Re: How to deal with PSSD...

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I have a similar issue in terms of close friends I've told " not necessarily

understanding " . People seem to have a great deal of trouble really letting it

sink in. And that's not just friends -- that's doctors, psychiatrists,

therapists. I've lost count of the number of times I've had to repeat myself

even to medical professionals (and I'm NOT talking about those medical

professionals who refuse to believe in PSSD).

I think my problem is exacerbated by the fact that my own sexual dysfunction is

extremely rare even amongst the PSSD community. I do have some ED and libido

issues but they pale in comparison to my primary complaint which is ejaculatory

anhedonia -- i.e. I have no difficulty achieving " climax " -- there is just no

orgasm. No build-up, no pleasure, no sense of release. I literally feel no

sensation whatsoever when semen is produced -- in fact if it weren't for the

fact that I end up with visible / tangible proof, I wouldn't know anything had

happened at all (that and the fact that I lose my erection after " ejaculation "

if you can call it that).

Most people seem to be unable to believe that such a symptom exists, unless they

suffer from it themselves. I've had the same conversation over and over again

with the same people -- have had them ask me things like " well can you feel

yourself peeing? " (yes) There's nothing wrong with the nerves in my penis, I can

feel things just fine, and I do get sexual pleasure out of having it stimulated

-- it's not numb. The part of my brain that can experience orgasms just seems

to have been damaged. I've been off the celexa for 8 months now and there's

been no change.

This of course has led me to have no sex life at all -- not even a solo one. I

am aware that it is healthy for a male to ejaculate regularly -- especially

older men, especially for prostate health -- but it is simply too devastating

emotionally not to be able to feel pleasure from ejaculation, so I simply don't

do it, even if I get horny. I'm single so I have no partner to have a

nonexistent sex life with.

What makes me angriest of all is that not one of the psychiatrists who

originally put me on the SSRIs or renewed the prescriptions ever mentioned a

SINGLE side-effect, let alone sexual ones, and my symptoms came so gradually

over the course of the 11 years I was on them that I initially assumed the slow

decline in quality of orgasms was due to age. It wasn't until they had reached

0 on a scale of 1 to 10 that I began to consult doctors and it was only after

more than a year of that that someone finally told me " this could be a

side-effect of the SSRIs " . If someone had warmed me to be on the lookout for

sexual side-effects I would have stopped the drug much sooner and might

hopefully still have some low-grade form of orgasm left.

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> > I socialize a lot, people are a distraction.. Also I smoke a lot of

marijuana, it helps.

> > Sent on the Sprint® Now Network from my BlackBerry®

> >

> > How to deal with PSSD...

> >

> > Hi,

> >

> > I have PSSD ever since december last year...slowly its becoming a year

now...

> >

> > used paxil for a short period for the loss of my girlfriend,

> > got a sexual dysfunction back.

> >

> > guess we all have our stories, first of all we all have a background of

having a weak spot (why would u take a pil as an option in the first place?)

secondly we gained an extra dysfunction in life....something to fullfill such a

primary need.

> >

> > For me it has disrupted my life completely, I have become more depressed and

my self esteem has been harmed...a great deal.

> >

> > My (general) question is...for you all,

> > how do you deal with your loss?

> >

> > kind regards,

> >

> > Sebastian

> >

>

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Hi,

I'm sorry to hear about your loss. It's a grieving prosess that has lasted for

nearly five years in my case. My best advice is that you go to a psycologist

regulary, I go once a week. I do take a small dose fluanxol 0,5mg per day, this

helps me to focus about other things than the dysfunction. When I'm not using

any medication I get so depressed because of PSSD. The fluanxol also helps me a

bit sexually, it delays ejaculation a bit, and I can have a decent sex life with

my girlfriend. I do a lot of excersise, both running and weight training, that

is very helpful for me. I also concider adding a small dose of buspiron

(buspar), I have used this before and it helped my libido.

Best of luck

Frode

>

> Hi,

>

> I have PSSD ever since december last year...slowly its becoming a year now...

>

> used paxil for a short period for the loss of my girlfriend,

> got a sexual dysfunction back.

>

> guess we all have our stories, first of all we all have a background of having

a weak spot (why would u take a pil as an option in the first place?) secondly

we gained an extra dysfunction in life....something to fullfill such a primary

need.

>

> For me it has disrupted my life completely, I have become more depressed and

my self esteem has been harmed...a great deal.

>

> My (general) question is...for you all,

> how do you deal with your loss?

>

> kind regards,

>

> Sebastian

>

[Guest guest]

>

> Hi,

>

> I have PSSD ever since december last year...slowly its becoming a year now...

>

> used paxil for a short period for the loss of my girlfriend,

> got a sexual dysfunction back.

>

> guess we all have our stories, first of all we all have a background of having

a weak spot (why would u take a pil as an option in the first place?) secondly

we gained an extra dysfunction in life....something to fullfill such a primary

need.

>

> For me it has disrupted my life completely, I have become more depressed and

my self esteem has been harmed...a great deal.

>

> My (general) question is...for you all,

> how do you deal with your loss?

>

> kind regards,

>

> Sebastian

>

Hi Sebastian,

''How to deal with PSSD?''

That's a good question! I have PSSD 6 months now and i am very depressed also. I

think again the initial reasons which pushed me to take the drugs and i feel

that are nothing serious in relation to the situation i am in now. I believe

that If i hadn't PSSD now, i would win my depression very easily. You appreciate

something when you lose it! But i try to go out with friends for a coffee or

a drink so as not to think all the time about it. I wish all the best for all of

us!

[Guest guest]

Hi fellow PSSD ,

I just had some thoughts on your problem. I think perhaps it may have something

to do with where your problem is. This is soley me hypothesizing but I figured

I would give it a try. I no longer have much pleasure sensation in the head of

my penis, but I do feel some pleasure when I ejaculate. That pleasure is

concentrated in what I think is the prostate. I think the male orgasm consists

of both pleasure in the head of the penis and in the prostate if I understand it

correctly. Do I understand that you feel normal during your erections except

that you don't have that feeling when you orgrasm/ejaculate?

Its just a guess but I feel like its possible our symptoms are almost reversed.

My penis no longer feels sensation, or at least the sensation is greatly

reduced, especially in the head. But I still have feeling in the prostate when

I ejaculate. Anyhow, not sure what to say. I think only those of us who have

these kind of problems can relate to each other.

The pain I feel recognizing that I cannot have sex is very great. The pain that

I may never have a lover again is very deep. I still feel some libido, I just

cannot act on it. My penis is not responsive. I can get an erection of my

shaft only, and only by visual stimulation (porn). I never feel much in the

head and cannot get the head hard. Sucks.

> > >

> > > I socialize a lot, people are a distraction.. Also I smoke a lot of

marijuana, it helps.

> > > Sent on the Sprint® Now Network from my BlackBerry®

> > >

> > > How to deal with PSSD...

> > >

> > > Hi,

> > >

> > > I have PSSD ever since december last year...slowly its becoming a year

now...

> > >

> > > used paxil for a short period for the loss of my girlfriend,

> > > got a sexual dysfunction back.

> > >

> > > guess we all have our stories, first of all we all have a background of

having a weak spot (why would u take a pil as an option in the first place?)

secondly we gained an extra dysfunction in life....something to fullfill such a

primary need.

> > >

> > > For me it has disrupted my life completely, I have become more depressed

and my self esteem has been harmed...a great deal.

> > >

> > > My (general) question is...for you all,

> > > how do you deal with your loss?

> > >

> > > kind regards,

> > >

> > > Sebastian

> > >

> >

>

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Frode,

I am confused, how can you still have sex with your girlfriend with PSSD? Do

you just have reduced libido and/or premature ejaculation but not full blown

ED/Impotence? I am always confused because everyone on here says they have PSSD

but what that means to each of us is quite different.

> >

> > Hi,

> >

> > I have PSSD ever since december last year...slowly its becoming a year

now...

> >

> > used paxil for a short period for the loss of my girlfriend,

> > got a sexual dysfunction back.

> >

> > guess we all have our stories, first of all we all have a background of

having a weak spot (why would u take a pil as an option in the first place?)

secondly we gained an extra dysfunction in life....something to fullfill such a

primary need.

> >

> > For me it has disrupted my life completely, I have become more depressed and

my self esteem has been harmed...a great deal.

> >

> > My (general) question is...for you all,

> > how do you deal with your loss?

> >

> > kind regards,

> >

> > Sebastian

> >

>

[Guest guest]

I used to get mad at my girlfriend who kept saying I had impotence/ erectile

dysfunction and that it is treatable. No, I said, I just don't get turned on all

that much anymore and that is the reason I can't get hard. The following week

she would again say I should see a doctor for my impotence and she kept saying

this over the following months. She would say that if I can't get hard then I

have erectile dysfunction. But it's not the same thing I would tell her, how can

I get hard when nothing excites me?

Actually, I could get hard when I was on my own, but only briefly, and I can

orgasm but it's not much fun. Although sometimes it's better than others.

Kv

> > >

> > > I socialize a lot, people are a distraction.. Also I smoke a lot of

marijuana, it helps.

> > > Sent on the Sprint® Now Network from my BlackBerry®

> > >

> > > How to deal with PSSD...

> > >

> > > Hi,

> > >

> > > I have PSSD ever since december last year...slowly its becoming a year

now...

> > >

> > > used paxil for a short period for the loss of my girlfriend,

> > > got a sexual dysfunction back.

> > >

> > > guess we all have our stories, first of all we all have a background of

having a weak spot (why would u take a pil as an option in the first place?)

secondly we gained an extra dysfunction in life....something to fullfill such a

primary need.

> > >

> > > For me it has disrupted my life completely, I have become more depressed

and my self esteem has been harmed...a great deal.

> > >

> > > My (general) question is...for you all,

> > > how do you deal with your loss?

> > >

> > > kind regards,

> > >

> > > Sebastian

> > >

> >

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