Reading etc.

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I have to take time to read in my profession. As a reviewer, I get a

review in about once a week. That's at minimum-have found if I do

not check email in first hour getting up, it tends to pile up. Like

lovely 93 new emails I had waiting for me after evening news

yesterday. Have learned which ones I can safely eliminate without

bothering to read.

You know, part of the problem of AS is that for the most part, we do

not appear different from other people. The defining factor, social

interaction can be hidden by means of a therapist or drugs. Time

helped me. And some need professional help in order to function.

Only reason I can see for mistaking AS for Munchausen's is that kids

had AS and were going in for doctor visits a great many times. Now

then, Munchausen's COULD be a reason for child abuse. Not accusing

Debbie of that.

Wendi-have you considered starting your own AS support group? Those

mothers who hated your guts probably had kids who were not Aspies.

[Guest guest]

At 01:31 PM 10/9/04 +0200, Inger Lorelei wrote:

>I'm exatly the same. I have a few favorite sets of clothes

>that I alternate between and don't really want to wear anything else.

If one were to open my closet, they'd see a row of identical black

t-shirts, a row of identical black sweatshirts and a stack of identical

black sweat pants.

I have three dresses that I made myself (one is flannel, one is velour and

one is light-weight cotton and they're soft and loose and flowing so it's

like going out in a comfy nightgown except they look dressy) for dressing

up. Both are floor-length and I usually have combat boots on under them but

no one notices.

I've had people ask me why I wear black all the time. Or some people ask it

a different way like do I wear black for religious reasons. My answer is,

" it's easy. " Sometimes people don't understand that so I have to explain:

In Einstein's closet, there was a row of identical brown suits. The reason

we always think of Einstein as being dressed the same way all the time was

because he was. Clothes frustrated him because they made him think about

something he didn't really care about. If he had many choices, he'd end up

leaving the house looking strange because he wasn't really thinking about

the clothes as he got dressed.

So he just bought an entire wardrobe of identical clothes to solve the

problem.

And that's what I did. I chose black because it can go with anything. If I

put on my black velour dress, I'm ready for anything from teaching a class

to going to the opera. Once again, I don't have to think about what I

should wear or if it's appropriately dressy or too dressy or not dressy

enough. I can forget about clothes and worry about all the other stressful

things in the world! LOL!

Sparrow

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wrote:

>All

those emails can be a problem. It is interesting that business thought emails

would solve problems, but it ended up creating >even more. These days, instead

of simply walking down the hall, sticking your head in someone's

office and asking if they got >something, you send an email. The email is

really more intrusive and disruptive than the physical visit. With a physical

visit, its >verbal and you can answer often without looking up from what you

are doing. If you have any questions, you can ask and have them >answered

right there and then. With Emails, you hear the tone, go the the program, open

the email, read it, think the response, type >it in (which can take a while)

and send it. Then you have to wait for a response which is a constant

distraction from the work. When >another email comes in, it might not even

be the reply, but a totally different email altogether. It wastes a lot of time

and effort.

Ah, but email leaves a trail, and evidence for finger-pointing

purposes when something goes wrong!

Instead of saying “He told me ----“ with

no evidence, now they have an email they can print out to prove it! That’s what my husband says about

this new trend (who is not a finger-pointer, and would rather put all that effort

and valuable time into fixing the problem instead of figuring out who is

to blame!).

wrote: AS is a problem in that we

don't really look or sound any different from anyone else. The

retarded fellow up the street >it is clear both in looks and speech. Some

other retarded people about its the same way: if the

appearance doesn't show it, then >the voise and manner of speech will. The only

clues I really give off is that I like to wear the same kind of clothes, like a

uniform, I >don't talk much and sometimes my sensory sensitivities will crop up.

Most people don't even think about those things as being >clues, however. They

just think maybe I'm the shy type who doesn't

change clothes often. (People who know me though know that I >have 3 or 4

complete sets of the clothes I like and switch between them. Bascially its a summer and winter wardrobe of jeans and >T-shirts

with a light jacket of some kind in the summer and jeans and a sweat shirt in

winter. I don't like clothes that I have to take a >lot of care of as that

kind of defeats the purpose I think.)

I do the same thing. If I like clothes (or at least tolerate

it), I buy a few of them, in different colors if available.

wrote: I can see your logic on why

AS might be classed as Munchousen by proxy. I had a lot of ear infections when

I was a >child, but that was about it. To this day I have not knowingly

broken any bones (Though there was this one time I hit my head really >hard

and another when I well off a swing and probably broke the Cocxyx (sp.) which

is the small bone on the end of the spinal >column and is the vestige of our

tails. Noone thought anything of it though since I got up and walked, even

though it was ungodly >painful, and hurt for weeks.) That could have been

due to diet though, given all that I have read abuot on here about that kind of

>thing. I do notice that if I am eating too much bad stuff, that I do feel

sicker and the nose gets runnier and there is more build up of >stuff in the

ears. Still, they never thought anything odd about it. These days though it

could be a different story, what with the way >they are over reacting about

child abuse and so on.

I am always worried

about being accused of child abuse.

My kids are as clumsy as I am, constantly getting bruised and cut, most

of the times the girls don’t even realize it because they are hypo-sensitive

everywhere except the front of their heads and faces (my son is hyper-sensitive

to pain).

Wendi

[Guest guest]

Ah, another logical Aspie!

I too design my own clothes to be soft, flowing and comfortable. (But I suck

at sewing so I have someone make them for me for a very small sum.)

Inger

At 01:31 PM 10/9/04 +0200, Inger Lorelei wrote:

>> I'm exatly the same. I have a few favorite sets of clothes that I

>> alternate between and don't really want to wear anything else.

Sparrow:

> If one were to open my closet, they'd see a row of identical black

t-shirts, a row of identical black sweatshirts and a stack of identical

black sweat pants.

> I have three dresses that I made myself (one is flannel, one is velour and

one is light-weight cotton and they're soft and loose and flowing so it's

like going out in a comfy nightgown except they look dressy) for dressing

up. Both are floor-length and I usually have combat boots on under them but

no one notices.

> I've had people ask me why I wear black all the time. Or some people ask

> it

a different way like do I wear black for religious reasons. My answer is,

" it's easy. " Sometimes people don't understand that so I have to explain:

> In Einstein's closet, there was a row of identical brown suits. The reason

we always think of Einstein as being dressed the same way all the time was

because he was. Clothes frustrated him because they made him think about

something he didn't really care about. If he had many choices, he'd end up

leaving the house looking strange because he wasn't really thinking about

the clothes as he got dressed.

> So he just bought an entire wardrobe of identical clothes to solve the

problem.

> And that's what I did. I chose black because it can go with anything. If I

put on my black velour dress, I'm ready for anything from teaching a class

to going to the opera. Once again, I don't have to think about what I

should wear or if it's appropriately dressy or too dressy or not dressy

enough. I can forget about clothes and worry about all the other stressful

things in the world! LOL!