Re: need advice from those who have started dating with PSSD

[Guest guest]

I have some big news. For the first time in nearly 5 years I have had sex. I

am quite happy about this. Were things normal? No - I still had ED issues, and

things weren't as sensitive as before and I kind of lost my erection partway

through. But I shared with the girl about how I had taken SSRIs and now have

persistent side effects and she was very nice about it, very caring, and

supportive. I really appreciated it. It felt like she gave me one of the best

gifts I could have asked for.

Unfortunately actually before we had sex she said she wasn't sure we were a good

match for each other, and isn't sure she wants things to go further. However

she did end up inviting me to cuddle in her bed and things went from there. I

would really like to see her again. Its great to have someone so supportive and

caring. I find her attractive as well. While I have to admit we may not have

the romantic spark she is looking for (I feel that way too) I would really like

to continue with what we have for some time at least. I feel that many of the

men on here who have recovered have done so by allowing themselves to attempt a

sexual relationship again. Its my hope that through this I too will recover. I

really care for this girl, even if I don't think we are not a perfect match for

each other. I really hope she decides to keep what we have going, whatever that

might be. I feel truly fortunate and grateful for what I shared with her. Its

a slow path to recovery, but I feel like I may have made one step today.

Thanks Zozinio as well for encouraging me to be open with her. I didn't feel

fully intimate until I had shared this with her. She was very kind about

everything. I really hope I get to see her again.

> > >

> > > Hi Everyone,

> > >

> > > I need advice. I have started dating a girl. We have tried to have

> sex twice. Both times I have been completely 100% impotent. When I am

> alone and masturbate I am not as impotent. I have trouble maintaining

> an erection and soft glans but can get there.

> > >

> > > Anyhow the main thing I want to know is how do you bring this up

> with the girl you are dating? I told her its not her, I have trouble

> " sometimes " and did everything I could to pleasure her. Still I don't

> feel like a real man and I miss having sex so much. Anyhow sometimes I

> wonder if I should tell her about PSSD. What do you think? Its a young

> " relationship " . I have only been dating her a few weeks. I don't even

> know how serious we are. I feel mentioning this problem will scare her

> off but I feel if we connect I am more likely to be comfortable and at

> least have a chance at sex.

> > >

> > > Did you tell the girl you are dating? If so at what point? How did

> it go over. Please advise!

> > >

> > > I bought Cialis. I hope it helps some. But impotence sucks. Soft

> glans sucks. I want to be inside her and have that amazing connection

> where we are both super turned on. God I wish I knew what would fix

> this.

> > >

> > >

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Excellent news, ! It seems like this may be a breakthrough for you, in

more ways than one.

If you want to see her again, then go for it. Tell her you'd like to see her

again, even if nothing develops long-term. Be honest and say you appreciate

her, you like her friendship, her attitude, etc. And then put no expectations

on the relationship. If intimacy unfolds again, then go with it, and if not,

don't be upset about it.

And if you don't see her again or if things come to a close with her soon, then

at least you have already had one experience with revealing your issue and maybe

next time it will be easier.

Best of luck!

> > > >

> > > > Hi Everyone,

> > > >

> > > > I need advice. I have started dating a girl. We have tried to have

> > sex twice. Both times I have been completely 100% impotent. When I am

> > alone and masturbate I am not as impotent. I have trouble maintaining

> > an erection and soft glans but can get there.

> > > >

> > > > Anyhow the main thing I want to know is how do you bring this up

> > with the girl you are dating? I told her its not her, I have trouble

> > " sometimes " and did everything I could to pleasure her. Still I don't

> > feel like a real man and I miss having sex so much. Anyhow sometimes I

> > wonder if I should tell her about PSSD. What do you think? Its a young

> > " relationship " . I have only been dating her a few weeks. I don't even

> > know how serious we are. I feel mentioning this problem will scare her

> > off but I feel if we connect I am more likely to be comfortable and at

> > least have a chance at sex.

> > > >

> > > > Did you tell the girl you are dating? If so at what point? How did

> > it go over. Please advise!

> > > >

> > > > I bought Cialis. I hope it helps some. But impotence sucks. Soft

> > glans sucks. I want to be inside her and have that amazing connection

> > where we are both super turned on. God I wish I knew what would fix

> > this.

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Dear ,

really nice to hear your situation somehow improved!

You say you have had sex, but have you had sustainable enough erection for

sexual act? If so had you taken cialis? Or it was just petting and cuddling?

> > > >

> > > > Hi Everyone,

> > > >

> > > > I need advice. I have started dating a girl. We have tried to have

> > sex twice. Both times I have been completely 100% impotent. When I am

> > alone and masturbate I am not as impotent. I have trouble maintaining

> > an erection and soft glans but can get there.

> > > >

> > > > Anyhow the main thing I want to know is how do you bring this up

> > with the girl you are dating? I told her its not her, I have trouble

> > " sometimes " and did everything I could to pleasure her. Still I don't

> > feel like a real man and I miss having sex so much. Anyhow sometimes I

> > wonder if I should tell her about PSSD. What do you think? Its a young

> > " relationship " . I have only been dating her a few weeks. I don't even

> > know how serious we are. I feel mentioning this problem will scare her

> > off but I feel if we connect I am more likely to be comfortable and at

> > least have a chance at sex.

> > > >

> > > > Did you tell the girl you are dating? If so at what point? How did

> > it go over. Please advise!

> > > >

> > > > I bought Cialis. I hope it helps some. But impotence sucks. Soft

> > glans sucks. I want to be inside her and have that amazing connection

> > where we are both super turned on. God I wish I knew what would fix

> > this.

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Thank you Mike. She doesn't want to see me again right now, but I really don't

think it has anything to do with my erectile difficulties. We'll see. I feel

very comfortable with her and I think she may come around. If not, I will

continue dating. Having one positive experience has helped me become a little

stronger and try again. While my PSSD is definitely not gone, I am hopeful

that by dating I'll learn to cope with it. I know some people on here have

recovered or at least learned to cope with their problem by having a partner.

> > > > >

> > > > > Hi Everyone,

> > > > >

> > > > > I need advice. I have started dating a girl. We have tried to have

> > > sex twice. Both times I have been completely 100% impotent. When I am

> > > alone and masturbate I am not as impotent. I have trouble maintaining

> > > an erection and soft glans but can get there.

> > > > >

> > > > > Anyhow the main thing I want to know is how do you bring this up

> > > with the girl you are dating? I told her its not her, I have trouble

> > > " sometimes " and did everything I could to pleasure her. Still I don't

> > > feel like a real man and I miss having sex so much. Anyhow sometimes I

> > > wonder if I should tell her about PSSD. What do you think? Its a young

> > > " relationship " . I have only been dating her a few weeks. I don't even

> > > know how serious we are. I feel mentioning this problem will scare her

> > > off but I feel if we connect I am more likely to be comfortable and at

> > > least have a chance at sex.

> > > > >

> > > > > Did you tell the girl you are dating? If so at what point? How did

> > > it go over. Please advise!

> > > > >

> > > > > I bought Cialis. I hope it helps some. But impotence sucks. Soft

> > > glans sucks. I want to be inside her and have that amazing connection

> > > where we are both super turned on. God I wish I knew what would fix

> > > this.

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > >

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

My erection was good enough to penetrate. It wasn't completely hard, and I lost

it while inside of her, but I was able to have sex. I think with more practice

I could do better. When I masturbate I can keep an erection for a lot longer

(although I can never get the head of my penis hard at all). I had taken

cialis, just 5MG. I needed to give myself some manual stimulation to get the

erection, but she was supportive of it. I only wish she wanted to see me again.

It has nothing to do with my ED but she said she needs her space for now. I am

not going to pester her. I let her know how I feel and that is good enough. If

she changes her mind - then great. If not then I am not going to be sitting

around waiting.

> > > > >

> > > > > Hi Everyone,

> > > > >

> > > > > I need advice. I have started dating a girl. We have tried to have

> > > sex twice. Both times I have been completely 100% impotent. When I am

> > > alone and masturbate I am not as impotent. I have trouble maintaining

> > > an erection and soft glans but can get there.

> > > > >

> > > > > Anyhow the main thing I want to know is how do you bring this up

> > > with the girl you are dating? I told her its not her, I have trouble

> > > " sometimes " and did everything I could to pleasure her. Still I don't

> > > feel like a real man and I miss having sex so much. Anyhow sometimes I

> > > wonder if I should tell her about PSSD. What do you think? Its a young

> > > " relationship " . I have only been dating her a few weeks. I don't even

> > > know how serious we are. I feel mentioning this problem will scare her

> > > off but I feel if we connect I am more likely to be comfortable and at

> > > least have a chance at sex.

> > > > >

> > > > > Did you tell the girl you are dating? If so at what point? How did

> > > it go over. Please advise!

> > > > >

> > > > > I bought Cialis. I hope it helps some. But impotence sucks. Soft

> > > glans sucks. I want to be inside her and have that amazing connection

> > > where we are both super turned on. God I wish I knew what would fix

> > > this.

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > >

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

, thank you for reply!

Interestingly I have the same symptoms: not hard enough and quickly lost

erection. When masturbating things are better.

Do you think cialis helped you in some way? Did you feel any side effects of it,

e.g. stuffed nose or red face? When was you able to get next erection?

Eli Lilly advertises cialis as a prolonged effect medication compared to viagra

and levitra.

> > > > > >

> > > > > > Hi Everyone,

> > > > > >

> > > > > > I need advice. I have started dating a girl. We have tried to have

> > > > sex twice. Both times I have been completely 100% impotent. When I am

> > > > alone and masturbate I am not as impotent. I have trouble maintaining

> > > > an erection and soft glans but can get there.

> > > > > >

> > > > > > Anyhow the main thing I want to know is how do you bring this up

> > > > with the girl you are dating? I told her its not her, I have trouble

> > > > " sometimes " and did everything I could to pleasure her. Still I don't

> > > > feel like a real man and I miss having sex so much. Anyhow sometimes I

> > > > wonder if I should tell her about PSSD. What do you think? Its a young

> > > > " relationship " . I have only been dating her a few weeks. I don't even

> > > > know how serious we are. I feel mentioning this problem will scare her

> > > > off but I feel if we connect I am more likely to be comfortable and at

> > > > least have a chance at sex.

> > > > > >

> > > > > > Did you tell the girl you are dating? If so at what point? How did

> > > > it go over. Please advise!

> > > > > >

> > > > > > I bought Cialis. I hope it helps some. But impotence sucks. Soft

> > > > glans sucks. I want to be inside her and have that amazing connection

> > > > where we are both super turned on. God I wish I knew what would fix

> > > > this.

> > > > > >

> > > > > >

> > > > > >

> > > > >

> > > >

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

When I masturbate I often lose my erection but then are able to get it back

again. I think there is something up with the occlusion mechanism. Just how

SSRIs caused this I do not know. With real sex it was more difficult I think

not because it was less hot, quite the contrary, this girl is quite attractive.

The problem is that when I masturbate I can control things better. I ordered a

pump and a ring last night. Maybe those will help.

I had no side effects at all with cialis. If she comes around and I get to see

her again next time I'll try 10mg. I think it helps some, but as I think its

the occlusion mechanism it might not be enough. Cialis does seem to last in the

blood stream longer. I was able to masturbate later. I didn't actually get to

cum with her because I lost my erection - but later I played back the experience

in my head and was able to on my own. Its really to bad she felt we were

lacking the romantic spark she was looking for. I was really starting to come

to like her - I just didn't realize how much until she was gone.

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > > Hi Everyone,

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > > I need advice. I have started dating a girl. We have tried to

have

> > > > > sex twice. Both times I have been completely 100% impotent. When I

am

> > > > > alone and masturbate I am not as impotent. I have trouble maintaining

> > > > > an erection and soft glans but can get there.

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > > Anyhow the main thing I want to know is how do you bring this up

> > > > > with the girl you are dating? I told her its not her, I have trouble

> > > > > " sometimes " and did everything I could to pleasure her. Still I don't

> > > > > feel like a real man and I miss having sex so much. Anyhow sometimes

I

> > > > > wonder if I should tell her about PSSD. What do you think? Its a

young

> > > > > " relationship " . I have only been dating her a few weeks. I don't

even

> > > > > know how serious we are. I feel mentioning this problem will scare

her

> > > > > off but I feel if we connect I am more likely to be comfortable and at

> > > > > least have a chance at sex.

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > > Did you tell the girl you are dating? If so at what point? How

did

> > > > > it go over. Please advise!

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > > I bought Cialis. I hope it helps some. But impotence sucks.

Soft

> > > > > glans sucks. I want to be inside her and have that amazing connection

> > > > > where we are both super turned on. God I wish I knew what would fix

> > > > > this.

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > >

> > > > > >

> > > > >

> > > >

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

,

to be sure about occlusion you have to do penis vessels assessment, when they

make ultrasound test in calm condition, then inject irritative agent (I think it

was prostaglandin)

and again do ultrasound in erect condition.

Actually I didn't have erection after injection, my penis just swelled about two

times in diameter but remained soft and lying, not stiff and standing. Doctor

who performed test didn't find any organic changes in vessels or penis

structure, just said there may be some effects of venous insufficiency, because

during the test irritative substance usually causes hard enough erection.

I doubt there is any venous insufficiency, in my notion that's fluoxetine which

made something wrong to my arousal centers.

Hope you'll meet that girl another time.

Please write about your experience with pump when you get it.

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > Hi Everyone,

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > I need advice. I have started dating a girl. We have tried to

have

> > > > > > sex twice. Both times I have been completely 100% impotent. When I

am

> > > > > > alone and masturbate I am not as impotent. I have trouble

maintaining

> > > > > > an erection and soft glans but can get there.

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > Anyhow the main thing I want to know is how do you bring this up

> > > > > > with the girl you are dating? I told her its not her, I have

trouble

> > > > > > " sometimes " and did everything I could to pleasure her. Still I

don't

> > > > > > feel like a real man and I miss having sex so much. Anyhow

sometimes I

> > > > > > wonder if I should tell her about PSSD. What do you think? Its a

young

> > > > > > " relationship " . I have only been dating her a few weeks. I don't

even

> > > > > > know how serious we are. I feel mentioning this problem will scare

her

> > > > > > off but I feel if we connect I am more likely to be comfortable and

at

> > > > > > least have a chance at sex.

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > Did you tell the girl you are dating? If so at what point? How

did

> > > > > > it go over. Please advise!

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > I bought Cialis. I hope it helps some. But impotence sucks.

Soft

> > > > > > glans sucks. I want to be inside her and have that amazing

connection

> > > > > > where we are both super turned on. God I wish I knew what would fix

> > > > > > this.

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > >

> > > > > >

> > > > >

> > > >

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

I used to get my girlfriend to give me a handjob but it didn't work, but

I can reach orgasm when I am on my own because it is easier to

concentrate on a fantasy. It is still not much fun, though.

Kv

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > Hi Everyone,

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > I need advice. I have started dating a girl. We have

tried to have

> > > > > > sex twice. Both times I have been completely 100% impotent.

When I am

> > > > > > alone and masturbate I am not as impotent. I have trouble

maintaining

> > > > > > an erection and soft glans but can get there.

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > Anyhow the main thing I want to know is how do you bring

this up

> > > > > > with the girl you are dating? I told her its not her, I have

trouble

> > > > > > " sometimes " and did everything I could to pleasure her.

Still I don't

> > > > > > feel like a real man and I miss having sex so much. Anyhow

sometimes I

> > > > > > wonder if I should tell her about PSSD. What do you think?

Its a young

> > > > > > " relationship " . I have only been dating her a few weeks. I

don't even

> > > > > > know how serious we are. I feel mentioning this problem will

scare her

> > > > > > off but I feel if we connect I am more likely to be

comfortable and at

> > > > > > least have a chance at sex.

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > Did you tell the girl you are dating? If so at what

point? How did

> > > > > > it go over. Please advise!

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > I bought Cialis. I hope it helps some. But impotence

sucks. Soft

> > > > > > glans sucks. I want to be inside her and have that amazing

connection

> > > > > > where we are both super turned on. God I wish I knew what

would fix

> > > > > > this.

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > >

> > > > > >

> > > > >

> > > >

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Kv,

We'll see. I really believe there is something to this. Unfortunately things

didn't work out with the girl I had been seeing but not at all because of PSSD.

Anyhow despite that ever since I was with her, I have had more of a sex drive.

I attempted sleeping with her three times. The first 2 times I wasn't able to

get erect at all, the third time I had sex although I lost my erection part way

through. I have felt a little improvement on sensitivity, although the soft

glans problem is still there. But yes I truly believe being with someone

probably reactivates hormones or neural pathways or something. As a biologist I

know that sex and relationships do cause such changes. I don't know the

specifics, but it seems reasonable it could assist in recovery.

> > > > > > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > > > > > Hi Everyone,

> > > > > > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > > > > > I need advice. I have started dating a girl. We

> have tried to have

> > > > > > > > > > sex twice. Both times I have been completely 100%

> impotent. When I am

> > > > > > > > > > alone and masturbate I am not as impotent. I have

> trouble maintaining

> > > > > > > > > > an erection and soft glans but can get there.

> > > > > > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > > > > > Anyhow the main thing I want to know is how do you

> bring this up

> > > > > > > > > > with the girl you are dating? I told her its not her,

> I have trouble

> > > > > > > > > > " sometimes " and did everything I could to pleasure

> her. Still I don't

> > > > > > > > > > feel like a real man and I miss having sex so much.

> Anyhow sometimes I

> > > > > > > > > > wonder if I should tell her about PSSD. What do you

> think? Its a young

> > > > > > > > > > " relationship " . I have only been dating her a few

> weeks. I don't even

> > > > > > > > > > know how serious we are. I feel mentioning this

> problem will scare her

> > > > > > > > > > off but I feel if we connect I am more likely to be

> comfortable and at

> > > > > > > > > > least have a chance at sex.

> > > > > > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > > > > > Did you tell the girl you are dating? If so at

> what point? How did

> > > > > > > > > > it go over. Please advise!

> > > > > > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > > > > > I bought Cialis. I hope it helps some. But

> impotence sucks. Soft

> > > > > > > > > > glans sucks. I want to be inside her and have that

> amazing connection

> > > > > > > > > > where we are both super turned on. God I wish I knew

> what would fix

> > > > > > > > > > this.

> > > > > > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > >

> > > > > >

> > > > >

> > > >

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Yes, it IS possible. I've done it. My story is long-winded (and I'm by no

means cured), but I've met the love of my life and excusing a few bumps in the

road from time to time, we're doing great.

If someone wants specific advice, I'd be happy to offer it. But the most

important thing to do is to take risks. Put yourself out there and be honest

with the people in your life (it's not like you can hide this stuff for long).

Try to develop an intense emotional connection before you take the plunge -

don't just come clean with every person you meet in a bar, but if you're really

looking for someone - that special someone - you'll need to be honest. And you

just might be surprised at how great your life becomes.

The important thing is to not live in a cave, emotionally hurting (that said, I

COMPLETELY understand this) and avoiding life. You've got to try to get better,

constantly. That may involve everything from meditation, to supplements, to

socializing, to drugs (yes, they're NOT all evil - if you need cialis or

injections or cabergoline or bupropion, and they help, then take them).

Start living again. It is possible.

> > > > > > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > > > > > Hi Everyone,

> > > > > > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > > > > > I need advice. I have started dating a girl. We

> have tried to have

> > > > > > > > > > sex twice. Both times I have been completely 100%

> impotent. When I am

> > > > > > > > > > alone and masturbate I am not as impotent. I have

> trouble maintaining

> > > > > > > > > > an erection and soft glans but can get there.

> > > > > > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > > > > > Anyhow the main thing I want to know is how do you

> bring this up

> > > > > > > > > > with the girl you are dating? I told her its not her,

> I have trouble

> > > > > > > > > > " sometimes " and did everything I could to pleasure

> her. Still I don't

> > > > > > > > > > feel like a real man and I miss having sex so much.

> Anyhow sometimes I

> > > > > > > > > > wonder if I should tell her about PSSD. What do you

> think? Its a young

> > > > > > > > > > " relationship " . I have only been dating her a few

> weeks. I don't even

> > > > > > > > > > know how serious we are. I feel mentioning this

> problem will scare her

> > > > > > > > > > off but I feel if we connect I am more likely to be

> comfortable and at

> > > > > > > > > > least have a chance at sex.

> > > > > > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > > > > > Did you tell the girl you are dating? If so at

> what point? How did

> > > > > > > > > > it go over. Please advise!

> > > > > > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > > > > > I bought Cialis. I hope it helps some. But

> impotence sucks. Soft

> > > > > > > > > > glans sucks. I want to be inside her and have that

> amazing connection

> > > > > > > > > > where we are both super turned on. God I wish I knew

> what would fix

> > > > > > > > > > this.

> > > > > > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > > > > >

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I wish there was a like button on here like on facebook. I couldn't agree with

this post more. Recently I feel I have changed my mindset around. I am going

for it. Yes its a risk, but I was with someone for a short time and it was so

nice to have that again after such a long time alone. I think it improved my

libido and my attitude if not my ED. Anyhow thanks for sharing your story.

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> > > > > > > > > > > > > Hi Everyone,

> > > > > > > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > > > > > > I need advice. I have started dating a girl. We

> > have tried to have

> > > > > > > > > > > sex twice. Both times I have been completely 100%

> > impotent. When I am

> > > > > > > > > > > alone and masturbate I am not as impotent. I have

> > trouble maintaining

> > > > > > > > > > > an erection and soft glans but can get there.

> > > > > > > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > > > > > > Anyhow the main thing I want to know is how do you

> > bring this up

> > > > > > > > > > > with the girl you are dating? I told her its not her,

> > I have trouble

> > > > > > > > > > > " sometimes " and did everything I could to pleasure

> > her. Still I don't

> > > > > > > > > > > feel like a real man and I miss having sex so much.

> > Anyhow sometimes I

> > > > > > > > > > > wonder if I should tell her about PSSD. What do you

> > think? Its a young

> > > > > > > > > > > " relationship " . I have only been dating her a few

> > weeks. I don't even

> > > > > > > > > > > know how serious we are. I feel mentioning this

> > problem will scare her

> > > > > > > > > > > off but I feel if we connect I am more likely to be

> > comfortable and at

> > > > > > > > > > > least have a chance at sex.

> > > > > > > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > > > > > > Did you tell the girl you are dating? If so at

> > what point? How did

> > > > > > > > > > > it go over. Please advise!

> > > > > > > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > > > > > > I bought Cialis. I hope it helps some. But

> > impotence sucks. Soft

> > > > > > > > > > > glans sucks. I want to be inside her and have that

> > amazing connection

> > > > > > > > > > > where we are both super turned on. God I wish I knew

> > what would fix

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Hi

It all depends on your age, hence how well the advice is understood/abdsorbed.

It is very difficult to intentionally keep your mind off not being able to perform espcially that you want to give or please your partner. That is why the reponse in masturbating is a bit better. You only have yourself to answer to.

The traget is to keep your mind off "being able to perfrom". All meditation methods such as Tie chei, yoga or Rikie work the same. Through breathing give you some time to detach from your thoughts (If done correctly). Therefore, I would suggest 10-15 min massage, both ways (give and take). Use massage oil and if a little warm, it work better. That + deep foreplay and maybe a little oral, could give you a chance. Worked great for me at times.

Adil

regards

To: SSRIsex Sent: Thursday, October 6, 2011 1:00 AMSubject: Re: need advice from those who have started dating with PSSD

Hi ,Just be honest and just tell her the truth. You did not make a crime and you don't need to feel badly and you don't have to apologize for something. We all are victims not criminals. And the fact that you had depression and took meds shows a man who is a sensitive and wanted to help himself. Depression is very common nowadays.I believe that if you will be honest with the girl, the girl will appreciate it and will be understanding. Some guys here who have a relationship, they said that their girlfriends are very understaning.The girl will help you to relax and she will be more patient with you.If the girl now will be scary and not understanding and go away, that will mean that she doesn't deserve you.Good luck!>> Hi Everyone, > > I need advice. I have started dating a girl. We have tried to have sex twice. Both times I have been completely 100% impotent. When I am alone and masturbate I am not as impotent. I have trouble maintaining an erection and soft glans but can get there. > > Anyhow the main thing I want to know is how do you bring this up with the girl you are dating? I told her its not her, I have trouble "sometimes" and did everything I could to pleasure her. Still I don't feel like a real man and I miss having sex so much. Anyhow sometimes I wonder if I should tell her about PSSD. What do you think? Its a young "relationship". I have only been dating her a few weeks. I don't even know how serious we are. I feel mentioning this problem will scare her off but I feel if we connect I am more likely to be comfortable and at least have a chance at sex. > > Did you

tell the girl you are dating? If so at what point? How did it go over. Please advise! > > I bought Cialis. I hope it helps some. But impotence sucks. Soft glans sucks. I want to be inside her and have that amazing connection where we are both super turned on. God I wish I knew what would fix this. > > >

[Guest guest]

Please note that feeling of love is so uplifting. so much of PSSD could be some type of subclinical depression. Don't quote me on that. So when in love or uplifted body will set itself up. Love is powerful. Adil To: SSRIsex Sent: Friday, October 21, 2011 7:59 AM Subject: Re: need advice from those who have started dating with PSSD

I wish there was a like button on here like on facebook. I couldn't agree with this post more. Recently I feel I have changed my mindset around. I am going for it. Yes its a risk, but I was with someone for a short time and it was so nice to have that again after such a long time alone. I think it improved my libido and my attitude if not my ED. Anyhow thanks for sharing your story.

> > > > > > > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > > > > > > Hi Everyone,

> > > > > > > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > > > > > > I need advice. I have started dating a girl. We

> > have tried to have

> > > > > > > > > > > sex twice. Both times I have been completely 100%

> > impotent. When I am

> > > > > > > > > > > alone and masturbate I am not as impotent. I have

> > trouble maintaining

> > > > > > > > > > > an erection and soft glans but can get there.

> > > > > > > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > > > > > > Anyhow the main thing I want to know is how do you

> > bring this up

> > > > > > > > > > > with the girl you are dating? I told her its not her,

> > I have trouble

> > > > > > > > > > > "sometimes" and did everything I could to pleasure

> > her. Still I don't

> > > > > > > > > > > feel like a real man and I miss having sex so much.

> > Anyhow sometimes I

> > > > > > > > > > > wonder if I should tell her about PSSD. What do you

> > think? Its a young

> > > > > > > > > > > "relationship". I have only been dating her a few

> > weeks. I don't even

> > > > > > > > > > > know how serious we are. I feel mentioning this

> > problem will scare her

> > > > > > > > > > > off but I feel if we connect I am more likely to be

> > comfortable and at

> > > > > > > > > > > least have a chance at sex.

> > > > > > > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > > > > > > Did you tell the girl you are dating? If so at

> > what point? How did

> > > > > > > > > > > it go over. Please advise!

> > > > > > > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > > > > > > I bought Cialis. I hope it helps some. But

> > impotence sucks. Soft

> > > > > > > > > > > glans sucks. I want to be inside her and have that

> > amazing connection

> > > > > > > > > > > where we are both super turned on. God I wish I knew

> > what would fix

> > > > > > > > > > > this.

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