while googling. But it is a point well

taken. Perhaps we need 2 groups-1 to gripe and 1 to do positive

thinking and ways to cope. Really good thought and point well taken.

Having a bad day, so I wrote us a poem!

To: Soundsensitivity

Date: Tuesday, September 22, 2009, 7:31 AM

 

4S, by Sam Mignano

WHATS THAT NOISE??? I scream again,

It feels like it will never end,

that clicking, licking, flicking, ticking,

I cant help it - I'm not nit-picking!

It drives me insane - really - its that bad,

you wont understand unless you've had,

an anger so wild you could hurt someone,

over nothing more than a sound they've done!

A machine that's causing a whirr or a hum,

will quickly drain my sense of fun,

Its distracting, annoying, and very tiresome,

I cant concentrate - its not a tantrum.

I long for a the day when I can be

relaxed, unwound and truly carefree,

but that's not going to happen you see,

because you continue to torture me!

The way you eat, the way you sneeze,

your P's, your B's, your capital C's!

Don't act surprised, I know you meant it

or maybe you didnt but I still need to vent it

Cinemas & restaurants are no fun for us,

nor trains, or planes - or even the bus!

Everyday things are a trigger you see,

for a rage so wild it=2

0really scares me.

You sound like a pig when you eat your food,

Do you even realise it's incredibly rude?

Those noises you're making out of your snout

I'm not interested in why - just cut it out!

Zero to psycho in under a second,

There isn't a reason that can be reckoned,

Why sniffing, breathing and popping gum,

Could drive me so wild - its so random!

It's called 4S - yes it does have a name!

A hearing condition of nominal fame.

Or is it a mental or an emotional irk

thats makes us feel like a total jerk?

Nobody knows, though many profess

to understand this condition - our cause of distress,

Meanwhile we sit here avoiding sound,

hoping for a cure, whilst almost housebound.

So medical professionals - just hear our plea

to research this condition - you hold the key,

to a cure or a treatment that could ease our pain,

and help us to start living life fully again.

Sam Mignano

Mignano

Beyond Metrix Ltd ~ evolving business online ~ http://www.beyondme

trix.com

Independent website audits, web strategy, web design & development,

usability, accessibility, SEO & online marketing.

Need help with your website? Call us now for a free website audit

consultation. 08456 44 88 54

A UK registered limited company. Company Registration Number: 5734561.

VAT registration number 891 2460 17

[Guest guest]

I appreciate that you are trying to help here, but there is an excessive focus on the psychological aspect of 4S here, and an almost total failure to accept that there might be/is a physiological aspect - in fact that is probably the core of this.

Sometimes it is just not possible, because of circumstances, to move away from the problem sounds. I think most people here have tried distractions, but for many the physiological aspect to this overrides the psychological and thus they cannot get the same result as you have.

As for th e Law of Attraction, I've had a quick look at the wiki page for it, and I am not convinced at alla about it:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Law_of_Attraction

For example, 'Scientists have stated that many of the Law's claims appear impossible without violating scientific principles and a scientific understanding of the universe'., Hull. To: Soundsensitivity From: james_riley42@...Date: Wed, 23 Sep 2009 00:13:30 +0000Subject: Re: Having a bad day, so I wrote us a poem!Spell check lol im on my phone....look im right wether u guys realize it or not. You get what u focus on. Stop focusing on it and it will stop. Simple as that. Study the Law of Attraction and free yourself. ------------------------------------ PLEASE BE AWARE THIS IS A STRICTLY CONFIDENTIAL GROUP AND NO MESSAGES ARE TO BE USED FOR ANY PURPOSE OUTSIDE OF THE YAHOO GROUP MEMBERSHIP SITE OR REPRODUCED OR COPIED AND MAILED FOR ANY PURPOSE. ALSO DO NOT SHARE MEMBER EMAIL ADDRESSES OR NAMES WITH ANYONE.Thank you. MJ

[Guest guest]

The cynic in me was thinking that any time now we would get an affiliate link to a buy button for said Laws of Attraction course!! (though now I have posted this, no doubt this would be vehemently denied of course!)I am sure that some people could be helped if they managed to tune things out - but having it force fed to me by someone adamant he is right and who has apparently suffered much more than anyone here gets right on my chips!There are ways of introducing ideas without sounding so far up one's own @rse that they are virtually circular!Sam MignanoBeyond Metrix Ltd ~ evolving business online ~ http://www.beyondmetrix.comIndependent website audits, web strategy, web design & development, usability, accessibility, SEO & online marketing.Need help with your website? Call us now for a free website audit consultation. 08456 44 88 54A UK registered limited company. Company Registration Number: 5734561. VAT registration number 891 2460 17 I appreciate that you are trying to help here, but there is an excessive focus on the psychological aspect of 4S here, and an almost total failure to accept that there might be/is a physiological aspect - in fact that is probably the core of this. Sometimes it is just not possible, because of circumstances, to move away from the problem sounds. I think most people here have tried distractions, but for many the physiological aspect to this overrides the psychological and thus they cannot get the same result as you have. As for th e Law of Attraction, I've had a quick look at the wiki page for it, and I am not convinced at alla about it: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Law_of_Attraction For example, 'Scientists have stated that many of the Law's claims appear impossible without violating scientific principles and a scientific understanding of the universe'., Hull. To: Soundsensitivity From: james_riley42Date: Wed, 23 Sep 2009 00:13:30 +0000Subject: Re: Having a bad day, so I wrote us a poem!Spell check lol im on my phone....look im right wether u guys realize it or not. You get what u focus on. Stop focusing on it and it will stop. Simple as that. Study the Law of Attraction and free yourself. ------------------------------------ PLEASE BE AWARE THIS IS A STRICTLY CONFIDENTIAL GROUP AND NO MESSAGES ARE TO BE USED FOR ANY PURPOSE OUTSIDE OF THE YAHOO GROUP MEMBERSHIP SITE OR REPRODUCED OR COPIED AND MAILED FOR ANY PURPOSE. ALSO DO NOT SHARE MEMBER EMAIL ADDRESSES OR NAMES WITH ANYONE.Thank you. MJ

[Guest guest]

Well you could edit mine - but mine was merely my feelings and way of dealing with my day - I often find writing silly or funny ditties lightens my mood whilst also helping to get the feelings out.We could always have a poems section maybe - and then you could write your own in your own way?Sam MignanoBeyond Metrix Ltd ~ evolving business online ~ http://www.beyondmetrix.comIndependent website audits, web strategy, web design & development, usability, accessibility, SEO & online marketing.Need help with your website? Call us now for a free website audit consultation. 08456 44 88 54A UK registered limited company. Company Registration Number: 5734561. VAT registration number 891 2460 17 Sam, I love your poem. LOVE IT! There are a few things I'd change tho, are you open to suggestions?>> > > 4S, by Sam Mignano> > WHATS THAT NOISE??? I scream again,> It feels like it will never end,> that clicking, licking, flicking, ticking,> I cant help it - I'm not nit-picking!> > It drives me insane - really - its that bad,> you wont understand unless you've had,> an anger so wild you could hurt someone,> over nothing more than a sound they've done!> > A machine that's causing a whirr or a hum,> will quickly drain my sense of fun,> Its distracting, annoying, and very tiresome,> I cant concentrate - its not a tantrum.> > I long for a the day when I can be> relaxed, unwound and truly carefree,> but that's not going to happen you see,> because you continue to torture me!> > The way you eat, the way you sneeze,> your P's, your B's, your capital C's!> Don't act surprised, I know you meant it> or maybe you didnt but I still need to vent it> > Cinemas & restaurants are no fun for us,> nor trains, or planes - or even the bus!> Everyday things are a trigger you see,> for a rage so wild it really scares me.> > You sound like a pig when you eat your food,> Do you even realise it's incredibly rude?> Those noises you're making out of your snout> I'm not interested in why - just cut it out!> > Zero to psycho in under a second,> There isn't a reason that can be reckoned,> Why sniffing, breathing and popping gum,> Could drive me so wild - its so random!> > It's called 4S - yes it does have a name!> A hearing condition of nominal fame.> Or is it a mental or an emotional irk> thats makes us feel like a total jerk?> > Nobody knows, though many profess> to understand this condition - our cause of distress,> Meanwhile we sit here avoiding sound,> hoping for a cure, whilst almost housebound.> > So medical professionals - just hear our plea> to research this condition - you hold the key,> to a cure or a treatment that could ease our pain,> and help us to start living life fully again.> > Sam Mignano> > > > > > > Mignano> > Beyond Metrix Ltd ~ evolving business online ~ http://www.beyondmetrix.com> > Independent website audits, web strategy, web design & development, > usability, accessibility, SEO & online marketing.> > Need help with your website? Call us now for a free website audit > consultation. 08456 44 88 54> > A UK registered limited company. Company Registration Number: 5734561. > VAT registration number 891 2460 17>

[Guest guest]

Sam, once again your gift with words is brilliant--and you make me

laugh. Thanks!

Re: Having a bad day, so I wrote us a poem!

Spell check lol im on my phone....look im right wether u guys realize

it or not. You get what u focus on. Stop focusing on it and it will

stop. Simple as

that. Study the Law of At

traction and free yourself.

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Just a note that one cannot always move away or plug in music. I type

dictation and I must listen to all the smacking and lovely sounds and

cannot turn on music. Just have to grit my teeth and get through it,

only to do it all over again all night long. Yes, I do try to focus on

something else--it's my only option, so you definitely have a point.

Anyway, I come to this board for giggles, sharing, and exciting

interaction such as this. Yes, it's been entertaining, I must admit.

Got my mind off of work! Thanks, all, for that. Good to know everyone

is alive and well and paying attention.

Lynn

Re: Having a bad day, so I wrote us a poem!

Date:

Wed, 23 Sep 2009 04:47:21 -0000

First of all, ... your poem was wonderful! Thank you!

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I think you mean well by what you are saying, but by insisting that

because it worked for you it WILL work for everyone (because you know

you are right) isn't really the best way to go about supporting people

into trying the same thing. What you are describing is a lot like CBT

which is what I have been working on for 9 months now. Yes, it's true

that what you focus on expands. The problem with people who have 4S is

that they focus on it even when they don't want to. Their brains are

zapped so to speak.

You said this... " You cant control conditions but you can control how

you react to them. " I disagree. True you can't control conditions,

but in our cas

e the way we react to them is the PROBLEM. We react to

them spontaneously without thought in ways we don't want to. If we

could control the way we reacted to them, then none of us would be

here. I have tried for 9 months to 'interfere' with my thought process

to somehow stop that reaction before it happens. It's impossible for

me to catch it before it starts. The only thing I can do is use the

power of my mind to calm myself down faster. I then let it go. I

don't get mad about something that happened 5 hours ago, but letting it

go doesn't prevent me from getting mad all over again an hour later.

You also said, " How do i exit this group? " that you had no need for it

anymore. That's great, I'm glad this works for you but don't judge

others because it may not work for them.

Simply click on " Edit Membership " up above and then click " Leave Group "

in the bottom right hand corner. Best to you.

Darlene

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> What you focus on expands. Stop giving your attention to smacking of

gum and it will stop occuring in your reality, people will smack their

gum still..but you wont be around them and they wont be around you.

Focus on things you appreciate. This is the cure to 5s...works for me.

I hat even thought about/felt about people smacking gum and i havnt

s

een or heard anything in 6 months! How do i exit this group? I hae no

need for it. We all come together to complai and focuz on it...which

does nothing but bring more of it to us...