Re: Re: Alone time and space... just wondering how many people here feel they need it?

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Darlene,That's another great image I now have of you... reading your book 20' up a tree. Go girl!Wish my retreats were that exciting... I relate to your mum I'm take trips to the grocery store to get alone time in the car. However, I have just taken up playing the trumpet which is a great excuse to shut myself in a room while family member stay well away. He he!Ingrid.Hey Ingrid! Well, I've talked a bit about this with you through e-mail but to add to the pot here... I am the same way. I have always been like this. I don't mind being alone. Don't get me wrong, I love my family and friends and love to spend time with them, but there are times when I crave being by myself. One of my favorite "alone" activities (in summer) is to climb my favorite tree and read a book 20 feet off the ground. Strange I know. There is something about being up with the birds and being able to see out over the farmland while listening to the wind howl through the pines. It's peaceful, and I don't think it would work if someone was with me. Being alone allows me to think, and sort of wind down. I don't think it's totally because of my 4S... my mom is the same way. She loves to go to the grocery store once a week just to "get out" and be alone in the car on the way to the store. My parents are retired and with each oth! er 24/7 so her grocery trips are like a vacation. LOL. So yeah, I love my alone time.>> Hi everyone,> > Just wondering if everyone else here often feels the need for time out from people? I'm not just talking about time out from trigger sounds, I'm thinking more of time alone, irrespective of whether people around you are making trigger sounds or not. It doesn't even have to be quiet time alone, it could be that you like watching TV, going for walks, listening to music or doing non-quiet things but you are happier doing them alone.> > If you are like this do you think it is related to having 4S or did you for example inherit this trait? > > Ingrid.>

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Darlene, Ingrid,Car "alone time" is one of my most relaxing activities )Love,andraTo: Soundsensitivity Sent: Monday, March 9, 2009 2:31:23 AMSubject: Re: Re: Alone time and

space... just wondering how many people here feel they need it?

Darlene,That's another great image I now have of you... reading your book 20' up a tree. Go girl!Wish my retreats were that exciting... I relate to your mum I'm take trips to the grocery store to get alone time in the car. However, I have just taken up playing the trumpet which is a great excuse to shut myself in a room while family member stay well away. He he!Ingrid.Hey Ingrid! Well, I've talked a bit about this with you through e-mail but to add to the pot here... I am the same way. I have always been like this. I don't mind being alone. Don't get me wrong, I love my family and friends and love to spend time with them, but there are times when I crave being by myself. One of my favorite "alone" activities (in summer) is to climb my favorite tree and read a book 20 feet off the ground. Strange I know. There is something about being up with the birds and being able to see out over the farmland while listening to the wind howl through the pines. It's peaceful, and I don't

think it would work if someone was with me. Being alone allows me to think, and sort of wind down. I don't think it's totally because of my 4S... my mom is the same way. She loves to go to the grocery store once a week just to "get out" and be alone in the car on the way to the store. My parents are retired and with each oth! er 24/7 so her grocery trips are like a vacation. LOL. So yeah, I love my alone time.>> Hi everyone,> > Just wondering if everyone else here often feels the need for time out from people? I'm not just talking about time out from trigger sounds, I'm thinking more of time alone, irrespective of whether people around you are making trigger sounds or not. It doesn't even have to be quiet time alone, it could be that you like watching TV, going for walks, listening to music or doing non-quiet things but you are happier doing them alone.> > If you are like this do you think it is related to having 4S or did you for example inherit this trait? > > Ingrid.>

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Darlene,

I used to do the same thing...when I was younger and wasn't worried about breaking something on my way down...lol

Vicki

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Monday, March 9, 2009 1:31:23 AMSubject: Re: Re: Alone time and space... just wondering how many people here feel they need it?

Darlene,

That's another great image I now have of you... reading your book 20' up a tree. Go girl!

Wish my retreats were that exciting... I relate to your mum I'm take trips to the grocery store to get alone time in the car. However, I have just taken up playing the trumpet which is a great excuse to shut myself in a room while family member stay well away. He he!

Ingrid.

Hey Ingrid! Well, I've talked a bit about this with you through e-mail but to add to the pot here... I am the same way. I have always been like this. I don't mind being alone. Don't get me wrong, I love my family and friends and love to spend time with them, but there are times when I crave being by myself. One of my favorite "alone" activities (in summer) is to climb my favorite tree and read a book 20 feet off the ground. Strange I know. There is something about being up with the birds and being able to see out over the farmland while listening to the wind howl through the pines. It's peaceful, and I don't think it would work if someone was with me. Being alone allows me to think, and sort of wind down. I don't think it's totally because of my 4S... my mom is the same way. She loves to go to the grocery store once a week just to "get out" and be alone in the car on the way to the store. My parents are retired and with each oth! er 24/7 so her

grocery trips are like a vacation. LOL. So yeah, I love my alone time.>> Hi everyone,> > Just wondering if everyone else here often feels the need for time out from people? I'm not just talking about time out from trigger sounds, I'm thinking more of time alone, irrespective of whether people around you are making trigger sounds or not. It doesn't even have to be quiet time alone, it could be that you like watching TV, going for walks, listening to music or doing non-quiet things but you are happier doing them alone.> > If you are like this do you think it is related to having 4S or did you for example inherit this trait? > > Ingrid.>

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Well I am so glad it made sense to someone...lol.

Sometimes when I type out what I am thinking, then reread it I often wonder what the heck I just wrote.

In reading more emails I do realize I like my alone time to. I enjoy my 1/2 hour drive to work everyday. When my kids are in the car with me (not very often) they know not to talk. Poor girls!

We live on the family farm and people just feel that they can drop in anytime...unannounced and do whatever. This drives me nuts...I have no time to prepare. It is annoying needless to say.

My step son was here for the weekend...and he is a gum chewer, not a popper, but all the same it drove me nuts.. He will be working on the farm for his summer job this year...I am dreading it. Plus all the other people that drop in (I'm sure to annoy me).

Well I could go on and on and on...but I wont. I'm at work and just don't feel like working right now.

Vicki

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Monday, March 9, 2009 2:51:33 PMSubject: Re: Alone time and space... just wondering how many people here feel they need it?

Hey Vicki, what you said makes perfect sense to me. That bit about not getting too close to people; for fear that you might have to hear their sounds, and then explain 4S to them. I've been like that all my life... but, for me, I have got a bit fed up with the fear... I think I decided I do want to be really good friends with some people. I love being around people too, and I really have to balance my need for alone time with my need to be with people because I do like and need both situations. I'd go crazy if I never spent time with friends, and I do love hanging out with friends. So I'm not sure whether I'm a loner or just someone who needs a good amount of alone time. Ingrid.> >Hi everyone,> > >Just wondering if everyone else here often feels the need for time out from people? I'm not just talking about time out from trigger sounds, I'm thinking more of! time alone, irrespective of whether people around you are making trigger sounds or not. It doesn't even have to be quiet time alone, it could be that you like

watching TV, going for walks, listening to music or doing non-quiet things but you are happier doing them alone.> > >If you are like this do you think it is related to having 4S or did you for example inherit this trait? > > >Ingrid.>

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You're in good company, Waleska. I'm four-ten myself. Whenever I tell someone my height, they usually say "Wow! Finally, someone I'm taller than!" XD= M-F.>I get this feeling too. I love being alone. It recharges my batteries. Today I was thinking that if I feel more opressed by trigger sounds because I am petite (4' 10"). I often feel taller people breathing heavily over me and making trigger sounds and I feel "hello, I am down here, down you see". jajajajjajajajjaj.

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Hi Darlene,Unfortunately I'm the one with a temper in our relationship. Our relationship has helped me tremendously as I see how he is able to remain calm in order to be able to work things out. It has helped me incredibly in controlling my emotions in an effort to make the relationship work. I'm sure that you have the same effect on your partner. Don't underestimate the impact and positive effect that you have on him just by your example.Love,andraFrom: Darlene

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Monday, March 9, 2009 11:26:23 PMSubject: Re: Alone time and space... just wondering how many people here feel they need it?

I like to talk about things 'right here and now' as long as people can be civil with each other. I don't like to go to bed angry at someone or have someone angry with me because if the next day arrives, and we go about our busy lives, we never discuss things. But, my husband has a temper and sometimes he is better left to dwell in his thoughts before having a discussion. Other wise, things that weren't meant to be said are said and feelings are hurt. I would rather talk in the moment, but I'm able to actually discuss things without getting angry unlike him. LOL. It's interesting how different we all are. > > From: ingrid.spielman <ingridether (DOT) com.au>> Subject:

Alone time and space... just wondering how many people here feel they need it?> To: Soundsensitivity@ yahoogroups. com> Date: Sunday, March 8, 2009, 12:30 AM> > > Hi everyone,> > Just wondering if everyone else here often feels the need for time out from people? I'm not just talking about time out from trigger sounds, I'm thinking more of time alone, irrespective of whether people around you are making trigger sounds or not. It doesn't even have to be quiet time alone, it could be that you like watching TV, going! for walks, listening to music or doing non-quiet things but you are h appier doing them alone.> > If you are like this do you think it is related to having 4S or did you for example inherit this trait? > > Ingrid.>------------------------------------PLEASE BE AWARE THIS IS A STRICTLY CONFIDENTIAL GROUP AND NO

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"tree dangle."............I picture us looking like Christmas Tree ornaments with a big ole gorilla!

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Tuesday, March 10, 2009 11:12:15 PMSubject: Re: Alone time and space... just wondering how many people here feel they need it?

HELL NO!!!!! That bird is staying put. No tree for her! I'd rather sit in the tree with a gorilla than that thing. LOL, you guys are too funny and make my day!> >> > Darlene,> > I used to do the same thing...when I was younger and wasn't worried about breaking something on my way down..lol> > Vicki> > > > > >>

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I agree ) It's like a drug for me...sometimes I think it's the thing I enjoy most in life!!!To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Tuesday, March 17, 2009 7:34:40 PMSubject: Re: Alone time and space... just wondering how many people here feel they need it?

*giggle* You are right there! I just meant that often times chocolate comes in really small packages. But because it's chocolate, goodie of the Gods, it is the greatest thing no matter how small the package. But I'd much rather have a gigantic box and pig out. > >> > I say greater things come in smaller packages It works that way with chocolate!> >

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chocolate....just thinking about it makes me gain weight! (as I just finished a baby Snickers bar)

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Thursday, March 19, 2009 12:21:59 PMSubject: Re: Re: Alone time and space... just wondering how many people here feel they need it?

I agree ) It's like a drug for me...sometimes I think it's the thing I enjoy most in life!!!

From: Darlene <gizziecookie@ yahoo.com>To: Soundsensitivity@ yahoogroups. comSent: Tuesday, March 17, 2009 7:34:40 PMSubject: Re: Alone time and space... just wondering how many people here feel they need it?*giggle* You are right there! I just meant that often times chocolate comes in really small packages. But because it's chocolate, goodie of the Gods, it is the greatest thing no matter how small the package. But I'd much rather have a gigantic box and pig out. > >> > I say greater things come in smaller packages It works that way with chocolate!> > ------------ --------- --------- ------PLEASE BE AWARE THIS IS A STRICTLY CONFIDENTIAL GROUP AND NO MESSAGES ARE TO BE USED FOR ANY PURPOSE OUTSIDE OF THE YAHOO GROUP MEMBERSHIP SITE OR REPRODUCED OR COPIED AND MAILED FOR ANY PURPOSE. ALSO DO NOT SHARE MEMBER EMAIL ADDRESSES OR NAMES WITH ANYONE.Thank you. MJ