Guest guest Posted May 25, 2012 Report Share Posted May 25, 2012 Dana, You might try saying, "Help me to understand why you're reluctant to take domperidone?" Scratching ones head if with the mom, you could also try " I'm a bit confused when you say you want to breastfeed exclusively, but seem to be having difficulty doing the things that could help you reach your goal. How can I help you?" This places no blame or judgement, just a clarification which can open the door for mom to share why she isn't following suggested treatment. It's also the tone of voice with which the above examples are said. Barbara Latterner Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 25, 2012 Report Share Posted May 25, 2012 I tell her gently that I hear her telling me she wants to bf exclusively, but that she does not seem to want the tools I am offering her to pursue that goal, and ask her if she'd like to talk about what breastfeeding successfully means to her and what kinds of help would be useful to her.Lynn in MO How do you counsel the mom that continuously tells you that she wants to breastfeed exclusively yet will not take your advice (TT release, domperidone for example?) I don't want to make moms feels guilty about formula but I'm running out of advice. It feels like a no-win situation. Thanks, Dana Dana Schmidt, BS, RN, IBCLCCradlehold Breastfeeding Education & Supportwww.cradlehold.netPlease follow us on Facebook at www.facebook.com/CradleholdBreastfeedingEducationSupport Treating Tongue-Tied Newborns as featured on The Doctors http://video.ezinemark.com/treating-tongue-tied-newborns-4324f233b80.html We do not seek to establish any professional relationship with any person or entity as a result of any visit to this Website. Transmission of the information is not intended to create and receipt does not create, a doctor-patient or other professional relationship between you and any medical professional or other individual on this Website. Persons contacting us or any medical professional through this Website should not send personal health, confidential, or sensitive information, and should not ask specific medical questions. The Website is a public forum and any comments that you make or submit to us may be displayed publicly on that forum, so you should be cautious about making such comments. No information submitted electronically through the Website or email to us will be treated as privileged, confidential, sensitive or personal health information unless we have previously entered into a written agreement with you to protect such information. Any person submitting confidential or sensitive information to us without first entering a prior written agreement with us to protect such information waives all rights to confidential protection or doctor-patient privilege. We assume no responsibility for the loss or disclosure of any information that you transmit to us via the Internet. Please call or visit www.cradlehold.net for an evaluation. Please see the attached should you desire more in-depth lactation advice.Home Consultations Breastfeeding Home Visit Services: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 25, 2012 Report Share Posted May 25, 2012 I tell her that the suggestions I'm giving her are the things we know to work best to fix her problem. Then I tell her that every choice has a consequence. Pumping is very time consuming and takes time away from enjoying the baby, but gives more healthy breastmilk for the baby. Giving formula is less healthy for her baby, but gives the mom more time to spend just holding and playing with the baby. So, she has to choose the consequence she thinks she will be able to live with years from now when she looks back on her situation. There is no right answer and I can't choose that for her, but she needs to give it some serious thought. I figure that takes some of the pressure off the mom if she realizes I have no judgement in this. And it also takes the pressure off me because it acknowledges that I have no control over what other people choose. And it is usually less frustrating for me because saying that often stops the neverending phone calls where the mom is crying because it isn't working but she doesn't want to do anything I'm suggesting. She makes up her mind and that's that. (Life being what it is, it isn't always that easy, but often it works.) Dee Kassing How do you counsel the mom that continuously tells you that she wants to breastfeed exclusively yet will not take your advice (TT release, domperidone for example?) I don't want to make moms feels guilty about formula but I'm running out of advice. It feels like a no-win situation. Thanks, Dana Dana Schmidt, BS, RN, IBCLCCradlehold Breastfeeding Education & Supportwww.cradlehold.net Please follow us on Facebook at www.facebook.com/CradleholdBreastfeedingEducationSupport Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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