Guest guest Posted May 25, 2012 Report Share Posted May 25, 2012 I have had good results with referring to another LC. Sometimes they simply need to hear it from someone else. 'Cause you know another LC will tell her the exact same thing. .. Liz Pevytoe RN, IBCLC > > > > > > > > > How do you counsel the mom that continuously tells you that she wants to breastfeed exclusively yet will not take your advice (TT release, domperidone for example?) I don't want to make moms feels guilty about formula but I'm running out of advice. It feels like a no-win situation. Thanks, Dana > > > Dana Schmidt, BS, RN, IBCLC > Cradlehold Breastfeeding Education & Support > www.cradlehold.net > Please follow us on Facebook at > www.facebook.com/CradleholdBreastfeedingEducationSupport > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 26, 2012 Report Share Posted May 26, 2012 You inform them completely about the risks of each choice and let them decide. It is not your baby or your life. They have to make the decisions and deal with the consequences of their own decisions. Let it go. Best regards, E. Burger, MHS, PhD, IBCLC Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 26, 2012 Report Share Posted May 26, 2012 Sometimes, sadly, an LC is only called so that mom can tell whoever is pressuring her that she tried "everything, but it still didn't work out."Lynn in MO You inform them completely about the risks of each choice and let them decide. It is not your baby or your life. They have to make the decisions and deal with the consequences of their own decisions. Let it go. Best regards, E. Burger, MHS, PhD, IBCLC Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 26, 2012 Report Share Posted May 26, 2012 @Lynn and , I think you're right. Thank you! Dana Schmidt, BS, RN, IBCLCCradlehold Breastfeeding Education & Supportwww.cradlehold.netPlease follow us on Facebook at www.facebook.com/CradleholdBreastfeedingEducationSupport Treating Tongue-Tied Newborns as featured on The Doctors http://video.ezinemark.com/treating-tongue-tied-newborns-4324f233b80.html We do not seek to establish any professional relationship with any person or entity as a result of any visit to this Website. Transmission of the information is not intended to create and receipt does not create, a doctor-patient or other professional relationship between you and any medical professional or other individual on this Website. Persons contacting us or any medical professional through this Website should not send personal health, confidential, or sensitive information, and should not ask specific medical questions. The Website is a public forum and any comments that you make or submit to us may be displayed publicly on that forum, so you should be cautious about making such comments. No information submitted electronically through the Website or email to us will be treated as privileged, confidential, sensitive or personal health information unless we have previously entered into a written agreement with you to protect such information. Any person submitting confidential or sensitive information to us without first entering a prior written agreement with us to protect such information waives all rights to confidential protection or doctor-patient privilege. We assume no responsibility for the loss or disclosure of any information that you transmit to us via the Internet. Please call or visit www.cradlehold.net for an evaluation. Please see the attached should you desire more in-depth lactation advice.Home Consultations Breastfeeding Home Visit Services: To: " " < > Sent: Saturday, May 26, 2012 8:23 AM Subject: Re: Re: counseling question Sometimes, sadly, an LC is only called so that mom can tell whoever is pressuring her that she tried "everything, but it still didn't work out."Lynn in MO You inform them completely about the risks of each choice and let them decide. It is not your baby or your life. They have to make the decisions and deal with the consequences of their own decisions. Let it go. Best regards, E. Burger, MHS, PhD, IBCLC Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 26, 2012 Report Share Posted May 26, 2012 I helped a mom many years ago through LLL, who wanted to exclusively breastfeed but didn't do what was suggested in order to do so. Later, a few years later, I learned that when she was in her teens she had nursed her sick mother who then died and she was responsible for taking care of the family (her dad was an alcoholic), then when her dad died while she was in her early 20's she was responsible for caring for her two younger brothers who were in their early teens, and then she had a baby and was solely responsible for feeding her.. it didn't work.. I think, and this is conjecture on my part, that being the only one responsible for feeding the baby was too much to handle - along with the grief of giving birth (not being able to share this with her mother, etc...). Sometimes there is so much more going on underneath the surface, than we could possibly imagine. Once this mom knew that it was not " all or nothing " she did supplement and did nurse happily. But that took a while and, even though I don't believe we can ever " give permission " to not breastfeed without some consequences, in this mother's case - if she had continued to pressure herself to exclusively breastfeed, she would have stopped entirely. How lucky this mom is to have your support and caring and willingness to help her work through whatever blockages she has. It is this caring and non judging attitude which she will remember years later. Good luck! Celina D, IBCLC, LLLL, NH > > How do you counsel the mom that continuously tells you that she wants to breastfeed exclusively yet will not take your advice (TT release, domperidone for example?) I don't want to make moms feels guilty about formula but I'm running out of advice. It feels like a no-win situation. Thanks, Dana > > > Dana Schmidt, BS, RN, IBCLC > Cradlehold Breastfeeding Education & Support > www.cradlehold.net > Please follow us on Facebook at > www.facebook.com/CradleholdBreastfeedingEducationSupport > > > Treating Tongue-Tied Newborns as featured on The Doctors http://video.ezinemark.com/treating-tongue-tied-newborns-4324f233b80.htm\ l > > We do not seek to establish any professional relationship with any person or entity as a result of any visit to this Website. Transmission of the information is not intended to create and receipt does not create, a doctor-patient or other professional relationship between you and any medical professional or other individual on this Website. Persons contacting us or any medical professional through this Website should not send personal health, confidential, or sensitive information, and should not ask specific medical questions. The Website is a public forum and any comments that you make or submit to us may be displayed publicly on that forum, so you should be cautious about making such comments. No information submitted electronically through the Website or email to us will be treated as privileged, confidential, sensitive or personal health information unless we have previously entered into a written agreement with you to protect such information. > Any person submitting confidential or sensitive information to us without first entering a prior written agreement with us to protect such information waives all rights to confidential protection or doctor-patient privilege. We assume no responsibility for the loss or disclosure of any information that you transmit to us via the Internet. Please call or visitwww.cradlehold.net for an evaluation. Please see the attached should you desire more in-depth lactation advice.Home Consultations Breastfeeding Home Visit Services: > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 27, 2012 Report Share Posted May 27, 2012 Dana: Just to let you know, you sometimes get the client for whom you explain it all and they aren't willing to do the work that will increase their supply. So you help them with a plan to keep breastfeeding in the picture and be at peace with how it is. Then they text you 20 times a day going over and over and over and over the information you've given them on how supply works and they just won't accept it. If I read one more text about " the MIDWIFE said my baby is more efficient then than the pump " when the mom has tried the " breastfeeding all day long " and we've done the pre and postfeed weight checks that repeatedly show the baby isn't capable of completely finishing a feed on the breast and the baby's BEHAVIOR is consistent with the test weighs -- eating his hands off after feeding forever on the breast -- I think I'm going to use the Liz approach and fire this so-called client. She was attending someone else's group and I can tell the other LC said the same stuff and the midwife just doesn't get it and she clings to the midwife's " breastfeeding is beautiful " just " feed your baby all day long on the breast " advice. I think I have had her drop the pumping at least five times in the last two weeks, seen her supply drop and then ask me why. Head banging territory. sburgernutr@... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Recommended Posts
Join the conversation
You are posting as a guest. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.
Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible.