Re: I'm stuck

[Guest guest]

Hi Jack,

Welcome to Loving What Is, and I think you came to the right place.

I have sometimes heard say to people when they lose or don't

get what they think they want, " you have been spared. " And also

things like " What I have is what I need. I know that I don't need

something because I don't have it. " (not an exact quote)

It's great that you have focused on Tolle and . I have

discovered both of them in the past year myself. They are both

teachers of truth who have helped me tremendously. As you know, when

we lose something, we often lose part of our identity with it, which

can be a good thing.

The best advice I can give you would be to do the work on what you

feel you have lost, which I suspect you may already be doing. Are

you? Do a judge your neighbor worksheet on your failed relationship,

as well as on your other " losses " and then inquire on them.

I can say from my experience that loss, pain, and lonliness have

brought me much closer to God than when I get what I want. I have

suffered more this past year than maybe in my whole life, so that is

why I am here as well. I am hoping to go to my first intensive with

this year. Perhaps that could step it up a notch for me as

well.

Love

>

> Hello friends,

> I'm a swm 34, former over achiever who has been stuck now for

several

> years. The " little me " wants to add that I'm a fairly dynamic

person,

> having had successful careers in radio and then in public

relations

> until my life crashed after a bad break up. I had to start over

broke

> and not knowing what to do. That's when I discovered Byron and

Eckhart

> Tolle. It pulled me through to an extent. Living in a nice studio

> apartment alone for the first time, working a fun, social job but

not

> the money that I was used too.

>

> I've done everything...including nothing to find my next calling

> career wise. Having gone through a bad break up a couple of months

> ago, I'm even more stuck... Immobilized, I'm heart broken and very

> alone. No family... Not many real friends. I know a lot of people

go

> through a down time in their lives but rebound after months or a

> year... but I've been stuck over 3 years.

>

> Does anyone have any advice for me?

> Thank you!

> Jack

>

[Guest guest]

dear JAck and JEffrey, WElcome Jack. thank you good answer , It

took me about 30 years to see i was spared in a lost relationship. And

you can still love that person anyway forever. .

In one of katies tapes i heard her say. Do you blame this person for

the way your life has turned out? do you feel its her fault you lost

the job? And in that situation you were spared also. IF you like your

job i think that is worth more than money. DO you like your job?

I always felt I should be better which i am still working on.

I still have a lot of stories, And I look forward to reading advise

best wishes, roslyn

> >

> > Hello friends,

> > I'm a swm 34, former over achiever who has been stuck now for

> several

> > years. The " little me " wants to add that I'm a fairly dynamic

> person,

> > having had successful careers in radio and then in public

> relations

> > until my life crashed after a bad break up. I had to start over

> broke

> > and not knowing what to do. That's when I discovered Byron and

> Eckhart

> > Tolle. It pulled me through to an extent. Living in a nice studio

> > apartment alone for the first time, working a fun, social job but

> not

> > the money that I was used too.

> >

> > I've done everything...including nothing to find my next calling

> > career wise. Having gone through a bad break up a couple of months

> > ago, I'm even more stuck... Immobilized, I'm heart broken and very

> > alone. No family... Not many real friends. I know a lot of people

> go

> > through a down time in their lives but rebound after months or a

> > year... but I've been stuck over 3 years.

> >

> > Does anyone have any advice for me?

> > Thank you!

> > Jack

> >

>