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Do you underestimate your competence & potential? Why?

by Jane

“Never underestimate yourself.â€

Many people put themselves down, by pointing out their inability’s, inadequacies and weaknesses. They underestimate their capabilities, competence and potential.

Does this ring true with you? Take a closer look at yourself and tune into what you say and do. Vow to never, ever underestimate yourself or limit what you can achieve. You are a woman with huge amounts of talent and skill, screaming to be seen and heard!

Instead of thinking in terms of what you “can’t†do, think in terms of what you “can†do. This will let your talents shine!

Remember, you have the ability. You’re perfectly adequate. You possess limitless potential, because you’re you!

TALKING IT OUT"Anger blows out the lamp of the mind," said Ingersoll.It may be true. I heard a story about one woman who ran a classified ad in order to sell her brand new car. It had only 3,000 miles. "Like new," the ad boasted. "Mint condition. $75.00."He laughed to himself, and said, "There goes the newspaper, making another mistake." But he decided to call the number anyway and ask about it."Is it really brand new?""Yes," she replied."Three thousand miles?""Yes.""The price?""Seventy-five dollars," she answered."Seventy-five dollars! Lady, what's wrong with it?" he asked."Nothing is wrong with it. And, amazingly, you're the first to call. I suppose nobody else believes the ad."He decided to look at it. She let him take a test drive. The car looked exquisite and ran perfectly. He just couldn't believe his luck."The car is yours for $75.00. Just drive it away."He paid her and took the keys. "Please tell me, lady," he persisted. "You could have sold this car for $35,000, at least. What is going on?"She told her story: "I bought the car for my husband on our fortieth wedding anniversary. Two weeks later he ran off with somebody else. Last week I got a text from him. They are in a resort in Miami Beach, Florida. The text said, 'Need money, sell car, send cash.' I did."What do you do when you are angry?Some people "act it out." They break something. Or they say something they later regret. They strike back. Or they sell the car for $75.00.Other people "wait it out." Waiting it out seemed to be her husband's strategy. Let her cool down - it will blow over. But the avoidance of conflict usually never ends well. It just doesn't go away by itself.Others "take it out." They kick the dog or scream at the kids. They lash out at the next unlucky person they come across.Still others "fight it out." Humorist Bob Orben says, "Who can ever forget Winston Churchill's immortal words: 'We shall fight on the beaches, we shall fight on the landing grounds, we shall fight in the fields and in the streets, we shall fight in the hills'? It sounds exactly like our family vacation." With friends and family, fighting it out becomes bickering. On a larger scale, it's called warfare.Of course, the best idea is to "talk it out." Nothing new here - we have to bring it up before we can get it out. But talking it out isn't shouting it out. I think some people believe that if they just say it loudly enough, they can make it so.Talking it out is about bringing it up - saying what needs to be said clearly, calmly and kindly. But it is also about listening. I think it's interesting that the word "listen" contains the same letters as the word "silent." I know that I can't listen when I'm talking. I can't listen when I'm figuring out what I want to say next. I have to be still. I have to be silent.And when I'm silent, something almost magical happens. Walls come down and I can begin to see my way through. When I'm silent I create space for something new to grow between us.ACT IT OUT and your actions will become a block to good communication.WAIT IT OUT and you just let it build up inside.TAKE IT OUT and you cause more hurt and anger.FIGHT IT OUT and you create winners and losers.But TALK IT OUT and you can get it out. Be honest. Be clear. But, be reasonable. And then be silent. Let the magic of the moment ferment so that understanding can grow.Maybe then you can keep the car.Steve Goodier

The Daily Motivator - www.GreatDay.com

Look forward to life

This is it. Your New Year is here. Though you cannot go back, you can do even better than ever as you move forward. No matter how many other years you’ve already seen, you can make this the best one yet.

Of course there are plenty of challenges, and more are likely to be on the way real soon. But you’ve already come through a whole lot of them, and now you can put all that experience to positive and meaningful use.

Glance back for a moment and you’ll clearly see that life is always what you choose to make it, no matter what else might be going on. Now look forward with a renewed determination, and make the choice to live with more meaning and richness than ever before.

In your heart, you know why. With your considerable experience of living, you know how.

As this New Year begins, look forward to the opportunity you now have of experiencing life at a new and more fulfilling level. On this very first day of the year, look forward to being the best you’ve ever been at being you.

Ralph Marston

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