Guest guest Posted January 1, 2008 Report Share Posted January 1, 2008 , I am terribly sorry for your loss. It's hard to lose someone when you believe that they could have been saved, or even around for a little longer. My mother made some bad choices in the end as well -- she wouldn't consider my offer to be a live donor (I don't even know if we matched), and she wouldn't go to her August appointment with the director of the transplant group at the university. One of her other doctors had done an ultrasound, and she refused to go to the appointment until she had the report in hand. Had she gone, she would likely have been put on the transplant list (because her lungs had started filling with fluid and she was going downhill surprisingly quickly). As it turned out, we had to reschedule twice because she was in the hospital, and she died before getting to that appointment. But that was my mother -- she did things in her own, stubborn, bullheaded way. It didn't matter how much we yelled, badgered, cajoled, teased, or tried to persuade her to do something differently. I try to look at it as this was her life, and she was entitled to make these choices, even if they were not the best ones. Just as we all are. I'm glad to hear that your step-sister had a peaceful passing. I hope that you find some comfort in your memories of her, and I hope that you feel her now pain-free spirit all around you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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