's Face Lift

[Guest guest]

Okay, first let me say that I am a facilitator of “The Work” and have

attended The School for The Work as well as various other events with .

So, I have a certain listening for this conversation.

As a facilitator, various permutations of this question almost always come

up.

The distinction is between loving and accepting what is, exactly as it is

and/or being committed to a different future. I can absolutely love my face

as it is, wrinkles and all and still use some form of modern technology to

diminish my wrinkles. This could apply to any situation. I could love a

child molester and forcefully deny him/her access to my daughter.

People often get confused and think that if I love what is, won’t I become

complacent and just accept everything whether it is healthy or not, whether

it is in support of comfort and happiness or not. This could translate to:

If I love what is, and I go to a restaurant, and the waiter brings me

braised liver, then in that moment, if I am clear, braised liver is what I

wanted him to bring. But does this mean that I happily eat the liver?

Wouldn’t I just love the liver and eat it anyway? The answer is not unless I

chose to. I might say to the waiter, “I appreciate you and what I ordered

was sautéed vegetables. What you brought is braised liver. I have to be

somewhere by 8 PM and it’s 7:15 right now. What would you suggest?”

I have choices. I could go to a different restaurant. I could share the

oversized meal that my companion received. I could choose to be satisfied

with the salad I received or order another. I could start that fast I’ve

been considering. All of these are options that are available to me.

Saying that shouldn’t have had a face lift is like saying that I

should have eaten the liver. When I clearly have other options available to

me, why would you insist that I eat the liver? To prove that I love what is?

Loving what is exists in freedom, not restriction. Restriction is a tool of

the ego. Love embraces all.

And besides, whose business is it if I eat liver or not? Mine, right?

Whose business is it if I use technology to enhance my face? Still mine.

Whose business is it if you complain about what other people choose to do

with their lives or their faces? That would be yours. The only thing I would

ask is, is it bringing you peace to harbor that thought? Can you even know

if the thought is true? Who would you be without that thought?

Loving what is, and that would be you,

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From: adyashantigroup

[mailto:adyashantigroup ] On Behalf Of nel

Sent: Wednesday, February 15, 2006 2:00 PM

To: adyashantigroup

Subject: [adyashantigroup] Re: byron katies facelift

Hi

I heard that , a few months ago, had a cornea(?) transplant.

(She was about to lose her eyesight).

She said that she did not want to do it, because she could not care

less about how she appears to people,(because she would not be able to

see how she looks if she were blind), but the reason that she did it

was because her husband wanted it.

Now i hear that she had a facelift. Yes, she " blames " it on her family.

i am relatively new and i like the work, it is just that

katie looked like she is her own person, that she was taking

responsibility for herself.

Nel

" Jani Roxburgh " wrote:

>

> Dear Jill,

>

> I had heard something about and a facelift through a dear

friend. She was quite shocked. I must admit that the facelift thought

personally amused me for some reason, but i can deeply see how it

could be distressing to others, partly because of things has

said in the past.

>

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>

> Hey guys!!!

>

> Jani, I love your quote

>

> have you actually ever met anyone likethat--who never

> felt limited emotions or acted in a limited way? I

> have been around gurus my whole life, been on this

> path for decades--not one of them failed to jump off

> my pedestal.

>

> I had gone to Byron 's school and been

> disappointed. And when I came home, there were many

> things that occurred and well I think I was depressed

> for 2 months.

>

> And then this change happened. I just understood and

> realized there was no guru (for me that is). Except

> for me. magical

>

> I have to tell you what happened last night. I was

> reading the other board and found out byron katie had

> a facelift.

>

> I freaked!

>

> when I was at the school I stood up and shared that I

> was afraid of getting older and the others wouldn't

> find me attractive...the whole thing.

>

> well, katie lit into me (many others came up to me

> later and sharing my fears agreed she was harsh)

>

> she said that the need to remain younger and beautiful

> in the sense of the world was a sign of a violent

> mind...that gettingh older and losing attractiveness

> was a good thing got you to concnetrate on other

> things in life...and that beauty was in everything as

> evertyhign.

>

> facelift, grrrrr

>

> she had said some other things that were

> hypocritical...by the end of my conversation with my

> friend I realized how mad I was at myself for taking

> an abusive talking to that didn't help at all.

>

> (yes I feel better about getting older...but not cause

> of her)

>

> she falls farther! and after I work out my

> resentment...I know I'll be freer even. this will have

> served.

>

> so we continue talking on the phone (and she lets me

> rant) and I tell my friend I know that I am there.

>

> i know that I am masterful even with my limits and

> dopeyness and fears and my ranting ...I am the

> velveteen rabbit.

>

> and I know that all others are too. Now I know this.

>

> she didn't believe that she was. But if I can see it

> then I can hold it until she does.

>

> I can have an outburst and be masterful.

>

> why do we think we can't?

>

> why can't we start taking our power back from gurus

> and just see ourselves as the master we seek...all of

> us...our good bad and ugly (facelifts)...smiles.

> btw...I have nothing against face lifts...smiles and

> hugs to all.

>