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Yes, yes yes!! You sound exactly like me! Maybe we should ditch our husbands

and wives and start a city of our own with our own people!! he he he

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>Reply-To: Soundsensitivity

>To: Soundsensitivity

>Subject: New to the group

>Date: Sun, 04 Dec 2005 21:38:32 -0000

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>I was so happy to find Marsha's website some months ago. I was trying

>to explain my " sound problem " to my boyfriend, and he said to look on

>the Internet. I'd looked years ago and found nothing, so was surprised

>to find her work and that I can now put a name on my issue (SSSS) and

>that I may even be able to find help with it.

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>I can't believe I'm not the only one! For so long I thought I was just

>neurotic, crazy. I thought there was some psychological cause of this,

>buried in my childhood.

>

>I've had SSSS as long as I can remember (first instances where

>watching my little brother and sister eating loudly as a small child).

>It led to much anxiety, anger, and misery. Stuck at the table with

>family for regular meals was bad enough, but big, holiday meals with

>extended family was even worse because I couldn't leave the table

>unless excused.

>

>When I was younger, I'd get angry- at my mother, at whatever boyfriend

>I had, at my best friends - basically whoever I spent a lot of time

>with. I tried not to take it out on people, but when I was younger I'm

>sure I did.

>

>I'm 41 now, with a 13 yr old child (who I try not to get frustrated

>with, but he is also not learning quickly about eating with his mouth

>shut. I can't tell if I am too mean to keep telling him to do so. My

>ex-husband once said, " Don't give our son a complex because of your

>sound problem " ). I pretty much live with my boyfriend of 1 year. And I

>so don't want to take out my frustration on either my son or my

>boyfriend.

>

>But meals are hell for me. Slurping, fork biting, even just the basic

>sounds of chewing something crunchy (CROUTONS!), biting of forks,

>slurping of drinks, can totally drive me nuts. I get angry, irritated,

>frustrated. I hate myself for feeling this way, but that just makes it

>worse. I know it is not the fault of the people I eat with, but I get

>so angry at them, internally. It is miserable.

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>I anticipate the anger. Getting ready for a meal is like getting ready

>for a painful torture session. It is no fun for me to share meals with

>loved ones. It is a duty I must do, but I hate it.

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>Playing music helps. Earplugs help - can't make it through a meal

>without them. The very best is if I listen to a book on tape through

>earbuds during a meal. The constant and even talking of the narrator

>distracts my ears from the eating sounds in a way that is even better

>than music. But I feel it is too rude to do this, and so only do it

>occasionally.

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>I used to hide my earplug usage, when I was married, because it made

>my husband mad. I told him it wasn't about him, but he still hated it.

>Luckily my boyfriend now has no problem with it. Or so he says.

>

>Other sounds I hate: popcorn, drinks, and candy wrappers in movies,

>people talking in movies. Loud, booming bass sounds of music in cars

>or other apartments. Dogs chewing on themselves or licking their lips.

>Intermittant beeping, like from mecahnical devices (answering

>machines, barcode scanners). My mother's asthma sounds. Snoring in

>another room (oddly, when my boyfriend snores, it doesn;t bother me).

>TV or book on tape or radio playing in another room.

>

>I love fans, washing machines, dishwashers, refrigerators- anything

>that makes a nice, loud, background noise.

>

>Incidentally, I can sleep through as many as 3 alarm clocks blaring at

>once. I have slept throuhg an entire alarm clock cycle (1 hour). SO

>it's not like I'm that sensitive to some sounds at all.

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[Guest guest]

Hi,

I'm new here. I think that I've had 4S since I was 10 or so. Snoring

sniffing, eating, slurping, drive me completely crazy. Gum is the

worst. Even the site of a person chewing drives me over the edge. I've

cried hysterically before because of this syndrome. I think of myself

as a basically strong willed person. I played sports, and I was in the

Army Airborne, and have a BS degree. This condition is horrible. I cope

with it in all the standard ways. Headphones, earplugs, fingers in ears

are all part of my arsenal. Is there any way to stop it? Has medication

helped anyone? When I used to drink alcohol, it pretty much stopped

during intoxication (but was 100 times worse with a hangover). I really

don't want to wear expensive hearing aid style devices if I don't have

to. Reading about this disorder and it seems we can only put band-aids

on the problem. I'm 30, and it seems to be getting worse. Every year, a

new irritant emerges and I become even more depressed. I'm currently

moving because the neighbors barking dog is too much. I feel like such

a freak. I have a long term girlfriend, and we would like to get

married and have kids someday. How am I going to be a father when I

can't overcome everyday sounds? I'm going to a mental counselor for the

first time ever in a week. It sounds like there is really no hope

though. There really isn't many of us out there. Thanks for this board.

Maybe one day, there will be an answer and somebody will be saved a

lifetime of imprisonment by everyday sounds.

[Guest guest]

Hi . Isn't it such a wonderful feeling to finally have people who

understand you? I sobbed the day that I stumbled into this group and

realized that I wasn't alone with this. I'm glad that you found us! It

takes a while, but if you read some of the old post, you'll see that

the things that you are doing, (headphones, earplugs) are the same

things that most people here do for relief as well. I don't remember

hearing that anyone in this group has had signifigant results from

drugs or therapy. This is the only therapy we really have, for now.

Kim

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SCOTT, LET'S DO IT! I AM ON THE VERGE OF DIVORCE AS IT IS!!

MY NEXT DOOR NEIGHBOR (WHO WAS ONE OF US) MUST HAVE MOVED OUT AND NOW I SIT

AND WAIT FOR THE NEXT ROUND OF HORRORS MOVING NEXT TO MY APARTMENT.

I HAVE HAD ENOUGH. I AM READY FOR A POSITIVE CHANGE THAT WILL ONLY HELP US

ALL. I DOUBT THERE WILL BE ANY HELP IN MY LIFETIME, BEING 50, SO I HAVE TO

DO SOMETHING NOW!! I NEVER GO INTO MY LIVING ROOM BECAUSE OF THE NEIGHBORS.

THAT IS SICK. I SEE NOW HOW SICK THIS IS MAKING ME.

I ALSO WANT TO GO TO THE CARON INSTITUTE IN PENNSYLVANIA BECAUSE I AM

DRINKING MORE BECAUSE OF ALL OF THIS. THE NEW FEAR IS THAT I HAVE TO SHARE A

ROOM FOR A WEEK WITH SOMEONE AND PROBABLY HAVE MEETINGS WITH GUM POPPERS AND

YOU KNOW THE REST...IT NEVER ENDS...AND I AM SURE SHE WILL BE A SNORER AND

WILL EAT LIKE A PIG!

OH, MAN!! I COULD AND SHOULD MOVE TO ESTONIA. INTO THE COUNTRY FAR AWAY

FROM EVERYONE ELSE. AND DO WHAT? I AM SO STUCK!!!

THANKS FOR LETTING ME VENT.

I WOULD LOVE TO START A PROJECT LIKE THAT THOUGH, OUR OWN COMMUNITY OF

PEACE!

IF I ONLY HAD THE MONEY...

WE COULD HAVE SCHOOLS FOR THE KIDS THERE TOO, ALL THE WAY THROUGH COLLEGE!!

LET'S ALL VISUALIZE IT LIKE THEY TEACH IN " THE SECRET " AND MAYBE IT WILL

HAPPEN!!

PIA

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>Reply-To: Soundsensitivity

>To: Soundsensitivity

>Subject: Re: Re: New to the group

>Date: Fri, 30 Mar 2007 07:30:14 -0700 (PDT)

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>we need 4-S communities. there are 55+ communities that don't allow kids,

>and new developments that don't allow you to paint your house or park a

>boat in your yard.... why shouldn't there be gated, noiseless communities

>for people like us?

>

> we could put those giant traffic barriers (the noise-blocking walls)

>around the whole place, and build a nice community strictly for 4-S

>sufferers.

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> the advantage to this is that if someone WERE to make a noise that

>someone else found intolerable, there would be no embarrassment or rage to

>deal with! you walk next door KNOWING that the people that live there

>understand your issues, and you politely tell them that whatever they're

>doing is bothering you. problem solved.

>

> we can build my modified movie theater in here as well.... :-)

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>kimpulsive wrote:

> Hi . Isn't it such a wonderful feeling to finally have

>people who

>understand you? I sobbed the day that I stumbled into this group and

>realized that I wasn't alone with this. I'm glad that you found us! It

>takes a while, but if you read some of the old post, you'll see that

>the things that you are doing, (headphones, earplugs) are the same

>things that most people here do for relief as well. I don't remember

>hearing that anyone in this group has had signifigant results from

>drugs or therapy. This is the only therapy we really have, for now.

>

>Kim

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WE DO KNOW!! WELCOME!! WHERE DO YOU LIVE?

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>Reply-To: Soundsensitivity

>To: Soundsensitivity

>Subject: Re: New to the group

>Date: Fri, 30 Mar 2007 15:01:31 -0000

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>I'm also new to the group. I have suffered from 4S for 50 years and

>thought I was completely alone until I found this group. I can't tell

>you what it means to me!

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> > > Hi . Isn't it such a wonderful feeling to finally

> > have people who

> > > understand you? I sobbed the day that I stumbled into this group

> > and

> > > realized that I wasn't alone with this. I'm glad that you found

> > us! It

> > > takes a while, but if you read some of the old post, you'll see

> > that

> > > the things that you are doing, (headphones, earplugs) are the

>same

> > > things that most people here do for relief as well. I don't

> > remember

> > > hearing that anyone in this group has had signifigant results

>from

> > > drugs or therapy. This is the only therapy we really have, for

>now.

> > >

> > > Kim

> > >

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Why wouldn't 4s children be allowed in? Aren't they normally beyond

quiet; I know I was/am.

> Hi . Isn't it such a wonderful feeling to finally

have people who

> understand you? I sobbed the day that I stumbled into this group

and

> realized that I wasn't alone with this. I'm glad that you found

us! It

> takes a while, but if you read some of the old post, you'll see

that

> the things that you are doing, (headphones, earplugs) are the same

> things that most people here do for relief as well. I don't

remember

> hearing that anyone in this group has had signifigant results from

> drugs or therapy. This is the only therapy we really have, for now.

>

> Kim

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This group is really a relief that I'm not completely crazy. I live in WA. I don't know anyone that knows what I'm talking about. I am really concerned how this will affect my career advancement and relationships in the future. For now, its a major inconvienince, but I've been able to get promoted and not isolate myself. I have to leave meetings sometimes due to gumchewers. I always make excuses for why. People don't get this, and I feel that if Ii talk about it, I'll be that "weird guy".

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Welcome ! You are lucky to be living alone in a house in Florida! sounds perfect!!

Funny when I say that because maybe you would rather live in a house with children and a wife and a barking dog but for people like us that becomes our hell!!

So we end up doing and living to accomodate our noise issues and with some luck we find ways around some problems with headphones and staying out of crowded places. Don't know much about the ear pressure thing but welcome to our "place" to get together and complain and console!!

Pia

To: Soundsensitivity From: david_l_ward@...Date: Thu, 17 May 2007 22:16:55 +0000Subject: New to the group

I'm and like so many others I have had this problem for most of my life, I called it "Other People Eating Disorder". The other day was rather hard and I did yet another search to find anything describing my extreme reaction to certain sounds and found this group and the right terms to find information, thank god. I turn 40 this summer and had assumed it was just me, an odd quark that I had.I have a basic story, and from what I have read, the same general triggers, anything eating related, wheezing/ breathing, nail files/clippers ……. crap, just trying to think of all things that trigger me kinda triggers me. I got a flood of email today from the group venting a bit and I can relate, I have come too close to causing great physical harm too many times. I rarely lash out with words or request the noise be stopped; I either deal with it or leave.I am just starting to think through the way this condition has swayed the way I live. Rarely go out to restaurants, prefer to live alone in a house, stuff like that. I love the beach because the sound of the surf is very soothing to me, so much so, I moved to Florida.At some point I will write about what has worked for me and what has not. I do have one pressing question, when triggered I will pressurize my ears (like before you pop them on a plane) to muffle the sounds. I pinch my nose, close my mouth and make suction. Is this bad for my ears? I have learned I need to be careful, if I get the pressure too strong it can hurt or be hard to reverse (very uncomfortable).Thanks, Add some color. Personalize your inbox with your favorite colors. Try it!