Guest guest Posted October 27, 2004 Report Share Posted October 27, 2004 Inger wrote: " I don't understand how anyone can be so heartless! " I don't understand, either, especially " friends " (as Sparrow worded it). What ever happened to the generic term " enemy " (other than in warfare or simulated warfare games? Are these people who act so heartless not your emenies? Of course, even the Bible throws a curve at us then, by telling us to " love your enemies " .... --- avast! Antivirus: Outbound message clean. Virus Database (VPS): 0444-0, 26/10/2004 Tested on: 26/10/2004 9:36:30 PM avast! is copyright © 2000-2003 ALWIL Software. http://www.avast.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 27, 2004 Report Share Posted October 27, 2004 At 03:16 AM 10/27/04 +0200, Inger Lorelei wrote: >I don't understand how anyone can be so heartless! Losing a child is not >something you ever get over! Especially not after two months! I'm very sorry >to hear that you lost your daughter. May I ask how? (If you want to tell.) Damage due to oxygen deprivation due to birth trauma. The whole story is much longer than that, but I tend not to tell it in general company because I've learned that some people are really bothered by stories about giving birth. She was full-term and healthy (and very big - precisely five kilos!) but didn't turn properly on her way out and got stuck. There are more details but you can probably imagine them so I don't gross anyone out by saying them. A very pretty little girl who looked just like her father (who had died seven months earlier.) I named her Gwynneth Rhiannon which are Welsh names that mean " lily white " and " the silver wheel. " (1/4 of my family tree is from Wales.) Sparrow Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 27, 2004 Report Share Posted October 27, 2004 At 09:36 PM 10/26/04 -0400, .. Henson.. wrote: > >Inger wrote: > > " I don't understand how anyone can be so heartless! " > >I don't understand, either, especially " friends " (as Sparrow worded it). > >What ever happened to the generic term " enemy " (other than >in warfare or simulated warfare games? Are these people who >act so heartless not your emenies? > >Of course, even the Bible throws a curve at us then, by telling >us to " love your enemies " .... I wouldn't go so far as to say that they were my enemies. I had *thought* they were my friends, but then they showed otherwise. But their behavior was not harsh enough to make them enemies even though it was bad enough to make me go away from them. I think at that point they changed from friends to " some people I know. " I have different words I use for people. There are enemies, there are the troublesome, there are acquaintances, there are classmates or schoolmates, when I have a job, there are colleagues or co-workers. But friends are something special. Real friends, anyway. Not " friends " like those people turned out to be. Sparrow Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 27, 2004 Report Share Posted October 27, 2004 At 04:43 AM 10/27/04 +0200, Inger Lorelei wrote: >I *can* imagine. My little sister had similar problems at birth and came out >deaf because of lack of oxygen in the brain. Yes, if she had lived, she would surely have been damaged in some way -- who knows how. I would have still loved her, of course. >I have never had children so I can't even begin to imagine how painful it >must be to lose a child like that. :´( I'm really sorry, Sparrow. Thank you. It has been ten and a half years and things get strange with time. Sometimes I feel as if it was some movie I watched, not something that actually happened in my life. I still think of her regularly and I wonder what she would be like now, at age ten, and what my life would be like with her in it. But there is a distance between me and the pain. I guess it's one of the blessings of the human mind, the ability to construct a crystal shield around a painful past and set it aside like a sharp jewel -- to look at but not to touch closely again lest it cut one's heart open anew. Sparrow Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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