Re: Re: not eating enough food-revisited

[Guest guest]

Aww Lindy,

You sound like a wonderful person, be g lad in the fact that you can

actualy do that, and know who u are......some may want that, but just can't. I

think you are doing something a lot of us would l ike too, and just can't.

Hugs

lindy of the shire wrote:

and some people are just loners. there is nothing wrong with them. I

am

one! I just prefer to be by myself. It does not mean I cannot have deep

friendships with those around me or that I shun people. I just recoginse

that I have a low energy flow and that I find a lot of common things in the

world draining to me, so I spend a lot of time alone where I have more

control over noise, interaction with others, lighting, etc. I quite often

walk into my mother's house, open the livingroom door, the tv will be

blaring and the lights are harsh and I just simply turn around and leave

because it is way too much for me.

As you can see from my posts, I do not run from interacting with people and

making friends. I am just not a " bright lights big city " type of person and

shun crowds, malls, heavy traffic, etc. I leave my homestead once, maybe

twice a week. I simply know who I am and my limitations. I have deep,

soulful relationships with my close friends, but for the most part I need to

have control over my enviorment so that I have a place of refuge from the

world, which is far too huge and noisy and stimulating for me. There have

been times in my life when I have not left my farm for months at a time,

simply because I did not want to. I am fortunate in having family near by

and I take care of the farm and one of my dad's jobs is simply to go to town

and run errands. He is an extrovert and enjoys it... I find it draining to

be under all those floresent lights and the music, which is created for the

sole purpose of putting you into a suggestive state so that you will be more

inclined to buy their products -- it really does a number on me. ly

most of the time I just go to town to go to the bank, post office and to put

gasoline in my truck. Most of the miles on my truck are used around the 80

acre farm b/c it is my " tractor " besides being my vehicle.

I know... people are going to think I am a " wooo-wooo-wack-a-doo " but I also

know that there are others like me out there who feel the same way from one

degree to another.

So be it. I know who I am and what I need and have made many decisions for

my life based on the fact that I am this unique individual.

Lindy

[Guest guest]

You go girl!!!!

lindy of the shire wrote: and some people are

just loners. there is nothing wrong with them. I am

one! I just prefer to be by myself. It does not mean I cannot have deep

friendships with those around me or that I shun people. I just recoginse

that I have a low energy flow and that I find a lot of common things in the

world draining to me, so I spend a lot of time alone where I have more

control over noise, interaction with others, lighting, etc. I quite often

walk into my mother's house, open the livingroom door, the tv will be

blaring and the lights are harsh and I just simply turn around and leave

because it is way too much for me.

As you can see from my posts, I do not run from interacting with people and

making friends. I am just not a " bright lights big city " type of person and

shun crowds, malls, heavy traffic, etc. I leave my homestead once, maybe

twice a week. I simply know who I am and my limitations. I have deep,

soulful relationships with my close friends, but for the most part I need to

have control over my enviorment so that I have a place of refuge from the

world, which is far too huge and noisy and stimulating for me. There have

been times in my life when I have not left my farm for months at a time,

simply because I did not want to. I am fortunate in having family near by

and I take care of the farm and one of my dad's jobs is simply to go to town

and run errands. He is an extrovert and enjoys it... I find it draining to

be under all those floresent lights and the music, which is created for the

sole purpose of putting you into a suggestive state so that you will be more

inclined to buy their products -- it really does a number on me. ly

most of the time I just go to town to go to the bank, post office and to put

gasoline in my truck. Most of the miles on my truck are used around the 80

acre farm b/c it is my " tractor " besides being my vehicle.

I know... people are going to think I am a " wooo-wooo-wack-a-doo " but I also

know that there are others like me out there who feel the same way from one

degree to another.

So be it. I know who I am and what I need and have made many decisions for

my life based on the fact that I am this unique individual.

Lindy

[Guest guest]

I am very much an extrovert.However, I love my alone time. I love the peace and

quiet thats uninterupted at night.If I don't get my alone time I can be quite

cranky at times.Also, I like others, and if I havent talked to another adult for

awhile I also get cranky. Therefore I try to do my best at both.I often wish my

phone never rang, yet I ove to call people. So...now who is weird. heehee Leena

MAGGIMAY88@... wrote:

I believe we all need " alone time " every day to refresh and renew our

spirits. But we have to be careful not to spend too much time alone. Often when

we

need people the most, we run and hide...afraid to reach out to others. Some

people are afraid to spend time alone...afraid of who and what we might find.

Maggie

needing a lot of alone time is simply about needing time to re-coup your

energy and does not mean you are weird or an outsider or anything like

that. It just means you are an introvert. That has nothing to do with

social anxiety or shyness or social retardation [often misconceptions of

what introvert truly means]. I am an extreme introvert and need hours of

alone time every day.

Lindy

[Guest guest]

I am living this and being reborn over the past two years...stopping is both

terrifying and exilerating (sorry sp?) the longer i feel the less i am

running...i know this is going to be a lifetime challenge and it is everyday to

not go into space orbit....but i am beginning to see a better quality of life

where my relationships with my children have improved 110% so it can;'t be all

wrong.

I continue to battle treating myself well as those of you know the running

around means you aren't feeling or listening to your needs both physcially or

emotionally.

I so apprectiate you posting so i could share some of my journey into reality.

take care of you

sue

jjsmth@... wrote:

That is very true, MaggiMay. There is a great deal of difference

between

healthy down time and running away. With healthy down time we go back to the

daily functions of life refreshed and ready to deal with it all. The running

away time may be from fear of ourselves, of others, or just the stresses of

life. And that unhealthy time is when people often give into addictive behaviors

of one sort or another. It can be food, alcohol or other drugs, cutting and

burning oneself, or a thousand different behaviors that are definitely NOT

healthy. Not spending healthy alone time, never having alone time, can be just

as bad. Because if you have 24/7/365 stimulation you never get a chance to find

out who you really are. And no one loves someone they do not know.

Especially not themselves.

I see so many who never stop moving long enough to know themselves, mostly

as you said out of fear. And each individual person is so precious and worth

knowing! Jesus died for mankind as a whole but he also died for each individual

one of us. That action alone tells us how precious we are. (Sorry about the

religious stuff again! Hope no one is offended!) When we look at that and say

Jesus died for ME, I don't know, it really helps me appreciate how special I

am! And when I say Jesus died for YOU, I know how special you are!

You can also look at individual people in your life and think of how your

life affects them. Your children, your siblings, your parents, your spouse, your

friends. All of them have a different views of you. One thing that showed

from my recent adventure is that nearly all my family and friends had

confidence in my ability to care for myself, they were fearful of other things

that I

would have no control over. Very few people thought I would have done

something deliberate to hurt myself. Or foolish. And everyone of them were

nearly

sure I would be ok, even if I ran out of food, broke my leg, or something else

of like nature. They just wanted me back. So again I see how special I am.

It is very humbling. My friends were sure I would come back as I am the main

caretaker of my family. (That is a quote from one of them! lol) My family was

sure I would come back for my husband and grandchildren. My clients refused

to find someone else to do their work, even the payroll which was late! So all

have a different view of my qualities, and nearly the same view of my

abilities. And all of them gathered to help my family, even some of the

restaurants

around who have people who know me.

So my point is never underestimate the effect each of us have on the world

around us. And how special we all are.

But don't get lost to find out! lololol

Jane