Guest guest Posted June 5, 2004 Report Share Posted June 5, 2004 You said it so much better than I. Of course I was answering at 5:00am our time, a bit sleepy,grumpy. But I like the way you answered this one,because you care. Love Janet > >why does nt anyone understand that i am newly dianoised and i am scared to > >death . i am angry not at this group i am goingthrough alot of emotions > >and i > >am cut off from everyhting .i dont want to die i am 28 found out i am > >pregnant today > > Here's the deal. We were all newly diagnosed at some time. We were all in > shock, if not complete panic, when the reality of the diagnosis started to > set in. Actually, I suspect that is one of the reasons the founders of > this group set it up: to help people get through that very scarey first few > months--as well as support for all the rest of the months through treatment > (or non-treatment, as the case may be). No one wants to die, whether > they're 18 or 28 or 88. The virus cuts a swathe through not only our > physical health, but for many, our entire lives. Yes, most of us have > probably (or will probably) come across some tactless boob who makes snide > comments about hcv being a disease of " lowlifes " --you just have to get over > the immediate hurt, then get past it, and then laugh about it. (What can > be more low-life than saying something like that to someone who's already > in distress about the diagnosis??) > > It doesn't matter how you, or anyone got it. (I wanted to know for my own > edification--but ultimately, it didn't matter one bit. Knowing didn't > change things.) As far as I'm concerned, it doesn't matter whether or not > someone did something " bad " --NO ONE deserves this virus, not one person, > nobody, zip. > > In my own experience, the best way to benefit from this wonderful group is > to read the messages, take heart in others' successes, laugh with us when > someone posts a good joke, watch for the often excellent articles on the > ongoing research and other newsy tidbits about the virus, and then be sure > to mine the files area for the basics on how to deal with hcv. Sometimes > there are things in there our doctors didn't mention--or perhaps didn't > even know. LEARN as much as you can about hcv. Knowledge is power in our > case, and it just might help prolong your life. > > This group is not a substitute for a good doctor, but at least for me, it's > been a wonderful adjunct. I've even printed out a few things to carry in > to the doctor. Sometimes, you know, doctors are so busy doctoring that > they're not spending time on the internet digging up obscure research papers. > > Bernice, if you take good care of yourself, eat well, and avoid ALL > alcohol--plus follow your doctors' orders especially as regards the wee one > you carry--you will, in all probability, watch your new baby grow up, > graduate from university, marry, and have babies of his/her own. Don't let > yourself get too wrapped up in depression, self-pity, anger, or other > negativity. It will take a toll on your physical health and on your > relationships with friends and family. If these emotions are > uncontrollable, please find a therapist to help with them. > > Take heart, Bernice. This is a very supporting group of people, because > these people have gone through so much. They're not here to give handouts, > mind you, but something more valuable--collective wisdom, compassion, and > understanding. > > > > Jeanne > > ===--* My stars! > > http://users.eaokonline.com/~vcl20001/ > http://groups.yahoo.com/group/healingcircle2/ > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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