Re: Pain and other Pleasures!

[Guest guest]

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Great news about your trip! Heaven does smile sometimes!

About the rage, we have been encouraged to hold the notion that one

has

to express rage to get better. It's not quite like that. Getting more control

over one's life, any way you can, feels a whole lot better. But on the other

hand, rage is a legitimate emotion, and we should not totally avoid expressing

it (which most of us do).

We could encourage outraged posts, which are quite appropriate given

what people here have to deal with.

Focused rage happens to be a useful tool for getting what one needs

from

people who are just putting us off.

And Ray's suggestion that Kathleen pour her heart out to a

compassionate

helper is also very much on target.

Maybe you might want to express some rage here when you get back. I

would also suggest a rage diary, but I know I couldn't do it myself. I would

get to angry to do it.

Beat wishes for your trip, your brother's wedding, and some happy

reunions.

Ken

At 09:28 PM 9/12/98 -0400, you wrote:

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>Greetings All: The above heading may seem somewhat strange, but

>actually it has a two-fold meaning. I have read some of the posts today

>and more than one person has talked about controlling emotions. So, I

>would like to pose a question? How can we as a group find ideas on what

>to do about rage?

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>For example if we have the physical strength to vent our anger at what

>life has given us, in what form should this take? Also, what can we do

>when we lack physical capabilities? Participate in a group, talk one on

>one with counselors? What about talking into a small tape recorder?

>These are only a few ideas that come to mind. When we say that we want

>to help those who participate here, where do we start?

>

>Now on to other Pleasures. I will be off-line for a while starting

>Wednesday. I have received a gift that will allow me to travel to

>attend my younger and only brothers' wedding. From there I plan to

>travel to visit other friends. Of note, although I communicate with my

>brother by email I have not seen him in 10 years and my other friends I

>have not seen in nearly 8 years.

>

>I ask for prayers for a safe journey and blessings for all.

>

>Peace

>

> D.

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