Would AS males here give feedback...

[Guest guest]

Maybe its because of the dark days here, but I've been on and off mulling

over and trying to process the relationship with Carl and the break up etc.

Not really sad about it, just processing it. A RL male friend had told me

several months back, when discussing some frustrations with him, that I had the

power to 'get' Carl to turn around and make more effort in the relationship, 'as

women are able to do.' 'Women turn men around all the time,' he claimed. I

suppose I know what this means, but the concept seems foreign and baffling.

A lot, of course, had to do with his refusal/inability to deal with AS, both

within himself and me, altho he did gladly grab hold of the term 'sensory

overload' and embraced that concept.

To me, the concept of turning someone around and trying to shape their

behavior requires more energy than I am capable of and also engaging in plotting

my own behavior, which is much too draining to even attempt. Not to mention

stepping out of the realm of being genuine in my own behavior.

I'm just curious about the thoughts of others on this.

Nanne