Re: p.m.s. and ssss

[Guest guest]

If your husband was around and he said nothing to her, than he is

more of a jerk than I care to write in this forum.

The cousin needs to have boundaries set. If she can't follow them,

then she shouldn't be allowed to come over your house.

There's a book you should read called " How to Change Anyone " . I

suggest you read it before you hurt someone.

>

> My sensitivities have been horrible for the past few days! I was

> trying to figure out what factors would have made it so much worse.

I

> stopped my wellbutrin and prozac on easter weekend because I never

> felt like it did much for me (except mess up my sleep routine) but

> maybe it DID help a little. I also have P.M.S. and I think that

that

> could be a possilbe reason too. I just hope it settles down a bit

> soon. If not my husbands gonna be miserable. He's my main target

> unless my dad is around BUT lately new people have even been

getting

> to me more than before too.

>

> For example:

> I was literally screaming at my husbands cousin this weekend! She's

> been hanging around our house a lot lately and stayed over the

other

> night. Her, my son, daughter and I were all watching a movie

> together, which is very rare and nearly impossible for me because

of

> my son's throat clearing noises But I thought I'd try really hard

to

> deal so we could have a nice weekend AND because we had company.

YA!

> I was doing pretty well with it until she (the cousin) moves to a

> different position in which her feet were in my direct line of

> vision. THIS I can not tolerate from anyone! Even people I don't

know

> well can irritate me by shaking their foot or wiggling their toes

if

> they do it in a certain way. Of course I immediately get on guard.

> All of a sudden She starts moving her big toe back and forth really

> fast AND IT'S MAKING A CLICKING NOISE EACH TIME. Needless to say, I

> freaked right out. I asked her to stop moving her feet and to put

> them somewhere that I couldnt see them. Instead of being cool and

> moving them out of my way she began to laugh HYSTERICALLY AT me

while

> she continued to do it more! Why do they do that?! I dont

understand

> why others think it's funny to bring panic and rage out of people.

I

> was already in a very uncomfortable situation and it just set me

off

> really badly. The more I reacted the more she did it. I was so

close

> to wanting to slap her that I ended up going into my bedroom and

> taking a nap just to escape from it all. I think the part that

> bothers me the most is that she's sat in my computer room with me

and

> read mine and other posts on here but still doesnt understand how

> upsetting it really is to us. She can't grasp it. She just thinks

it

> funny. It doesnt make me eager to run out and tell more people! It

> gives them more control over us than they already have. I always

> worry about that because when I was younger people in my family

would

> intentionally do the things that trigger me so that I would get

upset

> and they could laugh. It's like tripping a crippled person and then

> standing over them pointing and giggling while they struggle to get

> up. I'm sick of it!

>

[Guest guest]

Your mom is an asshole.

> >

> > Hi Kim

> >

> >

> >

> > Sorry you had to go through that torment.

> >

> > I think the reason they laugh is through embarrassment, you made

your

> > cousin aware of the foot movement and she got embarrassed and

therefore hid

> > that by laughing at you. It takes a bigger person to realize that

what they

> > are doing *Might* be annoying to other people and to stop it when

asked. I

> > think the torment you received afterwards is her way of hiding

her failing

> > to understand and be fair in that situation (after all you have

informed her

> > of your SSS and pointed her to this site)

> >

> >

> >

> > Its like Ping Pong Reactions – they make the noise, we react to

it, they

> > react to our reaction and we react back at that, it either ends

in tears or

> > solitary confinement.

> >

> >

> >

> > Control the ping-pong reactions by throwing away your bat once

you have

> > served.

> >

> >

> >

> > Neil

> >

> >

> >

> > * p.m.s. and ssss

> >

> >

> >

> > My sensitivities have been horrible for the past few days! I was

> > trying to figure out what factors would have made it so much

worse. I

> > stopped my wellbutrin and prozac on easter weekend because I never

> > felt like it did much for me (except mess up my sleep routine) but

> > maybe it DID help a little. I also have P.M.S. and I think that

that

> > could be a possilbe reason too. I just hope it settles down a bit

> > soon. If not my husbands gonna be miserable. He's my main target

> > unless my dad is around BUT lately new people have even been

getting

> > to me more than before too.

> >

> > For example:

> > I was literally screaming at my husbands cousin this weekend!

She's

> > been hanging around our house a lot lately and stayed over the

other

> > night. Her, my son, daughter and I were all watching a movie

> > together, which is very rare and nearly impossible for me because

of

> > my son's throat clearing noises But I thought I'd try really hard

to

> > deal so we could have a nice weekend AND because we had company.

YA!

> > I was doing pretty well with it until she (the cousin) moves to a

> > different position in which her feet were in my direct line of

> > vision. THIS I can not tolerate from anyone! Even people I don't

know

> > well can irritate me by shaking their foot or wiggling their toes

if

> > they do it in a certain way. Of course I immediately get on guard.

> > All of a sudden She starts moving her big toe back and forth

really

> > fast AND IT'S MAKING A CLICKING NOISE EACH TIME. Needless to say,

I

> > freaked right out. I asked her to stop moving her feet and to put

> > them somewhere that I couldnt see them. Instead of being cool and

> > moving them out of my way she began to laugh HYSTERICALLY AT me

while

> > she continued to do it more! Why do they do that?! I dont

understand

> > why others think it's funny to bring panic and rage out of

people. I

> > was already in a very uncomfortable situation and it just set me

off

> > really badly. The more I reacted the more she did it. I was so

close

> > to wanting to slap her that I ended up going into my bedroom and

> > taking a nap just to escape from it all. I think the part that

> > bothers me the most is that she's sat in my computer room with me

and

> > read mine and other posts on here but still doesnt understand how

> > upsetting it really is to us. She can't grasp it. She just thinks

it

> > funny. It doesnt make me eager to run out and tell more people! It

> > gives them more control over us than they already have. I always

> > worry about that because when I was younger people in my family

would

> > intentionally do the things that trigger me so that I would get

upset

> > and they could laugh. It's like tripping a crippled person and

then

> > standing over them pointing and giggling while they struggle to

get

> > up. I'm sick of it!

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >