Guest guest Posted August 4, 2003 Report Share Posted August 4, 2003 Sheila, I wish I could say some magic words and take the pain away. I heard your heart in your e-mail and you are hurting. I know how hard it is to watch a parent have a disease like cancer. Both my parents had it--within six months of each other. My mother had breast cancer and my father had lymphoma. My father died within three months of diagnosis. My mother had a mastectomy and survived. It's now 13 years later and she's clean. The uncertainty is awful and it's so out of our control. I know the pain, believe me. And then, of course, we worry about ourselves because we understand that so much (not everything) is genetic. All I can say is try to take care of yourself the best you can, and let go of the rest. Easy said, I know. It's not easy being ill when others in our age group are relatively healthy and energetic. It's not easy being 40-something and having to work your tail off when you feel like crap. The struggle can be overwhelming. Add worry to that and we're such a mess. It's good that you cried so much today, exhausting as it is. When my father died, I noticed that I felt okay righ after I cried, like emptying my bucket of grief. Of course, it fills up quickly, but crying is such a gift. It temporary leaves us anesthesized. Anyhow, I don't know if all of this is just a bunch of gobblely gook, but I wanted to express my concern and caring and send you the warmest of energy, Sheila. You are so giving on this list and you deserve all that's good. Hang in there! Hugs, Eileen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 5, 2003 Report Share Posted August 5, 2003 oh sheila, i'm sorry for what you're going through. i believe i read that there's a blood test that woman should have for this. it's as simple as that--just a blood test. it's being compared to the blood test that checks men's psa levels for prostate cancer. talk to your doctor about it. i don't know how mainstream it is yet, but i know it exists. i'll be thinking of you, hillary worried > Hi all. I'm having a really bad day. My mother told me the type of > cancer she was diagnosed with back in Dec. It's called > adenocarcinoma endometrium...cancer in her middle uterus and upper > cervix. She had surgery in Dec. > > Anyway, I thought she had been skipping her paps. I found out this > morning that all of her paps had come back normal. She said if you > have cancer in your uterus, it doesn't show on a pap. > > anyway, my mom is supposed to have body scans every 3 months to make > sure the cancer hasn't come back. So far, she's clean. I have > worried about her to be sure, but this morning, it really hit me. > > I was doing some research this morning. It was awful. They were > following groups of women with this type of cancer. The survival > rate for 5 years after diagnosis was only 51%. Another statistic was > 75-95% survival rate after 5 years if the person is in stage 1, but > from what I read, not too many people are at stage 1. > > Many times I read this was a " good " cancer to get, but it doesn't > sound like it to me. I sat at my desk crying all morning while my > husband was at work. > > As I was reading about this type of cancer, I realized I have all > the symptoms. There are also 4 things that increase your risk of > this cancer. I have 3 of the 4. > > I also thought my OB/GYN appt. was today, but it's not until next > week. My mom tells me I need to have a biopsy. That sounds right. My > problems may just be Hashi's related...or could be > endometriosis...could be just peri-menopausal stuff. But I want to > be sure. > > Anyway, I've been very sad and upset all day. Work was horribly > busy, and we didn't have enough staff. Toward the end of the night, > I just lost it. I was screaming. I had worked for almost 5 hours in > 100 degree heat with no water. I was working physically very hard. I > was exhausted physically and mentally. My throat was so swollen from > yelling calls all night and from lack of water. > > I was so angry I could just scream and scream and not stop. > Anyway, I have to work a double shift tomorrow. I will get very > little sleep. Thanks guys for letting me vent. I know stress makes > this disease worse, but I just don't know what to do. life is > stressful. You all take care. Sheila > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 5, 2003 Report Share Posted August 5, 2003 sheila, take care of yourself! at work, if it's too much, just take a break. i have told my supervisors of my problems and they understand if i stop and sit down for a few minutes. you should do the same. don't worry too much about the cancer. discuss with the ob/gyn next week. but why worry if you can't do anything yet. i find researching the problem helps me a lot when i have to wait for drs appts. good luck. i'm here for you. cheer up and have a beer or something. julie > Hi all. I'm having a really bad day. My mother told me the type of > cancer she was diagnosed with back in Dec. It's called > adenocarcinoma endometrium...cancer in her middle uterus and upper > cervix. She had surgery in Dec. > > Anyway, I thought she had been skipping her paps. I found out this > morning that all of her paps had come back normal. She said if you > have cancer in your uterus, it doesn't show on a pap. > > anyway, my mom is supposed to have body scans every 3 months to make > sure the cancer hasn't come back. So far, she's clean. I have > worried about her to be sure, but this morning, it really hit me. > > I was doing some research this morning. It was awful. They were > following groups of women with this type of cancer. The survival > rate for 5 years after diagnosis was only 51%. Another statistic was > 75-95% survival rate after 5 years if the person is in stage 1, but > from what I read, not too many people are at stage 1. > > Many times I read this was a " good " cancer to get, but it doesn't > sound like it to me. I sat at my desk crying all morning while my > husband was at work. > > As I was reading about this type of cancer, I realized I have all > the symptoms. There are also 4 things that increase your risk of > this cancer. I have 3 of the 4. > > I also thought my OB/GYN appt. was today, but it's not until next > week. My mom tells me I need to have a biopsy. That sounds right. My > problems may just be Hashi's related...or could be > endometriosis...could be just peri-menopausal stuff. But I want to > be sure. > > Anyway, I've been very sad and upset all day. Work was horribly > busy, and we didn't have enough staff. Toward the end of the night, > I just lost it. I was screaming. I had worked for almost 5 hours in > 100 degree heat with no water. I was working physically very hard. I > was exhausted physically and mentally. My throat was so swollen from > yelling calls all night and from lack of water. > > I was so angry I could just scream and scream and not stop. > Anyway, I have to work a double shift tomorrow. I will get very > little sleep. Thanks guys for letting me vent. I know stress makes > this disease worse, but I just don't know what to do. life is > stressful. You all take care. Sheila Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 8, 2003 Report Share Posted August 8, 2003 Sheila, I know that I am new to the group and do not know you well but I do know a seriously kind heart when I see one and your is clearly that. My heart is sending you positive energy and hoping that things will work out. I do know that the prognosis for endometrial cancers is better than that for uterine cancers - I just don't know which cancer it is if its in the endometrium of the uterus???? Anyhow, better late than never but do know I am thinking good thoughts for you. Kathy > Hi all. I'm having a really bad day. My mother told me the type of > cancer she was diagnosed with back in Dec. It's called > adenocarcinoma endometrium...cancer in her middle uterus and upper > cervix. She had surgery in Dec. > > Anyway, I thought she had been skipping her paps. I found out this > morning that all of her paps had come back normal. She said if you > have cancer in your uterus, it doesn't show on a pap. > > anyway, my mom is supposed to have body scans every 3 months to make > sure the cancer hasn't come back. So far, she's clean. I have > worried about her to be sure, but this morning, it really hit me. > > I was doing some research this morning. It was awful. They were > following groups of women with this type of cancer. The survival > rate for 5 years after diagnosis was only 51%. Another statistic was > 75-95% survival rate after 5 years if the person is in stage 1, but > from what I read, not too many people are at stage 1. > > Many times I read this was a " good " cancer to get, but it doesn't > sound like it to me. I sat at my desk crying all morning while my > husband was at work. > > As I was reading about this type of cancer, I realized I have all > the symptoms. There are also 4 things that increase your risk of > this cancer. I have 3 of the 4. > > I also thought my OB/GYN appt. was today, but it's not until next > week. My mom tells me I need to have a biopsy. That sounds right. My > problems may just be Hashi's related...or could be > endometriosis...could be just peri-menopausal stuff. But I want to > be sure. > > Anyway, I've been very sad and upset all day. Work was horribly > busy, and we didn't have enough staff. Toward the end of the night, > I just lost it. I was screaming. I had worked for almost 5 hours in > 100 degree heat with no water. I was working physically very hard. I > was exhausted physically and mentally. My throat was so swollen from > yelling calls all night and from lack of water. > > I was so angry I could just scream and scream and not stop. > Anyway, I have to work a double shift tomorrow. I will get very > little sleep. Thanks guys for letting me vent. I know stress makes > this disease worse, but I just don't know what to do. life is > stressful. You all take care. Sheila Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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