Daily Motivator

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DAILY MOTIVATOR

Beyond disagreement

When you disagree with someone, the way out of that disagreement is

not to strengthen it by holding firmly to your own side. The most

valuable and productive way out is to resolve the situation by

finding common ground. That does not mean giving in. It does not

mean forcing the other person to give in to you. Instead, it means

being as open, honest and direct as possible. It means acting with a

genuine desire to arrive at the best solution for everyone involved.

To every extent possible, forget about the disagreement itself and

look for what the situation is trying to tell you. Imagine yourself

in the place of the other person, and look at things from that

perspective.

Nothing of value is produced by arguing. Look instead for ways to

cooperate, to understand and to make yourself more clearly

understood.

When you're concerned only with what works for you, and only with

what affects you, then you're never going to receive any

cooperation. Yet when you concern yourself with what's best for all

involved, that's when you start to get somewhere.

-- Ralph Marston

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One thing is learned is not to argue. If I hit the point to realize I am in one

I back off and become silent or say OK. I don't need the victory and evidently

they do. Let them have it. I don't have to be right. I know it's ok to back

down. Who really hurts if I fight-me. not them. Life is more peaceful. ine

wrote:DAILY MOTIVATOR

Beyond disagreement

When you disagree with someone, the way out of that disagreement is

not to strengthen it by holding firmly to your own side. The most

valuable and productive way out is to resolve the situation by

finding common ground. That does not mean giving in. It does not

mean forcing the other person to give in to you. Instead, it means

being as open, honest and direct as possible. It means acting with a

genuine desire to arrive at the best solution for everyone involved.

To every extent possible, forget about the disagreement itself and

look for what the situation is trying to tell you. Imagine yourself

in the place of the other person, and look at things from that

perspective.

Nothing of value is produced by arguing. Look instead for ways to

cooperate, to understand and to make yourself more clearly

understood.

When you're concerned only with what works for you, and only with

what affects you, then you're never going to receive any

cooperation. Yet when you concern yourself with what's best for all

involved, that's when you start to get somewhere.

-- Ralph Marston