My daughter

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Hi,

In reply to all that wrote to me.

My daughter is turning 19 at the end of next month and her boyfriend is nine

years older than her. Tara only knows too well what her boyfriend is like,

he has stolen her wallet twice because of his drug habits. Tara doesn't

drink alcohol, due drugs or smoke cigarettes so she is taking on a great

amount if she moves with this guy to another city.

I always expected her to leave home one day and would never consider holding

her back from doing this. I just wish that it was under happier

circumstances. I do get along with my daughter but it is hard when I never

know what mood she is in. I think that teenagers develop a split personality

for a time. One day I will say something and it's okay but the next day it

is wrong. It is so hard to have conversations with her when I don't know how

she is going to react

I have realised that I will have to move from here and I am starting to

emotionally prepare for it. I will have to find a home for one cat and the

dog, which is sad. I'm thinking of actually moving out of this city and

going more rural. Where I'm thinking of moving to is still close to the city

but far away enough for me to enjoy the country life. Health Care workers

are checking to what services are available in the town for me. If I do make

the move, it won't be straight away when Tara moves out.

I have noticed that I lack a lot of strength in my arms now and it makes

getting out of my home difficult in the wheel chair. My driveway is slightly

slopping and I loose traction going down and up. Last week I nearly had an

accident leaving here because of it and it was lucky that the taxi driver

grabbed the chair in time. Once I'm out I have no more problems like this

until I get home again.

My life is taking another turn, one I don't like but I will go with the flow

of it. It would have been so much better if my daughter had told me what she

was planning in a nicer way. I think that city life can be very lonely when

you are on your own. People are too busy in the cities now and don't take

time out to get to know their neighbours. I have never liked city living.

Thankyou for all your support, it is very appreciated.

Cherie

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> Questions:

> What is White noise? Pink Noise? Is it something she can use when she is at

school?

White noise and pink noise are descriptions of sound with lots of different

frequencies in it (also called " broadband " ). With white noise all the different

frequencies have the same power, while with pink noise the power depends on the

frequency. I think naturally occuring broadband noise tends to be more pink

than white, so a pink noise generator might sound more " natural " . Either way,

think of pink or white noise as being like static on a radio or waves on a

beach: there is no particular frequency or tone you can pick out.

> Is there any reason to take her to an Audiologist?

Probably, but don't get your hopes up too high. If your daughter's sound

sensitivities are rooted in hyperacusis (hypersensitivity to certain frequencies

of sound) then there is treatment that might be helpful (basically the same

treatment as is used for tinnitus). Unfortunately, it seems like most cases of

these sorts of sound sensitivies do not evolve from hyperacusis so the tinnitus

retraining therapy (TRT) may not be that helpful. The use of noise generators

can mask the trigger sounds but I don't think it is believed to actually address

the underlying problem.

Another thing an audiologist can diagnose is Central Auditory Processing

Disorder (CAPD). I don't know if there is evidence that CAPD can lead to

misophonia, but I've seen one audiologist who believes that there may be a

relationship. My daughter tested negative for hyperacusis but positive for

CAPD. We've yet to attempt any therapy for CAPD so I don't know if it will

help.

> Has anyone tried EFT to see if it helps?

I don't know if anyone has tried this. I'm not a big fan of alternative

therapies that have no plausible underlying theory. I don't know if EFT is

plausible, but a cursory look leaves me very skeptical.

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> I am open to any and all suggestions advice whatever. I so despertly want to

help her but feel so frustrated and helpless.

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I share your frustrations as a parent of a child with misophonia. It sounds

like you are on the right track as far as understanding that this is not

something they can control. I think the more supportive, understanding, and

patient we are, the less intense the sensitivity.

At least one person (and maybe a few people) on this forum have reported

success with changes in diet (See GAPS diet). I don't think I could get my

daughter to stick with that so we haven't tried it yet. Several people have

reported that Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is helpful. While it doesn't get rid

of the sensitivity, it does seem to help people attenuate their response to it.

> Thank you,

> Kim

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Good luck.

-Craig