Guest guest Posted May 24, 2005 Report Share Posted May 24, 2005 Ros, Wow! There's so much juicy stuff here to do The Work on...here's what I saw: My husband is depressed. He should do a worksheet on his job. Life should be more fun and less stressful. Jobs are stressful. I should appreciate a job and mke it more enjoyable. I should be able to do the work with my husband and fix it so it isnt stressful. (I can hear saying... " Oh Really? " here!) I should appreciate my husbands'job and be able to make it enjoyable. Life is a struggle for money.. and security.. and doing things you hate. I wish he would get fired and get it over with. And, lastly I see that you are on the right track in knowing that you're in your husband's business. If you can step out of that space I think you might find it's pretty calm and peaceful. Good luck. Kim --- mrcitrus6 wrote: > -dear kim.. My job is ok..although i dont get many > hours at this > time.. and im glad because i would prefer not to > work really.. > still it isnt that bad.. my husband hates his job.. > And Ive tried > doing the work with him and its still stressful.. > He has had the > same problem for years.. he reminds me of that > character in death of > a salesmen.. > I know i exagerrate and im in his business.. every > day he leaves here > feeling ok and comes home totally depressed -he will > sit in front of > the tv > i wanted him to write a judge your neighbor on the > company and he > says it is his thinking and his fault.. drives me > nuts.. > i tried writing it myself.. doesnt work.. i know i > am in his > business > .. I wish katie would write a book on the work on > work.. but then i > guess the same type of thinking applies in all > areas.. > We both have a lot of desire for approval > When i first read your email i thought it was I > should like my job. > and your right the lie is in thinking i shoudlnt > hate his job . > I shouldnt hate my husbands job.. no .. Absoltely > no.. but i also > like the salary and insurance.. when i think that > thought.. > I think life should be more fun and less stress. > i think we should do the work and find out why this > job is > stressful.. I should appreciate it and be able to > make it enjoyable. > i should be able to do the work with my husband and > fix it so it isnt > stressful.. > I wish he would get fired and get it over with.. > I think life is a struggle for money.. and > security.. and doing > things you hate. > i think life shouldnt be like this .. going to a job > you hate.. > WIthout the thought.. I would just be ok.. in the > present.. > I should hate my husbands job.. > i hate my job of being in his business. most true > > i really dont like work either.. much.. guess that > is why i see it in > him.. > He always has this affirmation he will handle > anything that comes > along.. or something from susan jeffers.. to me it > is implying > failure.. but then maybe that is just my > interpretation.. > > thanks for your reply.. ros > > > > > > -- In Loving-what-is , Kim > <kimakim@y...> wrote: > > I would start with. > > > > I shouldn't hate my job. > > > > Is it true? > > > > Let us know what happens... > > > > Love, > > > > Kim > > > > > > --- mrcitrus6 <mrcitrus6@y...> wrote: > > > anyone have any suggestions on doing the work > > > on a job you hate . thanks rh > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 24, 2005 Report Share Posted May 24, 2005 Well, as Kim suggests, I'd do a work on " he shouldn't hate his job " . As for, if he wants to do the work, I'd make a list of all the things that should be better at his job, and do a work on that. Like a Judge-Your-Neighbourhood worksheet. Your Job is your neighbour. Gee, I hated my job for quite a while, as well! Love, Am 24.05.2005 um 17:11 schrieb mrcitrus6: > -dear kim.. My job is ok..although i dont get many hours at this > time.. and im glad because i would prefer not to work really.. > still it isnt that bad.. my husband hates his job.. And Ive tried > doing the work with him and its still stressful.. He has had the > same problem for years.. he reminds me of that character in death of > a salesmen.. > I know i exagerrate and im in his business.. every day he leaves here > feeling ok and comes home totally depressed -he will sit in front of > the tv > i wanted him to write a judge your neighbor on the company and he > says it is his thinking and his fault.. drives me nuts.. > i tried writing it myself.. doesnt work.. i know i am in his > business > .. I wish katie would write a book on the work on work.. but then i > guess the same type of thinking applies in all areas.. > We both have a lot of desire for approval > When i first read your email i thought it was I should like my job. > and your right the lie is in thinking i shoudlnt hate his job . > I shouldnt hate my husbands job.. no .. Absoltely no.. but i also > like the salary and insurance.. when i think that thought.. > I think life should be more fun and less stress. > i think we should do the work and find out why this job is > stressful.. I should appreciate it and be able to make it enjoyable. > i should be able to do the work with my husband and fix it so it isnt > stressful.. > I wish he would get fired and get it over with.. > I think life is a struggle for money.. and security.. and doing > things you hate. > i think life shouldnt be like this .. going to a job you hate.. > WIthout the thought.. I would just be ok.. in the present.. > I should hate my husbands job.. > i hate my job of being in his business. most true > > i really dont like work either.. much.. guess that is why i see it in > him.. > He always has this affirmation he will handle anything that comes > along.. or something from susan jeffers.. to me it is implying > failure.. but then maybe that is just my interpretation.. > > thanks for your reply.. ros > > > > > > -- In Loving-what-is , Kim <kimakim@y...> wrote: > >> I would start with. >> >> I shouldn't hate my job. >> >> Is it true? >> >> Let us know what happens... >> >> Love, >> >> Kim >> >> >> --- mrcitrus6 <mrcitrus6@y...> wrote: >> >>> anyone have any suggestions on doing the work >>> on a job you hate . thanks rh >>> >>> >>> >>> > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 25, 2005 Report Share Posted May 25, 2005 Dear Ros, Am 25.05.2005 um 19:11 schrieb mrcitrus6: > alexander ..thank you you're very welcome. > Im wondering if you have the same job and still > hate it.. Actually I still do have the same job, and no, I don't hate it anymore. It's far too consuming. > I wanted my husband to do a judge your neighbor worksheet but he > wont.. he says he has nothing to write and doesnt want approval from > anyone.. > so he says.. I suppose we could do the work on that.. I suppose you could believe him. As says: If I think someone needs the work, I need the work. I've been there. Thought someone who did not do the work could be happier doing it. And I found I can't know that. > I dont want approval.. is that true.. i shouldnt say we.. im so in > his business.. > but i hate that he hates his job... > I feel like i am trying to fix him.. well, you are. Why do you want to fix something that isn't broken in the first place? > and so i know i am not a good facilitator.. Oh, well. Who are you facilitating, anyway? He should not hate his job. - well does he? How do you notice he hates his job? > WE finally decided one of the lies was he should fit in with this > job.. hes pretty much decided the job is not right for him.. but then > that is making the external.. the cause .. not a thought.. What did you find that isn't a thought? > what about the next job? > Its been like this for years.. he has never liked any of his day > jobs.. is it the job or his thinking - he is still very much stuck.. Who's buisness is his being stuck? > and so am i.. Of course, when you are in his buisness. > Winning the lottery could help but he says he would be bored.. Oh, well! > I dont know of any katie tapes on anyone doing the work on work.. > yet.. but maybe there is one..I have heard the one from the guy who > plays in the opera and my husband is also a muscian and could relate.. > maybe we should listen to it again.. thanks for your suggestions.. > from everyone.. i love this group.. maybe i just need to do the work > more often..i also love monas website and info.. Its just putting it > into practice.. thanks ros Have fun, Ros. Love, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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