Re: I Am New Here

[Guest guest]

Dear One,

First, your story is pretty much everyone's story. We all have been

taught that if we don't get what we think we need then we will not

have " enough " . Most of the people in this Group can relate to your

situation.

Here is what stood out to me in your post.

" I need to worry about the money situation. "

Is that true?

It seems to be true.

Can I really know that that is true?

Not really.

How does it make me feel when I think that thought?

It makes me miserable, afraid and I feel like a victum.

Can I see a reason to drop this thought, and I am not asking me to

drop it?

Definitely.

Can I see a " peaceful reason " to keep this thought?

Of course not!

More importantly, who would I be without the belief that " I need to

worry about the money situation. " ?

I would simply be me, more peaceful and happier.

TA: " I don't need to worry about the money situation. "

Some thoughts:

All any of us wants is to be happy. We have a story that it takes a

certain amount of money before we can be happy. Actually, it is our

story that is keeping us from being happy, now. We could inquire

into our belief in a future in which there is " not enough " and find

that we have no proof of that and the belief will let go of us and we

may find ourselves happy now?

Thank you for allowing me this opportunity to look into one of my

old, dusty beliefs.

Blessings, Steve D.

> I think I need a little help. My situation is this: my husband is

> divorcing me and trying to cut off support money. I am disabled

and

> have three medically challenged kids. I worry constantly about the

> money situation, and I have done the inquiry, and of course I

realize

> that I would be a lot more serene without the thought " Ex is going

to

> cut off our money. " However, I am stuck on the turnaround. Here's

> what I came up with:

>

> 1. I am afraid I am going to cut off our money.

> 2. I am willing for my Ex to cut off our money.

> 3. I look forward to my Ex cutting off our money.

>

> None of this makes any sense to me. What am I doing wrong here?

[Guest guest]

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> 2.  I am willing for my Ex to cut off our money.

> 3.  I look forward to my Ex cutting off our money.

>

> None of this makes any sense to me.  What am I doing wrong here?

I think the premise behind this kind of turnaround is that it's about very

literally loving what is, no matter what.

Your Ex might cut off your money. If he does, that will be absolutely and

inexorably What Is. But we tend to deny What Is when it seems too horrible to

contemplate, as if our acceptance or lack of acceptance will change it. Which

is like going down the river of life with our eyes pinched shut and our hands

over our faces.

Reality doesn't need our approval. It happens with or without us, and to say

" I'm am willing for my Ex to cut off our money " is the same to me as saying " I

am willing to live in reality, even THAT reality, rather than in denial of What

Is. " That's like opening your eyes and seeing what's really around you. I

don't know ultimately how much control we really have over what happens to us on

the river of life (do we even have paddles?), but when I remember that I have

the choice it is nice to see the sun.

I don't know if you'll find that useful, but it's my interpretation at the

moment.