Guest guest Posted March 29, 2012 Report Share Posted March 29, 2012 My therapist says I'm avoidant, refusing to feel.. but I am honestly unable to. I no longer have the capacity for real emotions. Being numb has its benefits, I don't ever get angry and I have no flight or fight response so I am able to think rationally when everyone is panicking.. but at the same time I'm unable to empathize with others. Or with myself. The only emotions I have that I can name are pride, guilt, irritable, or boredom. I've lost the ability to connect with anyone outside of myself. physically as well as emotionally. it's not just the sexual aspect. tho that's bad enough.. I realized that for as long as I have this condition. I am bound to be alone forever. I guess loneliness is an emotion too? How many of you talk to your inner voice and use it to feel feelings, certainly since when I took the SSRI I was like a zombie and my inner voice disapeared. I am now trying CBT in accessing and using the inner voice and feelings to move a way from being a robotatron? to a human being. From my point of view it is certainly hard as my thinking and thought processes has slowed down, but I started with what I read somewhere about trying to talk to your inner voice for at least five minutes. http://www.google.co.uk/url?sa=t & rct=j & q= & esrc=s & source=web & cd=2 & ved=0CDMQFjAB & url=http%3A%2F%2Fbakerthebrand.com%2F2011%2F09%2F06%2Flisten-to-your-inner-voice%2F & ei=i710T52HCKac0AX0kd3mDw & usg=AFQjCNGlyseNNCdndcFC1_tM4crj9VW80w http://www.boldlivingtoday.com/2011/11/06/becoming-reacquainted-with-your-inner-voice/ Its a thing we develop through life which helps us mature and to make decisions, I think a lot of why our 'libido' is gone is that we have forgotton how to listen to ourselves and turn ourselves on?? Just an idea, would be interested if anyone else thought this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 29, 2012 Report Share Posted March 29, 2012 Oh man are you a fuckin quack?? we lost our libido because this shit altered our brains. > > How many of you talk to your inner voice and use it to feel feelings, certainly since when I took the SSRI I was like a zombie and my inner voice disapeared. I am now trying CBT in accessing and using the inner voice and feelings to move a way from being a robotatron? to a human being. From my point of view it is certainly hard as my thinking and thought processes has slowed down, but I started with what I read somewhere about trying to talk to your inner voice for at least five minutes. > > http://www.google.co.uk/url?sa=t & rct=j & q= & esrc=s & source=web & cd=2 & ved=0CDMQFjAB & u\ rl=http%3A%2F%2Fbakerthebrand.com%2F2011%2F09%2F06%2Flisten-to-your-inner-voice%\ 2F & ei=i710T52HCKac0AX0kd3mDw & usg=AFQjCNGlyseNNCdndcFC1_tM4crj9VW80w > > > http://www.boldlivingtoday.com/2011/11/06/becoming-reacquainted-with-your-inner-\ voice/ > > > Its a thing we develop through life which helps us mature and to make decisions, I think a lot of why our 'libido' is gone is that we have forgotton how to listen to ourselves and turn ourselves on?? > > Just an idea, would be interested if anyone else thought this. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 29, 2012 Report Share Posted March 29, 2012 At first years of PSSD i have a very weak inner voice and i always ignore it when it say: go for a solution - go testing different ways - dont waste your time. Today i follow this, i repeat success case and more, before i was only search for papers and lot crying about my bad situation... I go for doing things sometimes, without my inner voice, because i know that waiting for " witchcraft heal " is a very stupid way... > > How many of you talk to your inner voice and use it to feel feelings, certainly since when I took the SSRI I was like a zombie and my inner voice disapeared. I am now trying CBT in accessing and using the inner voice and feelings to move a way from being a robotatron? to a human being. From my point of view it is certainly hard as my thinking and thought processes has slowed down, but I started with what I read somewhere about trying to talk to your inner voice for at least five minutes. > > http://www.google.co.uk/url?sa=t & rct=j & q= & esrc=s & source=web & cd=2 & ved=0CDMQFjAB & u\ rl=http%3A%2F%2Fbakerthebrand.com%2F2011%2F09%2F06%2Flisten-to-your-inner-voice%\ 2F & ei=i710T52HCKac0AX0kd3mDw & usg=AFQjCNGlyseNNCdndcFC1_tM4crj9VW80w > > > http://www.boldlivingtoday.com/2011/11/06/becoming-reacquainted-with-your-inner-\ voice/ > > > Its a thing we develop through life which helps us mature and to make decisions, I think a lot of why our 'libido' is gone is that we have forgotton how to listen to ourselves and turn ourselves on?? > > Just an idea, would be interested if anyone else thought this. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 30, 2012 Report Share Posted March 30, 2012 Your post really touched me, Goldy. If it wasn't for my girlfiend I would be very lonely too. Chronic depression and the damage antidepressants have done to me have made me lose interest in relationships. When I had good sex drive, though, I always pursued woman because a being in love is wondeful. In fact, it was the relationship and being with someone really special that drove me find a lovely woman more than the sex ever did. I was always falling in love with some lovely girl I that might have come into my life and then it was all wow! My sex drive was unbelievable, though, so I can't explain how being in love was my main motivation, I guess I am just a romantic sort. Still, lonelines is very hard and feels like real unending emptiness and I am still feel like this even though I have a girfriend. But I was expecting a lot more out of life than this and so there is great sadness, but I am trying to make the most out of it through mindfullness techniques and radical acceptance. To give up the struggle and let things be should bring some healing in the end by transending suffering. Then the brain has a chance to heal. Kv > > My therapist says I'm avoidant, refusing to feel.. but I am honestly unable to. I no longer have the capacity for real emotions. Being numb has its benefits,  I don't ever get angry and I have no flight or fight response so I am able to think rationally when everyone is panicking.. but at the same time I'm unable to empathize with others. Or with myself. The only emotions I have that I can name are pride, guilt, irritable, or boredom. > I've lost the ability to connect with anyone outside of myself. physically as well as emotionally. it's not just the sexual aspect. tho that's bad enough.. I realized that for as long as I have this condition. I am bound to be alone forever. I guess loneliness is an emotion too? > > >  > > > > > > How many of you talk to your inner voice and use it to feel feelings, certainly since when I took the SSRI  I was like a zombie and my inner voice disapeared.  I am now trying CBT in accessing and using the inner voice and feelings to move a way from being a robotatron? to a human being.  From my point of view it is certainly hard as my thinking and thought processes has slowed down, but I started with what I read somewhere about trying to talk to your inner voice for at least five minutes. > > > http://www.google.co.uk/url?sa=t & rct=j & q= & esrc=s & source=web & cd=2 & ved=0CD\ MQFjAB & url=http%3A%2F%2Fbakerthebrand.com%2F2011%2F09%2F06%2Flisten-to-y\ our-inner-voice%2F & ei=i710T52HCKac0AX0kd3mDw & usg=AFQjCNGlyseNNCdndcFC1_t\ M4crj9VW80w > > > > http://www.boldlivingtoday.com/2011/11/06/becoming-reacquainted-with-you\ r-inner-voice/ > > > > Its a thing we develop through life which helps us mature and to make decisions, I think a lot of why our 'libido' is gone is that we have forgotton how to listen to ourselves and turn ourselves on?? > > > Just an idea, would be interested if anyone else thought this. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 30, 2012 Report Share Posted March 30, 2012 My inner voice is a very nasty thing that is always telling me off and running me down trying to utterly destroy me. Still, it is very sad thing indeed when someone here is in a lot of pain and is trying to cope with this by connecting with their inner self and then somebody else here is really rude to them. My heart goes out to you we all have our own unique ways of trying to come to terms with the dreadful thing that has happened to us, so best of luck. For me, though, my inner voice is toxic. If I had never listened to it in the first place I would have never got into this mess. All the best, Kv > > > > How many of you talk to your inner voice and use it to feel feelings, certainly since when I took the SSRI I was like a zombie and my inner voice disapeared. I am now trying CBT in accessing and using the inner voice and feelings to move a way from being a robotatron? to a human being. From my point of view it is certainly hard as my thinking and thought processes has slowed down, but I started with what I read somewhere about trying to talk to your inner voice for at least five minutes. > > > > http://www.google.co.uk/url?sa=t & rct=j & q= & esrc=s & source=web & cd=2 & ved=0CD\ MQFjAB & url=http%3A%2F%2Fbakerthebrand.com%2F2011%2F09%2F06%2Flisten-to-y\ our-inner-voice%2F & ei=i710T52HCKac0AX0kd3mDw & usg=AFQjCNGlyseNNCdndcFC1_t\ M4crj9VW80w > > > > > > http://www.boldlivingtoday.com/2011/11/06/becoming-reacquainted-with-you\ r-inner-voice/ > > > > > > Its a thing we develop through life which helps us mature and to make decisions, I think a lot of why our 'libido' is gone is that we have forgotton how to listen to ourselves and turn ourselves on?? > > > > Just an idea, would be interested if anyone else thought this. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 30, 2012 Report Share Posted March 30, 2012 This isn't going to interest many people here so I give my apologies, but here goes:Looking at that site, it say's there are two inner voices, one is accepting and the other one is critical. I wouldn't use the term inner voice at all for the accepting one, I would use the term 'authentic self'' instead, which is feeling based. In Acceptance and Commitment therapy you learn to ignore your inner thoughts and connect instead with your conceptual self, which is a mindful non judgemental state. But I think we are talking about about the same things here and just using different terms and names.In Acceptance and Commitment therapy there is the observing self (conceptual) and this is completely non judgemental which just notices things, even if they are unpleasant. When we connect with this observing self we can become much more free from distress due to the acceptance of how things are. In case some people are getting concerned here, ACT did not come from Easten religeon, but is based on hard Western experimental science and research. I won't bore you all with anymore of this, so let's get back to seeing how we can get our sex drives back. But the incredible peace that mindfulness can bring might help a bit too.From that site you mentioned, Chris:Usually what I have found is that there are two things at work. When making a decision.1. The voice of the ego.2. The voice of intuition.When making a decision…1. The Ego voices are from a place of fear, lack, obligation, or something you "should" be doing2. The Intuition voice is more flowing, accepting, natural, and feels more "whole."Hope that makes sense. Kv >> How many of you talk to your inner voice and use it to feel feelings, certainly since when I took the SSRI I was like a zombie and my inner voice disapeared. I am now trying CBT in accessing and using the inner voice and feelings to move a way from being a robotatron? to a human being. From my point of view it is certainly hard as my thinking and thought processes has slowed down, but I started with what I read somewhere about trying to talk to your inner voice for at least five minutes.> > http://www.google.co.uk/url?sa=t & rct=j & q= & esrc=s & source=web & cd=2 & ved=0CDMQFjAB & url=http%3A%2F%2Fbakerthebrand.com%2F2011%2F09%2F06%2Flisten-to-your-inner-voice%2F & ei=i710T52HCKac0AX0kd3mDw & usg=AFQjCNGlyseNNCdndcFC1_tM4crj9VW80w > > > http://www.boldlivingtoday.com/2011/11/06/becoming-reacquainted-with-your-inner-voice/ > > > Its a thing we develop through life which helps us mature and to make decisions, I think a lot of why our 'libido' is gone is that we have forgotton how to listen to ourselves and turn ourselves on??> > Just an idea, would be interested if anyone else thought this.> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 30, 2012 Report Share Posted March 30, 2012 I made a mistake, 'conceptual self ' in ACT is the inner critical self, and the 'observing self' is Self in Context (contextual). I won't bother trying to explain these things here, but anyone on this forum who is trying ACT therapy will see my glaring mistake with these terms. Kv > > > > How many of you talk to your inner voice and use it to feel feelings, > certainly since when I took the SSRI I was like a zombie and my inner > voice disapeared. I am now trying CBT in accessing and using the inner > voice and feelings to move a way from being a robotatron? to a human > being. From my point of view it is certainly hard as my thinking and > thought processes has slowed down, but I started with what I read > somewhere about trying to talk to your inner voice for at least five > minutes. > > > > > http://www.google.co.uk/url?sa=t & rct=j & q= & esrc=s & source=web & cd=2 & ved=0CD\ \ > MQFjAB & url=http%3A%2F%2Fbakerthebrand.com%2F2011%2F09%2F06%2Flisten-to-y\ \ > our-inner-voice%2F & ei=i710T52HCKac0AX0kd3mDw & usg=AFQjCNGlyseNNCdndcFC1_t\ \ > M4crj9VW80w > > > > > > > http://www.boldlivingtoday.com/2011/11/06/becoming-reacquainted-with-you\ \ > r-inner-voice/ > > > > > > Its a thing we develop through life which helps us mature and to make > decisions, I think a lot of why our 'libido' is gone is that we have > forgotton how to listen to ourselves and turn ourselves on?? > > > > Just an idea, would be interested if anyone else thought this. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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