Re: my girlfriend needs to pull it together - Neal

[Guest guest]

> Can someone help me out? I am very tired with my girlfirend

> throwing fits, crying over the littlest issue, and wasting an hour

> of my time while she bemoans her issues trying to clear it up in her

> own mind.

Hi Neal,

Can you help me out? I am very tired of the men in my life throwing

fits, distancing over the littlest issue, and " wasting " my time while

they bemoan their issues of me not being who they wish me to be...

Isn't it all about non-acceptance? Once you accept yourself exactly

as you are isn't it funny? Suddenly whatever someone else chooses to

do lessens in importance.

The only way his beingness interferes with my beingness is when I'm

not inner connected and am looking for an outer connection.

Don't know if my response helped you, but I sure needed to hear myself

say it!!!!

Blessings - Jan

[Guest guest]

hey jan-

yes, it is about acceptance. the acceptance i am being asked to

face is me as a strong being who is being asked to drop my selfish

thoughts and hold the space with compassion for another. being

selfless- what a concept. how i really appreciate her for asking me

over and over to display my divine essence and drop my ideas

of " ...these are my limits. " our divine essence has no limits.

thanks for your reply.

be well

neal

> Hi Neal,

> Can you help me out? I am very tired of the men in my life

throwing

> fits, distancing over the littlest issue, and " wasting " my time

while

> they bemoan their issues of me not being who they wish me to be...

>

> Isn't it all about non-acceptance? Once you accept yourself

exactly

> as you are isn't it funny? Suddenly whatever someone else chooses

to

> do lessens in importance.

>

> The only way his beingness interferes with my beingness is when I'm

> not inner connected and am looking for an outer connection.

>

> Don't know if my response helped you, but I sure needed to hear

myself

> say it!!!!

>

> Blessings - Jan

[Guest guest]

yes, it is about acceptance. the acceptance i am being asked to

face is me as a strong being who is being asked to drop my selfish

thoughts and hold the space with compassion for another.

*****You can't drop a thought because you didn't create it in the

first place.

being selfless- what a concept. how i really appreciate her for

asking me over and over to display my divine essence and drop my ideas

of " ...these are my limits. " our divine essence has no limits.

*****Whatever you are displaying, at any moment, is your divine

essence.

[Guest guest]

" neal757 " wrote:

> hey jan-

>

> yes, it is about acceptance. the acceptance i am being asked to

> face is me as a strong being who is being asked to drop my selfish

> thoughts and hold the space with compassion for another. being

> selfless- what a concept. how i really appreciate her for asking me

> over and over to display my divine essence and drop my ideas

> of " ...these are my limits. " our divine essence has no limits.

>

> thanks for your reply.

>

> be well

>

> neal

Neal-

You have a very sweet heart. I was having fun with my issue...All my

suffering appears to come from non-acceptance - attachment - recoiling

- and ignorance. Just saying well how sweet of this rage-o-holic to

ask me to display divinity means that you feel divinity needs to not

have limits. Divinity shows up as it shows up. The object of this

work thing is to get in touch with what's right for YOU, your truth -

not how you THINK you should respond but how you KNOW you should

respond in your heart of hearts. And that is the purpose of inquiry.

So I invite you to go inside and ask YOU how YOU should handle this

situation. Get in touch with Neal's magic.

Blessings - Jan