Re: Detox? - Angi

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Angi, Thanks for sharing. The only other thing that I have not seen posted on the site yet - I am still looking at the archives - is stone fruit. The Dr. we went to for second opinion told us that he has had lots of success with kids transitioning from Miralax to stone fruit (3-4 servings a day of peaches, plums, cherries, etc... in any form - fresh, dried, juice). This has not helped our daughter but he said he has treated hundreds of kids with his plan and it usually works great. Might be worth a try for your little one. As for the behavior I am also at a bit of loss. I am at the point where I have to take her to her room sometimes just to keep her little brother safe. She has gotten less violent the longer she has been off the miralax so there might be a little light at the end of your tunnel with the hitting - she still hits sometimes but not like before and she has not bitten since about a week after her last dose. Things that have helped:I have checked out all kinds of parenting books from the library just to see if I can get a new idea here or there on how to help her express herself calmly. Story:The other night she put everything in her room in the middle of the floor and said they were going on a space trip and needed to take everything with them. That is great creative play but when it came time to clean up she ran from the room screaming... Once she came back I told her we needed to solve our problem... Her brother needed to get to bed (they share a room) and we needed to clean up - my idea was to work together to get the job done - another screaming fit - her idea was for me to clean up - my next idea was to get some trash bags and put it all in them and set it all aside until she wanted to put it away in its right place in the morning - screamed NO!!!! Asked for her idea - she decided that she would like my help cleaning up. We worked together and she did most of the clean up and I just asked where to put the things I picked up (putting her in control) The rest of the night went well..... This takes a lot of work but I have found at this point giving her lots of options and choices is working some of the times. Changes in plans usually end badly so we try not to talk about what is coming up next unless we know it is a sure thing!!The thing that I have read most recently that has helped is that every action stems from a need. I know that she is having a hard time expressing her needs but I continue to ask her "What do you need?" The other day she said that she needed a PB & J in the middle of problem solving how were are going to get our shoes and socks on to get out the door. I told her that was a great lunch idea and directed her back to the task. I have a two year old that very sweet but is so typically two so sometimes my wits are at their end but I keep trying and remembering that I would be pretty irritable if I was impacted like she is....this does not always make it easier but I am trying!The books I recently checked out from the library :Raising Children Compassionately - Parenting the Nonviolent Communication Way by Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D.Respectful Parents Respectful Kids - 7 Keys to Turn Family Conflict into Co-operation by Sura Hart & Kindle HodsonThese have been helpful. The first is just a small 20 page book with some good insights - introduction to the idea of Nonviolent Communication with kids. Sorry for going on and on...it is just nice to "talk" to someone that has a clue as to what I am going through. The well intended advice I get from others would probably work with my son but does not even make a dent in my daughter!I would love to hear about anything you try too.DawnDawn,I just want to say that  your girl sounds JUST LIKE MY 4.5 yr old girl....she hits and screams and is SOO FAST to get angry!!I do not know what to try next!   We cannot take much more of it.She screams and loses control at last 15x a day.I wish i knew how to help you.  If you figure out something that works, please let me know! :)My girl has only been off miralax for about 2 weeks.-angif.dmom wrote:Hello, I am new to the group and very thankful to have found you!!!My daughter is 4 1/2 and has struggled with constipation since 8 weeks old.She has been on Miralax 4 different times over the last two years. We suspected behavioral issues from the start but were told that she was acting out because it was making her poop and she did not like that. "Nothing gets absorbed so there is nothing in the Miralax that would make her behavior change." The last time she was on it I only lasted two doses before I just said NO!! The connection was so evident that I just knew regadless of what the Dr.'s said it was not good for her. It made poop but it made her crazy! Just not worth it!I could go on with our 4 year history but for now I just have a question.Have you experienced a detox period with the miralax? She was really getting pretty enjoyable (except for the fact that she was only having a BM every 5-6 days) before she had this last round of Miralax. Behavior calming down. It was about a year from the first time we gave it to her. I was out of resources that point and when Dr. #2 wanted us to use it I gave in against my better judgement. Now she has not had any since the beginning of February but we are still seeing some really out of control behavior - quick to anger, hitting, seems to enjoy being mean to little brother and just generally seems like she just can't control herself. Any other ideas or imput is always welcome... I really feel terrible that I have not been able to help her with this problem. I hate to see her in so much pain. It has prevented her from fully participating in activities and I know that as she becomes school age there is going to be more and more she would like to do....Thank you for any advice, Dawn