Guest guest Posted May 12, 2006 Report Share Posted May 12, 2006 April and I are great parents together, great friends but not very good partners. Maybe this will all change in the future but right now April and I believe that the best thing for our family is to remove the one thing that seems to be impeding everyone's emotional growth. We did not enter into that decision lightly and there is no one person to blame. It is for the good health and wellbeing of the family.ThanksSteve Steve your a true warrior. And as I read more of your thoughts I find you to be an honorable man. Its nice to know that as so many millions of Americans have in the past followed not so unscrupulious people your clearly a man with scrupils and a warrior heart. Your truly an American Hero. Jesus has used you to rejuvinate me to get back on the health track and also regain that warrior spirit that He placed in me. Please visit my web site and click on the photo and see what I use to look like. I'm not 278 lbs. I was then 165 lbs solid muscle. At one time I was 389 lbs thats not good on a 5'9 frame. I'm now 278 and losing. Seeing your story has helped me so much I can't begin to tell you but please continue on your quest to losing weight and eating healthy. Continue this as Americans we all need your story in our homes. And you now owe it to yourself and America to take care of yourself and make it. Your doing GREAT STEVE! And I would say most if not all of us are with you. God bless you Chief Eaglefeather www.turquoiserain.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 12, 2006 Report Share Posted May 12, 2006 I know that it is difficult to understand why April decided to file for divorce while I was on the road, but I think that it must be said that she is not a bad person. Quite the contrary, April is a wonderful woman, mother and friend. Remember, she allowed me to walk out of the door 13 months ago, and that was an incredibly generous and selfless thing to do. She has gone through her own journey during this time and has had her own growth. Living with someone who is suffering from obesity and depression is not easy, but she has stuck by me. Watching your husband slowly descent towards his eventual death from not caring about him self must be horrible. Watching your kids interact with their father, have good times, frolic and joke, learn from him and love him with all their little hearts, must be bittersweet for her. She can see that the kids enjoy their father but in their youth they are unaware of the looming bad times. They don't know that sooner or later all the good times will be replaced with sadness and death. Still she maintained and tries to help me to get a better perspective and suffers quietly in that failure. So, even though it is easy to say that she is evil or uncaring because of the way things happened between her and I, once you think a little deeper you would likely conclude that her decision could not have been an easy one and that she must have her reasons after all this time. And she does. April and I are great parents together, great friends but not very good partners. Maybe this will all change in the future but right now April and I believe that the best thing for our family is to remove the one thing that seems to be impeding everyone's emotional growth. We did not enter into that decision lightly and there is no one person to blame. It is for the good health and wellbeing of the family. Thanks Steve Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 12, 2006 Report Share Posted May 12, 2006 God bless you Steve! Wish your family all the blessings from the Lord and want you to know I want to start walking!!! > > I know that it is difficult to understand why April decided to file > for divorce while I was on the road, but I think that it must be > said that she is not a bad person. Quite the contrary, April is a > wonderful woman, mother and friend. Remember, she allowed me to walk > out of the door 13 months ago, and that was an incredibly generous > and selfless thing to do. She has gone through her own journey > during this time and has had her own growth. > > Living with someone who is suffering from obesity and depression is > not easy, but she has stuck by me. Watching your husband slowly > descent towards his eventual death from not caring about him self > must be horrible. Watching your kids interact with their father, > have good times, frolic and joke, learn from him and love him with > all their little hearts, must be bittersweet for her. She can see > that the kids enjoy their father but in their youth they are unaware > of the looming bad times. They don't know that sooner or later all > the good times will be replaced with sadness and death. Still she > maintained and tries to help me to get a better perspective and > suffers quietly in that failure. > > So, even though it is easy to say that she is evil or uncaring > because of the way things happened between her and I, once you think > a little deeper you would likely conclude that her decision could > not have been an easy one and that she must have her reasons after > all this time. And she does. > > April and I are great parents together, great friends but not very > good partners. Maybe this will all change in the future but right > now April and I believe that the best thing for our family is to > remove the one thing that seems to be impeding everyone's emotional > growth. We did not enter into that decision lightly and there is no > one person to blame. It is for the good health and wellbeing of the > family. > Thanks > Steve > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 12, 2006 Report Share Posted May 12, 2006 Thank you Steve for your explanation. I feel a little as the person who says it is really none of our business. Never judge another till you have walked a mile in his shoes...or in this case many miles! Jane Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 12, 2006 Report Share Posted May 12, 2006 Steve, Thank you very much for sharing your thoughts with us. I don't think there was a negative thought in most people's minds about April. I live with an obese and depressed husband and I can tell you that it is not easy at all, for me or for the kids. There are many things we can't do as a family because of this and having someone around who is constantly on a downer and angry at the world takes its toll. Fortunately, my husband keeps on trying to help himself and I do try to help him when he is unable to help himself. There have been times, however when I have felt that it would be better for my family to be without him. That is an awful thing to say. I see the effect, particularly on our son, who also has phases of being angry, yet I am not at the point of giving up yet! I am confident that you will find a way to make your family happy and healthy, whether you are together as a couple or not. You have a lot to do still and some exciting times ahead. Enjoy your kids and your new found zest for life! You are a sweet kind man and deserver to be happy! Kathie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 12, 2006 Report Share Posted May 12, 2006 Steve, You don't owe us, or anyone an explanation...that is such a personal matter....Just continue to grow...continue your life journeys, and continue to share those things with us - We are all here for you...and don't worry about a few old soreheads! (easy for me to say, huh, after a sorehead or two let me know I was posting too many off topic things!) Beth Vaught wrote: I know that it is difficult to understand why April decided to file for divorce while I was on the road, but I think that it must be said that she is not a bad person. Quite the contrary, April is a wonderful woman, mother and friend. Remember, she allowed me to walk out of the door 13 months ago, and that was an incredibly generous and selfless thing to do. She has gone through her own journey during this time and has had her own growth.Living with someone who is suffering from obesity and depression is not easy, but she has stuck by me. Watching your husband slowly descent towards his eventual death from not caring about him self must be horrible. Watching your kids interact with their father, have good times, frolic and joke, learn from him and love him with all their little hearts, must be bittersweet for her. She can see that the kids enjoy their father but in their youth they are unaware of the looming bad times. They don't know that sooner or later all the good times will be replaced with sadness and death. Still she maintained and tries to help me to get a better perspective and suffers quietly in that failure.So, even though it is easy to say that she is evil or uncaring because of the way things happened between her and I, once you think a little deeper you would likely conclude that her decision could not have been an easy one and that she must have her reasons after all this time. And she does.April and I are great parents together, great friends but not very good partners. Maybe this will all change in the future but right now April and I believe that the best thing for our family is to remove the one thing that seems to be impeding everyone's emotional growth. We did not enter into that decision lightly and there is no one person to blame. It is for the good health and wellbeing of the family.ThanksSteve Blab-away for as little as 1¢/min. Make PC-to-Phone Calls using Yahoo! Messenger with Voice. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 12, 2006 Report Share Posted May 12, 2006 Steve, You don't owe us, or anyone an explanation...that is such a personal matter....Just continue to grow...continue your life journeys, and continue to share those things with us - We are all here for you...and don't worry about a few old soreheads! (easy for me to say, huh, after a sorehead or two let me know I was posting too many off topic things!) Beth Vaught wrote: I know that it is difficult to understand why April decided to file for divorce while I was on the road, but I think that it must be said that she is not a bad person. Quite the contrary, April is a wonderful woman, mother and friend. Remember, she allowed me to walk out of the door 13 months ago, and that was an incredibly generous and selfless thing to do. She has gone through her own journey during this time and has had her own growth.Living with someone who is suffering from obesity and depression is not easy, but she has stuck by me. Watching your husband slowly descent towards his eventual death from not caring about him self must be horrible. Watching your kids interact with their father, have good times, frolic and joke, learn from him and love him with all their little hearts, must be bittersweet for her. She can see that the kids enjoy their father but in their youth they are unaware of the looming bad times. They don't know that sooner or later all the good times will be replaced with sadness and death. Still she maintained and tries to help me to get a better perspective and suffers quietly in that failure.So, even though it is easy to say that she is evil or uncaring because of the way things happened between her and I, once you think a little deeper you would likely conclude that her decision could not have been an easy one and that she must have her reasons after all this time. And she does.April and I are great parents together, great friends but not very good partners. Maybe this will all change in the future but right now April and I believe that the best thing for our family is to remove the one thing that seems to be impeding everyone's emotional growth. We did not enter into that decision lightly and there is no one person to blame. It is for the good health and wellbeing of the family.ThanksSteve Blab-away for as little as 1¢/min. Make PC-to-Phone Calls using Yahoo! Messenger with Voice. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 12, 2006 Report Share Posted May 12, 2006 You hang in there Steve. Always remember it takes two. It's GREAT that you two have remained friends. That's the best way to be. My exhusband from 27 years ago and I are still the best of friends. We are both single, we go places together, email, call and just be happy when we're together. Just because people split doesn't mean they have to hate each other and it's so much better for the kids. I'm so proud of your accomplishment. You should be also. I really wish my son could meet you. He's also overweight and depressed and I just now found out he is smoking pot. Needless to say, he ain't likeing it at home right now. I'm putting him in for substance counciling. Man I hope it works. It rally scares me. I will not tolerate pot or any other kind of drug in my house and he knows it. Anyway, keep up the good work and I'll keep watching. Thank you for being you Connie Vaught wrote: I know that it is difficult to understand why April decided to file for divorce while I was on the road, but I think that it must be said that she is not a bad person. Quite the contrary, April is a wonderful woman, mother and friend. Remember, she allowed me to walk out of the door 13 months ago, and that was an incredibly generous and selfless thing to do. She has gone through her own journey during this time and has had her own growth.Living with someone who is suffering from obesity and depression is not easy, but she has stuck by me. Watching your husband slowly descent towards his eventual death from not caring about him self must be horrible. Watching your kids interact with their father, have good times, frolic and joke, learn from him and love him with all their little hearts, must be bittersweet for her. She can see that the kids enjoy their father but in their youth they are unaware of the looming bad times. They don't know that sooner or later all the good times will be replaced with sadness and death. Still she maintained and tries to help me to get a better perspective and suffers quietly in that failure.So, even though it is easy to say that she is evil or uncaring because of the way things happened between her and I, once you think a little deeper you would likely conclude that her decision could not have been an easy one and that she must have her reasons after all this time. And she does.April and I are great parents together, great friends but not very good partners. Maybe this will all change in the future but right now April and I believe that the best thing for our family is to remove the one thing that seems to be impeding everyone's emotional growth. We did not enter into that decision lightly and there is no one person to blame. It is for the good health and wellbeing of the family.ThanksSteve Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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