RE: Couple time!

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Yes but I am fulfilling Atul's and your role here......Not much scope

for me to drop work as LP is parttime.

Malini

From: mgims [mailto:mgims ] On Behalf Of

Sinha

Sent: 08 July 2008 18:40

To: mgims

Subject: RE: Couple time!

Internet shopping once a week and a cleaner(comes 5 hrs a week-does all

cleaning and ironing) -best 40 quid a week I ever spent in my life-has

changed the way I live.Milk/bread sos extras shop while filling in petrol

once a week. At least it lets me have a life.Nahi to weekends were simply

drudgery and more!!I have also found a bai to come and cook for me-3 times a

week-she does the basic sabzis-for the first time in 14 yrs am savouring

some one else's cooking.

I firmly believe life is what we choose it to be-Our wants-a bigger house -a

flashier car a luxury holiday One more gold set-the latest computer-it never

ends.

Do you know Rahul's birth changed a lot for me.Perhaps becoz I had him

preety late he made me sit up and realise what I wanted in my life.Yes

money/ambition is important but it is not everything.I took a career

change-am going parttime again-shall earn enough to keep us well-okay I am

lucky-have Atul providing us the cushion and the moolah but he is doing it

on the back of realising his home and son will be sorted out.And I dont

regret it at all.I see all the high powered people out there every one has

paid a price-family time/health/personal relationships- kabhi kissi ko

mukammal jahan nahi miltaa.Now after all these years and being the daughter

of a full time GP mum-I have realised how valuable homemakers are and what a

grt job they do.All my son wants to know when he goes to school in the

morning is who will pick him up that day.

I am all admiration for women who juggle job and home and do them well-kudos

to them. Coz they are doing something that I struggle to do.As for me time

with my child is paramount-I am torn all day to get home on time-and when I

do to be in a state to interact with him rather than collapse on the

sofa...therefore Malini try my advice You wont miss the money and it will

change the way you live.

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To: mgims@... <mailto:mgims%40yahoogroups.comFrom> :

lakora@... <mailto:lakora%40talktalk.netDate> : Tue, 8 Jul 2008

14:27:59 +0100Subject: RE: Couple time!

Shyam we do not have 'coupling time' here. Life is too hectic. Often if

atall we r all at home - too tired to make an effort to chat. Kids

contributeto the general hassle. Housework/day to day shopping etc takes

ages alongwith holding down the job etc. Has got me thinking about lifestyle

choices but are doomed for the next fewyears till kids get independent and

financial pressures decrease.MaliniFrom: mgims

<mailto:mgims%40yahoogroups.com> [mailto:mgims

<mailto:mgims%40yahoogroups.com> ] On Behalf OfshyamkamathSent: 07 July 2008

16:04To: mgims@...

<mailto:mgims%40yahoogroups.comSubject> : Re: Couple time!I am going

to join..this discussion....inspite..of Renuka...taking up...thetopic a bit

late..now that..Divya..is already due back, homebound..I guess.Well,I

beg..to differ..on this aspect..of sharing " Couple

Time " ,Renuka..Thanx..to..a nice Gulf work culture..and..persistence..by my

dearbiwi..to..break away..from TV,often..we do share..quality time..pretty

muchmore than our Indian counterparts...and .u,Renuka..as described..in ur

mail.After..our daily family dinner.,.we have kept 15mins aside..each

day..,..totable..our..important topics,Be it..concerning...Sohana's

school,dance..or..our..financialrelated..activities etc etc,..where..we

try..and..address the issue..andsolve it..and move on..Mornings,each

day..after..Sohana..goes

toschool,..we..try..and...spend..our..time,..planning..for..theday..discussi

ng about the emails..that have..come thru....etc..and..afternoons..I join

Seema..inhelping..with..cooking..and..clearing..up..the kitchen..each single

day!!(U can ask..her..during the reunion...if..I do help or not)So,as many

couple......coming out from India..often..happily remark.. " Gulf mein..aa

ke..hi..humne..apne..pati/patni...ko...teekhse..jaana. " .(Thanx..all

due..to..quality time..we all get...with ourpartners..and family)..On an

ending note..it is simple.Equation of Life.....Renuka..One has.to

balance..between more..Family Life..or a Great FlourishingCareer.The

fine..DIVIDE..exists,..but..often..we..tend..to overshoot

it...resultingin..getting more of one..and less of the other..Yehi

hain..Zindagi...(No..I permit Sohana..for sleepover parties..if her gang of

friends..rgood,..and..the parents.of the hosting..girl..r..equally, as

caring..likeus..)(For a moment..I thought..the tile read.. " Coupling

Time " ...,which came asbit of shocker..)ByeShyam(84) Gosh!!..What. .a flurry of lovely

mails...> ..on clothes,..and. .those..about invincible.. parenting. .> But

firstly,congrats. .to Sana Amreliwala.. for an excellent performance..in >

10th grade..and an equally great performance. .in English.> Now armed..with

so many..infos. .on Girls Hostel...in Pune..,I > think..Murtaza. .will..be.

...at ease..to relocate..Sana, ..to Pune..>> I feel all Moms..think

alike..with their teen daughters..and Dads r a > bit.of free..to let them,

enjoy their life..> BTW...we don't let our kids..roam.. out in the open...as

this isn't the > norm out here..and mostly it's with some guardian..if in a

group,..or > mostly,Sohana still likes to..shop.... with..us, knowing all >

too,well..that. .her...2 personal..assistant s..who double up, as Live >

Credit Cards..will be able to buy...anything. .she wants..in a mall..>>

So,finally,dresses packed..by the MGIMS..ladies. .I guess,Divya Trivedi,is >

off..to USA..> We wish her all the very best..and hope...she has a a great

time.>> Yeah,Aasawari, with the summer fest on,Dubai is the place to

be,..for > Indians...particula rly the weary Mumbaikars.. not used to

seeing..sun,these > days..with rains..making their life...miserable. .>

I..begin to wonder..is it..OK..to.. have..rains. ..floods. .,cause.. somuch

> of destruction to life,and property..each single year..in India..and >

yet..not have enough..water. .to last the remaining 8months..,not have >

enough to harvest..not have enough to use..it for..running water generated>

turbines..to generate..electrici ty..or better..to have..a > country..like.

..Saudi Arabia..and the Gulf..where. .solely.. on thebasis..of > petrol..and

excellent governance.. they have been able..to.overcome. .this> water

shortage problem,...and we continue..to have 24x7x365days. .of >

uninterrupted water and electricity supply..out here..>> Lastly,Ravin. .that

was a nice adult(U mean...some kids..also..read..these > emails..of our

group??)humour. .On..Adam. ..and Eve..>> ..> Bye.> Shyam(84)>>> [Non-text

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