without teachinng that pain is valid

[Guest guest]

Hi

I havn't been here for a while...

I am listening to katie's tapes

and I want to share with you

things she said that weren't clear to me...

I quote:

" My children hurt, I hurt. We have believed that that is love.

That is not my expirience.

I love to sit with my children and there pain.

Can I do that without teachinng that pain is valid, that suffering

is valid. Or, can I sit with them and understand, listen. It is

entirely intimate. "

I want a to clairified the part:

without teachinng that pain is valid...

what did she mean?

Thanks

Tami