Guest guest Posted July 19, 1998 Report Share Posted July 19, 1998 It's funny but it's scary. I have people who say things like that all the time. I don't look like I'm in pain. People seem to have an image of what pain should look like. And if you don't look like that you're not in pain. I've been in pain for about 35 years now, I think I've learned how to put on a happy face by now. What's scary about that statement though is that it came from someone in the medical profession. <><><><><> <><><><><><> ~~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~ Healing is the best revenge. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 19, 1998 Report Share Posted July 19, 1998 Pati, Maybe you should bite his ear off. Ken Pati Beck wrote: > > > Hi Everyone, I just got a copy of the consultation note my > neurologist(former) wrote to my neurosurgeon. I thought you might all > get a laugh at one of the comments he wrote. " Patient is far to > pleasantto be in the pain she claims to be in " Need I say anymore? > > Pati > > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 19, 1998 Report Share Posted July 19, 1998 See what happens when you're too nice ! Let that be a lesson. What you should do is put on a pair of old greasy overalls, find yourself an old shotgun and on the way into town, pick up a nice piece of roadkill. Go to his office and stand there with the shotgun in one hand, the roadkill in the other, and tell him it's his turn ! Mike > Too Pleasant! > > > > > > Hi Everyone, I just got a copy of the consultation note my > neurologist(former) wrote to my neurosurgeon. I thought you might all > get a laugh at one of the comments he wrote. " Patient is far to > pleasantto be in the pain she claims to be in " Need I say anymore? > > Pati > > > > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 19, 1998 Report Share Posted July 19, 1998 What's worse is if you do allow the pain to show through for what it really is, then you are dubbed as being histrionic. This is a no win situation in many cases! I agree that for those of us who have been in pain for many years, we either learn to cope, put on that happy face even when we don't feel like it, or else we end up making ourselves and everyone around us even more miserable. Otherwise, I don't think we could bear the overwhelming nature of it all. Vickie A. wrote: > From: Andy24747@... (A. ) > > It's funny but it's scary. I have people who say things like that all > the time. I don't look like I'm in pain. People seem to have an image of > what pain should look like. And if you don't look like that you're not > in pain. I've been in pain for about 35 years now, I think I've learned > how to put on a happy face by now. > What's scary about that statement though is that it came from someone in > the medical profession. > > <><><><><> <><><><><><> > ~~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~ > Healing is the best revenge. > > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 19, 1998 Report Share Posted July 19, 1998 Also, do you find yourself lying when people ask how you are? Ok, now that I'm halfway back among the living, I guess I should introduce myself. I describe myself as suffering from invisible disabilities and also controversial disabilites as in people don't believe they exist or that they are caused by stress. I have severe anemia- 8.6 instead of 12-16, meds only take it to 10. I have fibromyalgia, asthma and ADHD. I have been in pain since the age of six when I was in a severe car accident and refused medical treathment. i believe my mother and grandmother also have/ had fibro due to the same car accident. I did not start receiving medical attention for my pain until I went to college and was on my own. I have been to PT, pain management clinics, the whole nine yards. Yet I was not dx'd with the fibro, asthma and ADD until the last two years. Since prober dx I have been able to reduce my pain level. Before my dx I was taking 800 mg of IB every 8 hours every single day. Now I rarely take OTC strength, maybe once a week. Of course I had to give up a lot of activities to reduce my pain level. I work full-time and have two furkids. <><><><><> <><><><><><> ~~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~ Healing is the best revenge. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 20, 1998 Report Share Posted July 20, 1998 Ken, what a great ideal I bet he would never even think much less say such a thing after that. Some people can be such jerks I was told one time that I was just to nice a person and belief me I am not a to nice person. If I see someone who needs help and I can help I will but is not like I am wearing a sign on my backside saying kick me I'm to nice a person to get upset over it.This was a supervisor on a job in a bank I guess they want back stabbing uncaring Sob's their thats why I loved working for Doc I was never accused of being to nice. ---------- > > To: chronic_painonelist > Subject: Re: Too Pleasant! > Date: Sunday, July 19, 1998 8:29 PM > > > > Pati, > Maybe you should bite his ear off. > Ken > > Pati Beck wrote: > > > > > > > Hi Everyone, I just got a copy of the consultation note my > > neurologist(former) wrote to my neurosurgeon. I thought you might all > > get a laugh at one of the comments he wrote. " Patient is far to > > pleasantto be in the pain she claims to be in " Need I say anymore? > > > > Pati > > > > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 20, 1998 Report Share Posted July 20, 1998 That is to funny she could even give him a choice since she was to nice and cheerful to be in pain. #1 u want me to shoot u with this here shot gun cause that is really going hurt me alot more than you or do u want a sporting chance I'll just run u down with my car and that will only hurt my car and not me, and oh by the way is this pleasant enough for u? ---------- > > To: chronic_painonelist > Subject: Re: Too Pleasant! > Date: Sunday, July 19, 1998 8:39 PM > > > > See what happens when you're too nice ! Let that be a lesson. What you > should do is put on a pair of old greasy overalls, find yourself an old > shotgun and on the way into town, pick up a nice piece of roadkill. Go to > his office and stand there with the shotgun in one hand, the roadkill in the > other, and tell him it's his turn ! > > Mike > > > Too Pleasant! > > > > > > > > > > > > Hi Everyone, I just got a copy of the consultation note my > > neurologist(former) wrote to my neurosurgeon. I thought you might all > > get a laugh at one of the comments he wrote. " Patient is far to > > pleasantto be in the pain she claims to be in " Need I say anymore? > > > > Pati > > > > > > > > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 20, 1998 Report Share Posted July 20, 1998 Hi , Your difficulties are certainly not invisible to you! I hardly think there is anyone on our list who has not been supersaturated with the " its in your head' trip. You obviously are a hihg achiever (like the rest of us, except for me, Mike & who are just bums) so why would a person like you want to make up obstacles. Bottom line, logic for most people is usually out to lunch! You have managed life despite significant limitations. Perhaps you got good at it since you started so early. Have a question for you: do you get Fibrofog (fibro spacey/inattentive/memory loss feeling) & if so, how do you tell the difference between this & ATDD? And welcome to life on the list! Ken A. wrote: > From: Andy24747@... (A. ) > > Also, do you find yourself lying when people ask how you are? > > Ok, now that I'm halfway back among the living, I guess I should > introduce myself. > I describe myself as suffering from invisible disabilities and also > controversial disabilites as in people don't believe they exist or that > they are caused by stress. > I have severe anemia- 8.6 instead of 12-16, meds only take it to 10. > I have fibromyalgia, asthma and ADHD. I have been in pain since the age > of six when I was in a severe car accident and refused medical > treathment. i believe my mother and grandmother also have/ had fibro > due to the same car accident. I did not start receiving medical > attention for my pain until I went to college and was on my own. I have > been to PT, pain management clinics, the whole nine yards. Yet I was not > dx'd with the fibro, asthma and ADD until the last two years. Since > prober dx I have been able to reduce my pain level. Before my dx I was > taking 800 mg of IB every 8 hours every single day. Now I rarely take > OTC strength, maybe once a week. Of course I had to give up a lot of > activities to reduce my pain level. > I work full-time and have two furkids. > > <><><><><> <><><><><><> > ~~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~ > Healing is the best revenge. > > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 20, 1998 Report Share Posted July 20, 1998 Pati, Sad that in our time nice becomes just another 4 letter word. Anyway, think MEAN. One psychological technique in getting angry at people (or just acting that way) is to look at their mouths - more impersonal than eye contact, & visualize them in riduculous ways-- standing in their underwear, have 16 foot heads, being baloons that you can stick with a pin) and also just yelling nasty things at them. You don't have to feel them, just yell them. This is assertiveness training. Problem is, if you get nasty, they'll probably tell you you have pain because you're angry. Anger is often regarded a clinical sumptom. I still lean toward 'bite his ear off! Ken Pandora wrote: > > > Ken, what a great ideal I bet he would never even think much less say such > a thing after that. Some people can be such jerks I was told one time that > I was just to nice a person and belief me I am not a to nice person. If I > see someone who needs help and I can help I will but is not like I am > wearing a sign on my backside saying kick me I'm to nice a person to get > upset over it.This was a supervisor on a job in a bank I guess they want > back stabbing uncaring Sob's their thats why I loved working for Doc I was > never accused of being to nice. > > ---------- > > > > To: chronic_painonelist > > Subject: Re: Too Pleasant! > > Date: Sunday, July 19, 1998 8:29 PM > > > > > > > > Pati, > > Maybe you should bite his ear off. > > Ken > > > > Pati Beck wrote: > > > > > > > > > > > Hi Everyone, I just got a copy of the consultation note my > > > neurologist(former) wrote to my neurosurgeon. I thought you might all > > > get a laugh at one of the comments he wrote. " Patient is far to > > > pleasantto be in the pain she claims to be in " Need I say anymore? > > > > > > Pati > > > > > > > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 20, 1998 Report Share Posted July 20, 1998 There really isn't a differnce between the fibrofog and the ADD fog. Fog is fog. <><><><><> <><><><><><> ~~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~ Healing is the best revenge. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 21, 1998 Report Share Posted July 21, 1998 I get told that I am too nice, too pleasant, and hence that people will walk all over me. Often this comment comes from the strangest sources. Personally, I use an ascerbic response as a last resort, unless of course the context demands otherwise. Generally I find that the assertive " strong " persons miss too much of the wonders of the world. I suppose in other ways I behave in a contradictory manner to this type of view, but I am who I am, and if you can't be happy with that ... What can one say? Regards . ( Tired and Sick of working on a Help Desk ). ****************************************** Milton |santeri@... | ----------------------------------------------------------- http://www.eisa.net.au/~santeri =-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-= Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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