Re: Non Supportive Family

[Guest guest]

Kathy,

Sounds like you are having a very rough time. What part of PA are you from?

I am in Southeastern PA, about 45 minutes from Philly.

If you are not working than why not apply for disability if all the doctors

are advising that and then at least you would have some $$ coming in.

If there is anything else I can do. please email and let me know what?

Good luck,

Jeff S.

NY/PA

[Guest guest]

<< I haven't worked now since the end of December 2003. I've

> been told by at least 5 doctors that I need to be on disability, but

> I can't b/c I have no other support.>>>

Hi Kathy,

Your situation sounds very up-setting and I'm sorry you are going through

all of this with no support. I'm confused about the disability...can you

not go on it because it would not be enough money? If you can't work anyway

then at least it would be something. I live on SSD and it's not much and I

have no one to help out but I don't have a choice because I just cannot work

anymore.. You might be hurting yourself more by working.

I'm sorry about your family too....I can definitely relate to that! Tell

your Mom to MYOB if she can't support you and try and understand. I know

it's hard but if she doesn't understand then that is her problem....you know

what you can and can't do.

Where in Pa. do you live? I'm about an hour west of Philadelphia.

I hope things get better for you and just remember you have this group of

caring people!

Take care,

Ann

[Guest guest]

Hi Ann,

Thank you for understanding. It sounds like we have a lot in

common. I need the disability and the only reason I don't have it,

is because it takes a long time to see any of the money. I don't

have any savings, because of my health/pain issues and have nothing

to live on. I do have an appt. with the Social Security office on

Feb. 6th and am going to keep it.

I live in Reading, Pa. Also about an hour west of Philadelphia.

My mother and stepfather are very dysfunctional. I've actually moved

out of the state twice, trying to get away from the dysfunction and

start over in a place where I'd feel safe and be away from all of the

negativity from my parents. It seems that I always end up back here

though. My mother is on my case constantly about getting a job. She

really doesn't get it! Then I live with the fear of having to live

with her and my stepfather b/c of not having enough money to keep my

apartment. The stress is unbelievable. They're relentless! I have

been involved with Al-anon since 1988 and have been through therapy

for years b/c of the dysfunction/alcoholism/violence and abuse I've

had to live with. I know this is not helping me to get better and is

making the pain even worse.

I really appreciate your understanding and encouragement! I'm so

glad I found this board regarding the chronic pain. It helps so much

to know that I'm not alone and there are others out there just like

me.

My thoughts & prayers are with all of you :-)

Kathy K.