Guest guest Posted April 30, 2005 Report Share Posted April 30, 2005 I resonate with . What comes up for me is to inquire into the truth of these thoughts. Be forewarned though. Just thinking about these thoughts will accomplish little. The juice is in asking, one at a time. Put them up against the four questions and look for turnarounds (in that order): * I need _________'s_ approval and admiration. (Is that true?) * If she likes someone better than me it means __________. (and then look into the truthfulness of what the mind said). For instance, it means she doesn't love me (is that true?), it means that she doesn't care about my feelings (is that true?), it means that she would rather be with him. You know, there is a little secret technique for telling what someone really wants. Just look at what they have. If she is with you, I say, that means that she wants to be with you. * I need her love, appreciation and approval. Is that true? * There is a limited amount of love available, therefore when she loves someone else that means there's less for me. Is that true? " Identities don't love. They want something. " -bk Seldom is this so obvious as in the jealous person who in their selfishness would deny their partner happiness and freedom in order to serve their own imagined needs. So, one of my favorite questions; when this jealousy is present, who is it that is jealous? Is it not your ego; your sense of separate self; your fearful self; your " I know " mind. Consider that this mind is not you. It is an aspect of you, and you are far greater than that. If you can observe this mind, that means that you are not it. So, who is it that observes this jealous you? Another tact. completely shifting gears here. How about just bringing yourself back to reality. When you are hooked by those jealous thoughts just ask yourself if you can be with what is happening right now. Be literal in your reporting on what is happening. You might enroll someone else in helping you to determine what is real at the moment since your imagination is already running wild. It occurs to me that jealousy is a disease of the imagination. Without the story of a past or a future, can I be with what is happening right now? Thank you for taking this on. I appreciate your interest in freedom and peace. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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