Re: sounds I don't hate

[Guest guest]

FunJ. I think it is tacky for any “professional” to chew gum or

basically anyone on any job with the public. Though, may have something to do

with the fact it drives me nuts tooJ.

From: Soundsensitivity

[mailto:Soundsensitivity ] On Behalf Of

Sent: Friday, April 10, 2009 5:49 PM

To: Soundsensitivity

Subject: sounds I don't hate

Ok, so here I am all alone in my house trying to relax, and all I can think

about is the gum that the doctor I saw earlier today was chewing. GUM!! I

almost told her that I can't talk to her unless she throws it out, but I really

want her to actually like me... it would take too long to start over with a new

allergist.

I think it might help me to make a list of sounds that I do not hate. Maybe it

will help take my mind off of all the sounds that I do hate...

It's worth a try, anyway. Here's a random list of sounds I don't hate, in no

particular order.

1. the sound of the electric stapler in my office

2. dog barks, mostly -- depends on the dog and type of bark, but for the most

part dogs barking noises don't bother me

3. music (obviously only music that I like)

4. this twangy sound that a spring used to make in our old dishwasher when we

opened the door.. the new one doesn't do that, but it's much quieter in every

other way, so it's alright

5. the sound of my own dog drinking water (although other dogs drinking noises

sometimes annoy me)

6. the sound of my dog chewing on a bone (I do NOT understand why that doesn't

bother me, she's loud.. a person could be a fraction of that volume and I would

want to smash all their teeth out.. my dog does it and I barely notice)

7. the dinging sound that old fashioned typewriters would make when they got to

the side of a page

8. ticker tape machines

9. the sound that two 1 pound (as in the currency in england) coins make when

they click together

10. the sound of ice cubes cracking when they are put in water, and the sound

of the ice cubes in the water hitting against each other (although the sound of

ice cubes hitting against a plastic cup bothers me)

11. sounds of a modem connecting to the internet, or the sounds of a fax

machine connecting

12. the sound of the clicker thing that they use in dog training

....of course there are more sounds than this that I don't hate, but those are

the sounds that I was able to bring to mind right now. It is SO much easier to

think of sounds I do hate than sounds I don't. Oh well, at least I just spent

the last 5 minutes or so concentrating on more positive things.

I guess that's it for now.

[Guest guest]

You know you're right about this one...I really never thought about it...

---the sound of my dog chewing on a bone (I do NOT understand why that doesn't bother me, she's loud.. a person could be a fraction of that volume and I would want to smash all their teeth out.. my dog does it and I barely notice)

Why is this?

Subject: sounds I don't hateTo: Soundsensitivity Date: Friday, April 10, 2009, 2:49 PM

Ok, so here I am all alone in my house trying to relax, and all I can think about is the gum that the doctor I saw earlier today was chewing. GUM!! I almost told her that I can't talk to her unless she throws it out, but I really want her to actually like me... it would take too long to start over with a new allergist. I think it might help me to make a list of sounds that I do not hate. Maybe it will help take my mind off of all the sounds that I do hate...It's worth a try, anyway. Here's a random list of sounds I don't hate, in no particular order. 1. the sound of the electric stapler in my office2. dog barks, mostly -- depends on the dog and type of bark, but for the most part dogs barking noises don't bother me3. music (obviously only music that I like)4. this twangy sound that a spring used to make in our old dishwasher when we opened the door.. the new one doesn't do that, but it's much quieter in every

other way, so it's alright5. the sound of my own dog drinking water (although other dogs drinking noises sometimes annoy me)6. the sound of my dog chewing on a bone (I do NOT understand why that doesn't bother me, she's loud.. a person could be a fraction of that volume and I would want to smash all their teeth out.. my dog does it and I barely notice)7. the dinging sound that old fashioned typewriters would make when they got to the side of a page8. ticker tape machines9. the sound that two 1 pound (as in the currency in england) coins make when they click together10. the sound of ice cubes cracking when they are put in water, and the sound of the ice cubes in the water hitting against each other (although the sound of ice cubes hitting against a plastic cup bothers me)11. sounds of a modem connecting to the internet, or the sounds of a fax machine connecting12. the sound of the clicker thing that they use in dog

training...of course there are more sounds than this that I don't hate, but those are the sounds that I was able to bring to mind right now. It is SO much easier to think of sounds I do hate than sounds I don't. Oh well, at least I just spent the last 5 minutes or so concentrating on more positive things.I guess that's it for now.

[Guest guest]

I agree with you . There are certain office sounds that do not bother me,

for example, we have a building structure problem and we have a frequent noise

that sounds like a pencil sharpener. This does not bother me. The humming of

my computer, phones ringing and keyboards do not bother me as much. However I

hear a stapler, doors slammed and clicking sound of a pen, for example and it

makes me want to crawl. And these unfortunatelly are most frequent sounds my

co-workes make. I can't stand gum eaters either, OMG, what is it with this

people? I have an intern near by and all she does is use the stapler frequently

and slam her desk doors. That bothers me. I can't understand either why some

sounds bother me while other don't. Oh, I too love the sound of the ice cubes

cracking when they hit the water too.

Waleska

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> Subject: sounds I don't hate

> To: Soundsensitivity

> Date: Friday, April 10, 2009, 2:49 PM

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> Ok, so here I am all alone in my house trying to relax, and all I can think

about is the gum that the doctor I saw earlier today was chewing. GUM!! I almost

told her that I can't talk to her unless she throws it out, but I really want

her to actually like me... it would take too long to start over with a new

allergist.

>

> I think it might help me to make a list of sounds that I do not hate. Maybe it

will help take my mind off of all the sounds that I do hate...

>

> It's worth a try, anyway. Here's a random list of sounds I don't hate, in no

particular order.

>

> 1. the sound of the electric stapler in my office

> 2. dog barks, mostly -- depends on the dog and type of bark, but for the most

part dogs barking noises don't bother me

> 3. music (obviously only music that I like)

> 4. this twangy sound that a spring used to make in our old dishwasher when we

opened the door.. the new one doesn't do that, but it's much quieter in every

other way, so it's alright

> 5. the sound of my own dog drinking water (although other dogs drinking noises

sometimes annoy me)

> 6. the sound of my dog chewing on a bone (I do NOT understand why that doesn't

bother me, she's loud.. a person could be a fraction of that volume and I would

want to smash all their teeth out.. my dog does it and I barely notice)

> 7. the dinging sound that old fashioned typewriters would make when they got

to the side of a page

> 8. ticker tape machines

> 9. the sound that two 1 pound (as in the currency in england) coins make when

they click together

> 10. the sound of ice cubes cracking when they are put in water, and the sound

of the ice cubes in the water hitting against each other (although the sound of

ice cubes hitting against a plastic cup bothers me)

> 11. sounds of a modem connecting to the internet, or the sounds of a fax

machine connecting

> 12. the sound of the clicker thing that they use in dog training

>

> ...of course there are more sounds than this that I don't hate, but those are

the sounds that I was able to bring to mind right now. It is SO much easier to

think of sounds I do hate than sounds I don't. Oh well, at least I just spent

the last 5 minutes or so concentrating on more positive things.

>

> I guess that's it for now.

>

[Guest guest]

Because dogs don’t talk and they always listen …. They

are always excited to see you and even if you are ever stern with them, they

forget about it 2 minutes later and lick your face just the same. People tend

to bother us because either A. control issues or B. pent up frustration towards

them. My husband never bothered me while dating. Most people actually don’t

at first and many of you have said the same. Just later … after we’ve

managed to have some relationship challenges “kick in.”. Otherwise –

sniffling or popcorn in a theatre – I think this is a control issue and

causes me rage too, but it is more of someone getting into the equivalent of my

personal space but with sound. That is my two cents. I think that is the

misophonia portion of this. It is described as a phobia of sorts but where it

is anger reaction versus fear. I think it can be related to pent up

frustration/anger and that is how it can come out. Many of us talk about a very

controlling person in our formative years. That is not to say that I don’t

think that there is also a neurological component to this. I think it is both.

I think some of us need emotional clearing as well as better health, stress

relief, forgiveness etc. and any other therapy or whatever can help. Since we don’t

know the exact cause…. Thoughts??? Make any sense at all or no??

From:

Soundsensitivity [mailto:Soundsensitivity ] On

Behalf Of OConnor

Sent: Monday, April 13, 2009 3:27 PM

To: Soundsensitivity

Subject: Re: sounds I don't hate

You know you're right about this one...I really never

thought about it...

---the sound of my dog chewing on a bone (I do NOT

understand why that doesn't bother me, she's loud.. a person could be a

fraction of that volume and I would want to smash all their teeth out.. my

dog does it and I barely notice)

Why is this?

Subject: sounds I don't hate

To: Soundsensitivity

Date: Friday, April 10, 2009, 2:49 PM

Ok, so here I am all alone in my house trying to relax, and all I can think

about is the gum that the doctor I saw earlier today was chewing. GUM!! I

almost told her that I can't talk to her unless she throws it out, but I

really want her to actually like me... it would take too long to start over

with a new allergist.

I think it might help me to make a list of sounds that I do not hate. Maybe

it will help take my mind off of all the sounds that I do hate...

It's worth a try, anyway. Here's a random list of sounds I don't hate, in no

particular order.

1. the sound of the electric stapler in my office

2. dog barks, mostly -- depends on the dog and type of bark, but for the most

part dogs barking noises don't bother me

3. music (obviously only music that I like)

4. this twangy sound that a spring used to make in our old dishwasher when we

opened the door.. the new one doesn't do that, but it's much quieter in every

other way, so it's alright

5. the sound of my own dog drinking water (although other dogs drinking

noises sometimes annoy me)

6. the sound of my dog chewing on a bone (I do NOT understand why that

doesn't bother me, she's loud.. a person could be a fraction of that volume

and I would want to smash all their teeth out.. my dog does it and I barely

notice)

7. the dinging sound that old fashioned typewriters would make when they got

to the side of a page

8. ticker tape machines

9. the sound that two 1 pound (as in the currency in england) coins make when

they click together

10. the sound of ice cubes cracking when they are put in water, and the sound

of the ice cubes in the water hitting against each other (although the sound

of ice cubes hitting against a plastic cup bothers me)

11. sounds of a modem connecting to the internet, or the sounds of a fax

machine connecting

12. the sound of the clicker thing that they use in dog training

....of course there are more sounds than this that I don't hate, but those are

the sounds that I was able to bring to mind right now. It is SO much easier

to think of sounds I do hate than sounds I don't. Oh well, at least I just

spent the last 5 minutes or so concentrating on more positive things.

I guess that's it for now.

[Guest guest]

Because dogs don’t talk and they

always listen …. They are always excited to see you and even if you are

ever stern with them, they forget about it 2 minutes later and lick your face

just the same. People tend to bother us because either A. control issues or B.

pent up frustration towards them. My husband never bothered me while dating.

Most people actually don’t at first and many of you have said the same.

Just later … after we’ve managed to have some relationship

challenges “kick in.”. Otherwise – sniffling or popcorn in a

theatre – I think this is a control issue and causes me rage too, but it

is more of someone getting into the equivalent of my personal space but with

sound. That is my two cents. I think that is the misophonia portion of this. It

is described as a phobia of sorts but where it is anger reaction versus fear. I

think it can be related to pent up frustration/anger and that is how it

can come out. Many of us talk about a very controlling person in our formative

years. That is not to say that I don’t think that there is also a

neurological component to this. I think it is both. I think some of us need

emotional clearing as well as better health, stress relief, forgiveness etc.

and any other therapy or whatever can help. Since we don’t know the exact

cause…. Thoughts??? Make any sense at all or no??

From: Soundsensitivity

[mailto:Soundsensitivity ] On Behalf Of OConnor

Sent: Monday, April 13, 2009 3:27

PM

To: Soundsensitivity

Subject: Re:

sounds I don't hate

You know you're

right about this one...I really never thought about it...

---the sound of

my dog chewing on a bone (I do NOT understand why that doesn't bother me,

she's loud.. a person could be a fraction of that volume and I would want to

smash all their teeth out.. my dog does it and I barely notice)

Why is this?

From: <shadeybeepgmail>

Subject: sounds I don't hate

To: Soundsensitivity

Date: Friday, April 10, 2009, 2:49 PM

Ok, so here I am all alone in my house trying to relax, and all I can think

about is the gum that the doctor I saw earlier today was chewing. GUM!! I

almost told her that I can't talk to her unless she throws it out, but I

really want her to actually like me... it would take too long to start over

with a new allergist.

I think it might help me to make a list of sounds that I do not hate. Maybe

it will help take my mind off of all the sounds that I do hate...

It's worth a try, anyway. Here's a random list of sounds I don't hate, in no

particular order.

1. the sound of the electric stapler in my office

2. dog barks, mostly -- depends on the dog and type of bark, but for the most

part dogs barking noises don't bother me

3. music (obviously only music that I like)

4. this twangy sound that a spring used to make in our old dishwasher when we

opened the door.. the new one doesn't do that, but it's much quieter in every

other way, so it's alright

5. the sound of my own dog drinking water (although other dogs drinking

noises sometimes annoy me)

6. the sound of my dog chewing on a bone (I do NOT understand why that

doesn't bother me, she's loud.. a person could be a fraction of that volume

and I would want to smash all their teeth out.. my dog does it and I barely

notice)

7. the dinging sound that old fashioned typewriters would make when they got

to the side of a page

8. ticker tape machines

9. the sound that two 1 pound (as in the currency in england) coins make when

they click together

10. the sound of ice cubes cracking when they are put in water, and the sound

of the ice cubes in the water hitting against each other (although the sound

of ice cubes hitting against a plastic cup bothers me)

11. sounds of a modem connecting to the internet, or the sounds of a fax

machine connecting

12. the sound of the clicker thing that they use in dog training

....of course there are more sounds than this that I don't hate, but those are

the sounds that I was able to bring to mind right now. It is SO much easier

to think of sounds I do hate than sounds I don't. Oh well, at least I just

spent the last 5 minutes or so concentrating on more positive things.

I guess that's it for now.

[Guest guest]

This is EXACTLY how I used to feel about this condition before I learned about other people experiencing the same symptoms. I thought the reactions were as a consequence to resentment built up during formative years and the need for acknowledgement and forgiveness. When I realized how many other people experience the exact same particular triggers It made me believe that it would be too much of a coincidence for us all to react in the same physical and emotional ways to a psychological trauma. Also, in light of the genetic component of this condition it makes it harder to think that this is just an effect of experience. I do however think it's interesting how most of us experienced the first trigger with our fathers. It's such a complex

and mysterious condition. I still do believe in the emotional component since our reaction to the SAME noise can be completely different depending on the context of the situation. Why is it so difficult for us to control the anger we feel towards specific people?

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Monday, April 13, 2009 9:40:48 PMSubject: RE: sounds I don't hate

Because dogs don’t talk and they always listen …. They are always excited to see you and even if you are ever stern with them, they forget about it 2 minutes later and lick your face just the same. People tend to bother us because either A. control issues or B. pent up frustration towards them. My husband never bothered me while dating. Most people actually don’t at first and many of you have said the same. Just later … after we’ve managed to have some relationship challenges “kick in.â€. Otherwise – sniffling or popcorn in a theatre – I think this is a control issue and causes me rage too, but it is more of someone getting into the equivalent of my personal space but with sound. That is my two cents. I think that is the misophonia portion of this. It is described as a phobia of sorts but where it

is anger reaction versus fear. I think it can be related to pent up frustration/ anger and that is how it can come out. Many of us talk about a very controlling person in our formative years. That is not to say that I don’t think that there is also a neurological component to this. I think it is both. I think some of us need emotional clearing as well as better health, stress relief, forgiveness etc. and any other therapy or whatever can help. Since we don’t know the exact cause…. Thoughts??? Make any sense at all or no??

From: Soundsensitivity@ yahoogroups. com [mailto:Soundsensit ivity@yahoogroup s.com] On Behalf Of OConnorSent: Monday, April 13, 2009 3:27 PMTo: Soundsensitivity@ yahoogroups. comSubject: Re: sounds I don't hate

You know you're right about this one...I really never thought about it...

---the sound of my dog chewing on a bone (I do NOT understand why that doesn't bother me, she's loud.. a person could be a fraction of that volume and I would want to smash all their teeth out.. my dog does it and I barely notice)

Why is this?

From: <shadeybeepgmail (DOT) com>Subject: sounds I don't hateTo: Soundsensitivity@ yahoogroups. comDate: Friday, April 10, 2009, 2:49 PM

Ok, so here I am all alone in my house trying to relax, and all I can think about is the gum that the doctor I saw earlier today was chewing. GUM!! I almost told her that I can't talk to her unless she throws it out, but I really want her to actually like me... it would take too long to start over with a new allergist. I think it might help me to make a list of sounds that I do not hate. Maybe it will help take my mind off of all the sounds that I do hate...It's worth a try, anyway. Here's a random list of sounds I don't hate, in no particular order. 1. the sound of the electric stapler in my office2. dog barks, mostly -- depends on the dog and type of bark, but for the most part dogs barking noises don't bother me3. music (obviously only music that I like)4. this twangy sound that a spring used to make in our old dishwasher when

we opened the door.. the new one doesn't do that, but it's much quieter in every other way, so it's alright5. the sound of my own dog drinking water (although other dogs drinking noises sometimes annoy me)6. the sound of my dog chewing on a bone (I do NOT understand why that doesn't bother me, she's loud.. a person could be a fraction of that volume and I would want to smash all their teeth out.. my dog does it and I barely notice)7. the dinging sound that old fashioned typewriters would make when they got to the side of a page8. ticker tape machines9. the sound that two 1 pound (as in the currency in england) coins make when they click together10. the sound of ice cubes cracking when they are put in water, and the sound of the ice cubes in the water hitting against each other (although the sound of ice cubes hitting against a plastic cup bothers me)11. sounds of a modem connecting to the internet, or the sounds of a fax

machine connecting12. the sound of the clicker thing that they use in dog training...of course there are more sounds than this that I don't hate, but those are the sounds that I was able to bring to mind right now. It is SO much easier to think of sounds I do hate than sounds I don't. Oh well, at least I just spent the last 5 minutes or so concentrating on more positive things.I guess that's it for now.

[Guest guest]

I don’t understand the genetic part of it because no one in my

family has it at all. I wonder if, though, it is something that can be passed

on because the initial person who has it is overly sensitive and griping about

sounds all the time and therefore it becomes an issue? Could the behavior of

the 4S person or as we marry our “fathers†create similar situations? Maybe it

is like alcoholism. It runs in families to some degree based on learned

behaviors versus some alcohol gene as certainly no one “has†to become an

alcoholic even though the tendency for some may be greater?

From: Soundsensitivity

[mailto:Soundsensitivity ] On Behalf Of andra Ruiz

Sent: Tuesday, April 14, 2009 9:43 AM

To: Soundsensitivity

Subject: Re: sounds I don't hate

This

is EXACTLY how I used to feel about this condition before I learned about other

people experiencing the same symptoms. I thought the reactions were as a

consequence to resentment built up during formative years and the need for

acknowledgement and forgiveness. When I realized how many other people

experience the exact same particular triggers It made me believe that it would

be too much of a coincidence for us all to react in the same physical and

emotional ways to a psychological trauma. Also, in light

of the genetic component of this condition it makes it harder to think that

this is just an effect of experience. I do however think it's interesting

how most of us experienced the first trigger with our fathers. It's such

a complex and mysterious condition. I still do believe in the emotional

component since our reaction to the SAME noise can be completely different

depending on the context of the situation. Why is it so difficult for us

to control the anger we feel towards specific people?

To: Soundsensitivity

Sent: Monday, April 13, 2009 9:40:48 PM

Subject: RE: sounds I don't hate

Because dogs don’t talk and they always

listen …. They are always excited to see you and even if you are ever stern

with them, they forget about it 2 minutes later and lick your face just the

same. People tend to bother us because either A. control issues or B. pent up

frustration towards them. My husband never bothered me while dating. Most

people actually don’t at first and many of you have said the same. Just later …

after we’ve managed to have some relationship challenges “kick in.â€. Otherwise

– sniffling or popcorn in a theatre – I think this is a control issue and

causes me rage too, but it is more of someone getting into the equivalent of my

personal space but with sound. That is my two cents. I think that is the

misophonia portion of this. It is described as a phobia of sorts but where it

is anger reaction versus fear. I think it can be related to pent up

frustration/ anger and that is how it can come out. Many of us talk about a

very controlling person in our formative years. That is not to say that I

don’t think that there is also a neurological component to this. I think it is

both. I think some of us need emotional clearing as well as better health,

stress relief, forgiveness etc. and any other therapy or whatever can help.

Since we don’t know the exact cause…. Thoughts??? Make any sense at all

or no??

From: Soundsensitivity@ yahoogroups. com [mailto:Soundsensit

ivity@yahoogroup s.com] On Behalf Of OConnor

Sent: Monday, April 13, 2009 3:27 PM

To: Soundsensitivity@ yahoogroups. com

Subject: Re: sounds I don't hate

You

know you're right about this one...I really never thought about it...

---the

sound of my dog chewing on a bone (I do NOT understand why that doesn't

bother me, she's loud.. a person could be a fraction of that volume and I

would want to smash all their teeth out.. my dog does it and I barely notice)

Why

is this?

From: <shadeybeepgmail (DOT) com>

Subject: sounds I don't hate

To: Soundsensitivity@ yahoogroups. com

Date: Friday, April 10, 2009, 2:49 PM

Ok, so here I am all alone in my house trying to relax, and all I can think

about is the gum that the doctor I saw earlier today was chewing. GUM!! I almost

told her that I can't talk to her unless she throws it out, but I really want

her to actually like me... it would take too long to start over with a new

allergist.

I think it might help me to make a list of sounds that I do not hate. Maybe

it will help take my mind off of all the sounds that I do hate...

It's worth a try, anyway. Here's a random list of sounds I don't hate, in no

particular order.

1. the sound of the electric stapler in my office

2. dog barks, mostly -- depends on the dog and type of bark, but for the most

part dogs barking noises don't bother me

3. music (obviously only music that I like)

4. this twangy sound that a spring used to make in our old dishwasher when we

opened the door.. the new one doesn't do that, but it's much quieter in every

other way, so it's alright

5. the sound of my own dog drinking water (although other dogs drinking

noises sometimes annoy me)

6. the sound of my dog chewing on a bone (I do NOT understand why that

doesn't bother me, she's loud.. a person could be a fraction of that volume

and I would want to smash all their teeth out.. my dog does it and I barely

notice)

7. the dinging sound that old fashioned typewriters would make when they got

to the side of a page

8. ticker tape machines

9. the sound that two 1 pound (as in the currency in england) coins make when

they click together

10. the sound of ice cubes cracking when they are put in water, and the sound

of the ice cubes in the water hitting against each other (although the sound

of ice cubes hitting against a plastic cup bothers me)

11. sounds of a modem connecting to the internet, or the sounds of a fax

machine connecting

12. the sound of the clicker thing that they use in dog training

....of course there are more sounds than this that I don't hate, but those are

the sounds that I was able to bring to mind right now. It is SO much easier

to think of sounds I do hate than sounds I don't. Oh well, at least I just

spent the last 5 minutes or so concentrating on more positive things.

I guess that's it for now.