Guest guest Posted January 30, 2009 Report Share Posted January 30, 2009 To test the authority figure theory, try doing medical transcription or listening to someone you don't know on tape. I don't even know these people with my job, can't see them, and yet the majority seem to always be sniffing, throat clearing, smacking their lips, or speaking with a gravelly voice throughout the entire dictation, all of which drives me completely insane, and I do it hour after hour. Don't know them. They have no authority over me. I want to hurt them! I can scream at them or imitate them,as that helps sometimes, in the comfort of my own home. (I live alone with cats to compensate. One snores.) By retirement, I'll just be drooling on myself, not forming words. To: Soundsensitivity From: gizziecookie@...Date: Sat, 31 Jan 2009 06:46:20 +0000Subject: Re: THEORY!! Hey , Interesting. It's good you are trying to think this through. I was wondering if perhaps it's not necessarily a problem with "authority", but rather a comfort level with the person... does that make sense? Like your friend who you said is the "weaker" of the friendship. You said she doesn't bug you but maybe it's because you feel comfortable telling her to stop something if she did start to bug you? Whereas the other people who do bug you... would you feel comfortable telling them to "knock it off" or something? I'm just curious because when I was little, my dad had authority over me yes, but it wasn't a situation where I wasn't allowed to voice my opinions. I told him to "stop it" many times and never got in trouble for it. My husband bugs me too... but not on the same level as some others. I think it's because I feel comfortable telling him to "shut up" whereas a perfect stranger I can't do that. Good golly I'm rambling... am I making sense? I need sleep... or a coke. > > Ok, so the other day in class, this girl was chewing gum, and I was getting ticked off, so I decided I would try and come up with a theory instead of just staring her down. > Most of us say that our fathers give us the first signs of 4s. Or our mother. > I was thinking that maybe this is somehow connected to authority. Most of the people who are my triggers are either older than me, or have some kind of authority over me. (Example: they could be a better sports player, more popular, or just think that they are better than me) > > My best friend is the "weaker" one in our friendship, so she is one person I have "authority" over. She never makes an offensive noise. > > Like I have said before, people that we don't like to begin with are a worse trigger. ALL of the people I don't get along with have some kind of authority over me. People who are "losers" bother me sometimes, but I don't feel super hatred towards them like I do other people. Special Ed kids could have an authority because they are treated differently, and people generally like them/ are nice to them... the feeling of authority from them could stem from jealousy. > > Just wanted to put that out there. I've been stringing this together for a few days now. > > Thoughts anyone? > Windows Live™: E-mail. Chat. Share. Get more ways to connect. See how it works. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 1, 2009 Report Share Posted February 1, 2009 People who I can't see don't generally bother me.If they are sitting in the cubicle next to me, I can't see them, they haven't spoken a word, never met them before... these people don't bother me.Subject: RE: Re: THEORY!! :DTo: soundsensitivity Date: Saturday, January 31, 2009, 2:05 AM To test the authority figure theory, try doing medical transcription or listening to someone you don't know on tape. I don't even know these people with my job, can't see them, and yet the majority seem to always be sniffing, throat clearing, smacking their lips, or speaking with a gravelly voice throughout the entire dictation, all of which drives me completely insane, and I do it hour after hour. Don't know them. They have no authority over me. I want to hurt them! I can scream at them or imitate them,as that helps sometimes, in the comfort of my own home. (I live alone with cats to compensate. One snores.) By retirement, I'll just be drooling on myself, not forming words. To: Soundsensitivity@ yahoogroups. comFrom: gizziecookie@ yahoo.comDate: Sat, 31 Jan 2009 06:46:20 +0000Subject: Re: THEORY!! Hey , Interesting. It's good you are trying to think this through. I was wondering if perhaps it's not necessarily a problem with "authority", but rather a comfort level with the person... does that make sense? Like your friend who you said is the "weaker" of the friendship. You said she doesn't bug you but maybe it's because you feel comfortable telling her to stop something if she did start to bug you? Whereas the other people who do bug you... would you feel comfortable telling them to "knock it off" or something? I'm just curious because when I was little, my dad had authority over me yes, but it wasn't a situation where I wasn't allowed to voice my opinions. I told him to "stop it" many times and never got in trouble for it. My husband bugs me too... but not on the same level as some others. I think it's because I feel comfortable telling him to "shut up" whereas a perfect stranger I can't do that. Good golly I'm rambling... am I making sense? I need sleep... or a coke. > > Ok, so the other day in class, this girl was chewing gum, and I was getting ticked off, so I decided I would try and come up with a theory instead of just staring her down. > Most of us say that our fathers give us the first signs of 4s. Or our mother. > I was thinking that maybe this is somehow connected to authority. Most of the people who are my triggers are either older than me, or have some kind of authority over me. (Example: they could be a better sports player, more popular, or just think that they are better than me) > > My best friend is the "weaker" one in our friendship, so she is one person I have "authority" over. She never makes an offensive noise. > > Like I have said before, people that we don't like to begin with are a worse trigger. ALL of the people I don't get along with have some kind of authority over me. People who are "losers" bother me sometimes, but I don't feel super hatred towards them like I do other people. Special Ed kids could have an authority because they are treated differently, and people generally like them/ are nice to them... the feeling of authority from them could stem from jealousy. > > Just wanted to put that out there. I've been stringing this together for a few days now. > > Thoughts anyone? > Windows Live™: E-mail. Chat. Share. Get more ways to connect. See how it works. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 1, 2009 Report Share Posted February 1, 2009 Yes, I agree with you Darlene, I always thought it was authority but then learned that it's actually those people/situations in which I don't feel comfortable enough to speak up or that I don't think will stop. The people I feel comfortable with and I know will understand is much easier to deal with. People that I've told and forget and continue to do it drive me crazy.Love,andraTo: Soundsensitivity Sent: Saturday, January 31, 2009 3:46:20 PMSubject: Re: THEORY!! Hey ,Interesting. It's good you are trying to think this through. I waswondering if perhaps it's not necessarily a problem with "authority",but rather a comfort level with the person... does that make sense? Like your friend who you said is the "weaker" of the friendship. Yousaid she doesn't bug you but maybe it's because you feel comfortabletelling her to stop something if she did start to bug you? Whereasthe other people who do bug you... would you feel comfortable tellingthem to "knock it off" or something? I'm just curious because when I was little, my dad had authority overme yes, but it wasn't a situation where I wasn't allowed to voice myopinions. I told him to "stop it" many times and never got in troublefor it. My husband bugs me too... but not on the same level as someothers. I think it's because I feel comfortable telling him to "shutup" whereas a perfect stranger I can't do that. Good golly I'mrambling... am I making sense? I need sleep... or a coke. >> Ok, so the other day in class, this girl was chewing gum, and I wasgetting ticked off, so I decided I would try and come up with a theoryinstead of just staring her down.> Most of us say that our fathers give us the first signs of 4s. Orour mother. > I was thinking that maybe this is somehow connected to authority.Most of the people who are my triggers are either older than me, orhave some kind of authority over me. (Example: they could be a bettersports player, more popular, or just think that they are better than me)> > My best friend is the "weaker" one in our friendship, so sheis one person I have "authority" over. She never makes an offensivenoise. > > Like I have said before, people that we don't like to begin with area worse trigger. ALL of the people I don't get along with have somekind of authority over me. People who are "losers" bother mesometimes, but I don't feel super hatred towards them like I do otherpeople. Special Ed kids could have an authority because they aretreated differently, and people generally like them/ are nice tothem... the feeling of authority from them could stem from jealousy. > > Just wanted to put that out there. I've been stringing this togetherfor a few days now. > > Thoughts anyone?>------------------------------------PLEASE BE AWARE THIS IS A STRICTLY CONFIDENTIAL GROUP AND NO MESSAGES ARE TO BE USED FOR ANY PURPOSE OUTSIDE OF THE YAHOO GROUP MEMBERSHIP SITE OR REPRODUCED OR COPIED AND MAILED FOR ANY PURPOSE. ALSO DO NOT SHARE MEMBER EMAIL ADDRESSES OR NAMES WITH ANYONE.Thank you. MJ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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