why does she mention sex to my husband?

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1. I am mad and threatened by Gabi because she mentions sex to my

husband.

I dont understand her intention.

Why does she do this?

Does she want to have sex with him?

2. I want her to leave him alone and stop mentioning sex to him.

3. She should stop competeing for his attention, becasue he is not

available anyway, and she is rocking my world when she does this.

4. She should stop coming up to us and start talking with him and

pulling his attention away from me and toward herself.

5. She should not fantasize about him and have an internal

relationship with him.

6. She should not pretend that she is nice to me and then backstab me.

Gabi is: Manipulating, not playing a fair game, confusing me, not

open with her intention, competing, needing attention.

I dont ever want to experience Gabi taking away my husband with her

game playing.

THE WORK:

1. I am mad and threatened by Gabi because she mentions sex to my

husband.

She should not mention sex to my husband is that true?

Well, it is true if I say that that means something bad.

So, it depends on what I define it to mean.

What is the reality? She does mention sex to him.

How do I know she is supposed to mention sex to him, she does.

How do I feel when I hold the belief she should not mention sex to

him? It feels horrible.

Who would I be if I did not hold this belief?

Then I would be fine again.

2. I dont understand her intention.

Whos business is her intention? Hers, but what she does is effecting

me. Okay, I am into her business and it is of course painful.

I see that as long as I stay focused on her and what she is doing, I

will only suffer. I have to go back to my own business, even though

it is feeling rather threatening to do it right now.

Let me try again.

Whos business is her intention? Hers.

Whos business is it who she talks about sex with? Hers

Maybe I should just tell her I dont like it if she talks about sex

with my husband and ask her what her intention is!!!

I am not getting very far with this right now.