Guest guest Posted March 5, 2003 Report Share Posted March 5, 2003 I just scare myself when I make a goal for myself. I try to tell myself to do baby steps. I don't get an actual attack I get in a frightened state. I need to put a note by my bed. Near my TV to help myself because when I am in that state I can't think logically. I just feel the fear and feel like a little girl. ine panic attacks I can still remember the day. It was shortly after my divorce. I was a single parent with no money and two young children. It came upon me suddenly, out of the blue. I couldn't breathe. My chest hurt. My heart hurt. I couldn't stop it. I panicked. The more I panicked, the worse it got. I called 911. The ambulance came. They gave me some oxygen, then politely told me not to worry; it was just a panic attack. I had experienced another one of those attacks, a long time ago. Right after I first married the children's father, I had shut myself down from anxiety. I couldn't breathe, couldn't speak from the fear I felt. Many people experience panic and anxiety attacks. Maybe it's happened to you. Maybe you've had only one or two incidents of it; maybe panic and anxiety make regular appearances in your life. Most people I've met have experienced fear. These are a few little clues I've learned that have helped me to deal with my own attacks. * Breathe. Whenever we panic, our breath comes in shallow, awkward spurts. By deliberately breathing slowly and calmly, we can slow our panic down. We feed it by breathing fast. We put our bodies on hyper alert. If we breathe as though we're relaxed, our bodies will start slowing down. * Don't respond to your panic with more fear. Sometimes we double what we're going through by having an emotional reaction to our initial reaction. We're afraid, because we're feeling fear. Let yourself go through the original feeling without reacting to yourself. * Instead of focusing on your fear, let yourself be aware that you're feeling it, but deliberately do something that calms you down. You won't want to do this. Your panic will want you to do something else, something that feeds panic and makes it grow. Do something calming and quiet, even though that activity doesn't feel right to you. It could be reading a mediation, listening to some quiet music, taking a shower, or saying a prayer. We all have things that help calm us down. Find something that works for you. If panic and anxiety are a continual problem, seek professional help. But if they are only isolated incidents in your life, you may be able to help yourself. One tool that has never let me down when it comes to anxiety and fear is working Step One of the Twelve Step program. Don't let your fears run your life. Make it a goal to get through them. Ask them what they're trying to tell you. You may be on a path that's new, and your body is just reacting to that. There may be a hidden emotion underneath all this fear, something you'd rather not see. Or maybe you and your life are just changing so fast that everything in your world is brand new. Be gentle and loving with yourself and others. ~Melody Beattie~ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 5, 2003 Report Share Posted March 5, 2003 I am under treatment, there is only so much they can do. thanks, ine Re: panic attacks ine, I can see you are having quite a rough time. I really don't know how to help you because I have never had anything like this before. Have you been do a therapist or doctor to get some help? Susie I just scare myself when I make a goal for myself. I try to tell myself to do baby steps. I don't get an actual attack I get in a frightened state. I need to put a note by my bed. Near my TV to help myself because when I am in that state I can't think logically. I just feel the fear and feel like a little girl. ine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 5, 2003 Report Share Posted March 5, 2003 ine, I can see you are having quite a rough time. I really don't know how to help you because I have never had anything like this before. Have you been do a therapist or doctor to get some help? Susie I just scare myself when I make a goal for myself. I try to tell myself to do baby steps. I don't get an actual attack I get in a frightened state. I need to put a note by my bed. Near my TV to help myself because when I am in that state I can't think logically. I just feel the fear and feel like a little girl. ine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 5, 2003 Report Share Posted March 5, 2003 Thanks I check it out. ine RE: Panic attacks Hi Group!, I used to suffer w/ panic attacks in a severe way. I was actually Agoraphobic (couldn't go outside). I used a program that helped me tremendously. I don't suffer w/ panic attacks now. I am leaving the link here. This program helped more than medication or therapy for me. www.attackinganxiety.com . Dawn M " The past does not equal the future " Tony Robbins Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 5, 2003 Report Share Posted March 5, 2003 www.attackinganxiety.com I have seen this group and heard about the tapes but they are expensive...............ine RE: Panic attacks Hi Group!, I used to suffer w/ panic attacks in a severe way. I was actually Agoraphobic (couldn't go outside). I used a program that helped me tremendously. I don't suffer w/ panic attacks now. I am leaving the link here. This program helped more than medication or therapy for me. www.attackinganxiety.com . Dawn M " The past does not equal the future " Tony Robbins Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 5, 2003 Report Share Posted March 5, 2003 Dawn, I've heard of that program before and heard they have had great success. Susie Hi Group!, I used to suffer w/ panic attacks in a severe way. I was actually Agoraphobic (couldn't go outside). I used a program that helped me tremendously. I don't suffer w/ panic attacks now. I am leaving the link here. This program helped more than medication or therapy for me. www.attackinganxiety.com . Dawn M " The past does not equal the future " Tony Robbins Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 5, 2003 Report Share Posted March 5, 2003 Hi Group!, I used to suffer w/ panic attacks in a severe way. I was actually Agoraphobic (couldn't go outside). I used a program that helped me tremendously. I don't suffer w/ panic attacks now. I am leaving the link here. This program helped more than medication or therapy for me. www.attackinganxiety.com . Dawn M " The past does not equal the future " Tony Robbins Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 6, 2003 Report Share Posted March 6, 2003 No. They just cut my food stamps from $43. to $10. That was my grocery end of month savior so now I have figure out how to cut for that. ine Re: RE: Panic attacks ine, ) There is no way you could save for them? I would be great if you could some how. They may be then answer for you, Susie www.attackinganxiety.com I have seen this group and heard about the tapes but they are expensive...............ine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 6, 2003 Report Share Posted March 6, 2003 Dale, You are very welcome. I'm glad you have been 'free' for five months. Awesome! Enjoy your day, Susie Thank you, Susie, for sharing your valuable tips. I will certainly be practising them!!!! I used to get these attacks frequently, but for the last five months have been free from them (knock on wood). The memories are haunting though and the experience was like being swept away by a very large wave, totally out of control. I saw an interesting talk show on late night, local TV called " Nite Lite " about conquering/healing our fears so that we can grow beyond them. {{{{{hugs}}}}} Dale Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 6, 2003 Report Share Posted March 6, 2003 ine, ) There is no way you could save for them? I would be great if you could some how. They may be then answer for you, Susie www.attackinganxiety.com I have seen this group and heard about the tapes but they are expensive...............ine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 6, 2003 Report Share Posted March 6, 2003 ine, WOW,,,,what a cut. It would be great if someone on this list or that you knew had a set you could borrow. Susie No. They just cut my food stamps from $43. to $10. That was my grocery end of month savior so now I have figure out how to cut for that. ine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 10, 2003 Report Share Posted March 10, 2003 PJ, You are VERY welcome. Susie Susie, thanks for sharing this. ine, you might want to copy this email down to save to re-read when you need it. Melody Beattie is a lady who really speaks to my heart, and I've read all of her books. Yet, when I read this this email now, I couldn't remember reading it before. Thanks for sending it our way -- I needed this message also! pj Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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