Hi.. My introduction - Nola

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THANK YOU. You are the first person who understands what I feel.

I know my boss and if I quit and say the hell with everyone she will see it as

her victory and the right to keep my salary.

I am for the moemnt trying to play it the way the law says I should.

1. turn her in to the US Dept of Labor, which I did (they are not responding

though)

2. turn her in to the revenue dept for failure to pay payroll taxes and state

sales taxes. (Did that but since she only pays me one check a month for a two

week period, with me and the 3 other employees she is able to make those

payments on time)

3. Turn her into the IRS for the other unpaid taxes she owes. Tried to do that

but there phone waiting lines are outrageious.

4. My next step is now that it looks that step one is not going to happen, I

get to go to the Georgia labor dept, tell them what I have done to get my back

salary. They will try one more time, otherwise they will give me person to quit

and I can collect my unemployment. That will also give me the option to go back

to school and get retrained for a new career.

Its sad when all my friends tell me to just quit. They believe I will never see

any compensation either from her or the state. I will be damned if that will

happen. She thinks I am not the type who would fight for this... Trust me I am.

I earned that money. Its not my fault that she cant manage things. I know that

she pays her two mortgages and credit cards out of the store funds. She has

down some strange things in order to keep the store alive and it has all

backfired on her.

A friend sent me a copy of a book called Safe People. I am learning so much

from it. My boss fits most of the unsafe types for me. I am not getting to the

point in the book where I am learning how to deal with unsafe people.

Thanks again for your words for wisdom.

Pam

Hi.. My introduction

Hi. My name is Pam, married with two college age sons. We live in

Atlanta. I am in such need of destressing right now. The stress is

so bad that it becomes a depression problem to me. I have several

supportive friends but they are obvioiusly tired of hearing my problems.

Here goes: My husband was in the military for 18 years which meant

LOTS of separations. When he retired he made a promise to both of our

sons that they could stay in the same house and high school until they

graduated. So he became a commuting spouse living for 20 months with

his parents in MD, then relocated 3 hours south of us for 22 months,

then got another position which was 3 hours east of us. The month our

youngest graduated he was offered a position 20 minutes from home, so

for the first time since I can ever remember, he and I were living

together all the time. It has been interesting but the more he is

here, the further apart we become. Sex is non existent, an emotional

support is non existent.

While he was in land with the first job, I got a job at a local

Hallmark store. For the first three years things were great. Sales

started slowing down obviously due to the economy. My boss can be a

nice person at times but she is definetly NOT a manager. When things

were bad, it was one of these things were my paychecks were about two

weeks later. Things have gone now to the point where my paychecks are

4 months behind and I am really stressing out. She sees it as no

major thing .. example. next week is our 25th anniversary. Told me

boss I was going to be off Friday and Saturday... told her the reason

why. Her response wa are you going any place. Told her we could not

afford to go anywhere becuase we are both in the middle of taking pay

cuts. She was like.. he will take you out for a nice dinner. Told her

we ould not even afford that with my kids student loans starting

payment last month. WELL.. one day you will have money and you can

celebrate then. What a bitch.

I have turned her into the US labor dept and they have not done

anything. If I quit I loose my unemployment unless I get a letter

from the labor dept to the state saying measures where taken to get my

money and it was not going to happen. Then I could collect unemployment.

Since she only pays payroll taxes based on what she pays us, she is

current with that since it is so low. She owes the state close to

22,000 and is presently trying to renogiate the rent. Three days

before mothers day, a marshall showed up to evict us but she talked

her way out of it. I have been looking for a new position but cant

find anything.

Now I am into MAJOR stress. My body has shut down. My thyroid is

dead for all practical purposes, my weight is high. I am working out

two hours a week but the stress is causing the weight to stay on my body.

When one looks at all my symptoms, one wonders how I am still

alive.There are so many days I wish I was dead so I would not have to

deal with all this. At least my family would have the money from the

insurance to pay off all the bills.

My medical doctor told me I needed to be committed as I was not in a

normal mental state. Luckily my chiropractor gave me another option.

I met a naturopath who told me I was not crazy, my inside was just so

screwed up from years of misdiagnosis on my doctors part. Most days I

really feel good but like normal people even with your emotions in

semi tack, you have your bad days.

Anyway that is most of what I am dealing with at this moment..

I look forward to chatting with others and helping with their

problems. Most are easier than dealing with my own.

Pam