Re: What happens when were thin?

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I am in agreement. Thanks Jane

--- thefatmanwalking_group

wrote:

> I agree with this as well. In addition I think there

is a lot of fear and

> conversely a lot of growth that goes with losing

weight. The fear is from moving

> out of our mental comfort zone. We all cannot do

something as drastic as

> Steve has done. In the process he has maybe created

a new comfort zone for

> himself. If it is one of progress, then it is good.

But he will not know if he is

> there or still on the way till he has tried it for

fit. So he moves forward.

> So must we all. To know ourselves is such a huge

plus for all of our lives.

> And necessary for all of our health. Mental,

Physical, Spiritual, Emotional.

> Jane

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Jordan

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[Guest guest]

Granted Alice you have may somevalid points to inside

and see the real you is fine but I differ

--- thefatmanwalking_group

wrote:

> One thing I have been thinking about, and hope Steve

thinks about this

> too, is - what happens once we're thin? I fear that

some of us are

> convinced that being thin, or at least a normal

weight, will be the

> answer to our deep longing for a better life. And

really, it is only

> a small part of the answer.

>

> Now, I know there are many in this group who are

working hard to

> regain their health and their ability to participate

in physical

> activities. They have no misplaced dream that being

thin will make

> life wonderful. But I'm sure there are others of us

that think " If

> only I were thin, I would have it all. "

>

> But it doesn't work that way. You are the same

person, thin or fat.

> Once you are thin, you have the same basic talents,

the same

> personality, the same values, the same amount of

money, and pretty

> much the same life. Some friends, family and

co-workers will ooh and

> ahh and give you lots of praise for a little while,

but then you will

> just be " you " to them, and life goes on. You may be

more attractive

> to the opposite sex, but unless that's all you want

in life, you'll

> eventually find out it's not all that important what

the opposite sex

> thinks of you. You'll be able to admire yourself in

new clothes, but

> unless you're wealthy, there are only so many

clothes that will fit in

> your closet (and if you were wealthy, you'd be thin

by now!) If you

> think you will be more competitive in sports or in

the workplace, I

> hate to disappoint you, but you won't be. That is a

function of your

> personality. If you were driven to compete in

sports, you probably

> wouldn't be fat. If you are competitive in the

workplace, you'll get

> to the top no matter. Being thin will be exciting

for a little while,

> but then you'll just be you again.

>

> So look inside and think about this. What are my

good qualities?

> What, besides being fat, do I want to change? If I

woke up tomorrow

> and saw an attractive slim person in the mirror,

what would I do?

> What do I really want my life to be about?

>

> I don't want anyone to stop trying their hardest to

get rid of the

> fat, but we need to think about our whole life, not

just that part of

> it. There are many things we can do to improve

ourselves that don't

> involve diet and exercise. Things like education,

helping others,

> transforming our surroundings, and finding out what

we really want to

> do with this life we have.

>

> Well, that's enough thinking for one day!

>

> Alice

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Jordan

(404)409-3223

www.HelpfultoUandme.com

" Your Vision Supercedes Your Presence " "

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[Guest guest]

I think it is the same as when a person gets plastic surgery. They may

think that if they do this then their whole life will change. Or someone

who moves to a new city to escape their problems... and then they get there

and find that they are still themselves.

As for my experience with change that does come with weight loss...

I know that several times I have given in just simply because I cannot deal

with the flab that starts showing up. I am serious. I am flabby as it is,

but when it starts to change radically and I get even more flabby then I

freak out and give up the " diet " . I think that is why I am so focused on

the physical side instead of the eating right now... I wish I had money for

a trainer and a diet coach! Some one on one feedback... I think I am

getting ready to be open to that.

Lindy