Re: Re: No Messages

[Guest guest]

Hey, if you can't whine here, where can you whine?

Feel free to grouse and complain anytime. It's okay.

Ann

[Guest guest]

Hello Grace,

Long, whiney messages are o.k. with me. Sometimes a good whine really helps! :-) I, personally, have been busy indulging myself: a long lunch with my daughter and grandbaby, shopping for hot-weather clothes and BUYING them, a pedicure and a massage! Every time I start feeling really guilty, I just tell myself to shut up.

Mai-Liis

Hi Eve & all-The list has been quiet. I guess folks are staying pretty busy. I started to post a few times, but figured it would probably be best if I didn't, since it would have been a very long & extremely whiney message. :)I hope everyone has a pleasant weekend!~Grace~

[Guest guest]

Grace, please post anyway. Sometimes it takes us a " whine " to get in gear.

:-) Cheryl

[Guest guest]

Mai-Liis,

Don't you dare feel guilty for taking care of yourself! We should all be encouraging each other to do those things that lift our spirits. Good for you!

Grace,

I add my encouragement to write, even when it's whiney. However, I read your post and it isn't whiney. I was interested in what you said about your mother first accepting that something was wrong and then denying it. My counselor, who has a background as a geriatric and psychiatric nurse, said that patients will often make comments about how well they are doing when they realize they are losing their cognitive abilities. It's almost like they feel they can make it not be true if they point out that they are in good health. My husband will say, "I'm doing so well that I almost feel guilty. So many people have such serious problems." In a way, he's right. But, I can't get him to talk about what is going on with him. I don't want to tell him the prognosis of LBD. He knows he has a condition called LBD and that it includes confusion, hallucinations and Parkinson's symptoms. He still says that he'll do this or that again once he gets it under control. On good days he points out how much better he's doing. On bad days, or just bad hours, he doesn't even communicate.

My problem is one I've heard others on this board mention. He wants me with him all the time. He hates it if I do anything without him. During my working day, our live-in is with him and he is okay with that. But, unless I'm out of town, she only takes care of him from 7 AM until 4 PM. If I still have work to do after 4, will interrupt me within a half hour just to see what I'm doing and when I'll be with him. Getting us both ready takes so long and so much energy in the mornings that I've stopped going to church on Sundays and I miss it terribly. My neighbor asked me to go with her to her church tomorrow, and agreed that I could go. Then he said something about finding a rain cloud and standing under it. I asked if he was feeling depressed and he said yes. I know he must be, and it breaks my heart. He does like to go to church with me, although he sleeps through the entire service. He likes the donuts in fellowship hall. I don't know what to do for him. He has no friends and no interests. I need to get the energy to have the neighbors over for dinner - they would gladly come if I invited them. Where do you guys get energy to do anything except survive? I can't seem to do any more than drag myself through each day.

Now, Grace, that's whining. See? You didn't whine. I'm glad you shared with us, though.

After writing this I realized how selfish I was being to go to church without , so I asked him if he would like to go. He said yes. I'm glad I decided to ask him. and I can do something else without him to give me a break, but and I both need God's help to get through the days, weeks, months and years ahead.